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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

I really don't care about your baby.

153 replies

50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:47

I'm in a taproom with a friend.

A couple arrived with their 32 day old baby. And 2 flights of beer.

They're talking very loudly about how baby is/isn't. They've already pulled 2 other tables into the conversation about their baby and feeding/sleeping/clothing/nappies.

My babies are adults. Friends babies are adults.

I know I wasn't this insufferable when mine were little. Friend says she wasn't either.

We both know we didn't go out drinking when baby was 32 days old.

Babies are really precious creatures. But only to their parents/family. Most people don't want to get drawn into a conversation about a strangers baby.

In essence, stop talking so loudly about your baby. The rest of us really don't care.

AIBU?

OP posts:
DoloresDelEriba · 09/04/2026 18:52

Who takes a baby to a taproom? I am speechless. And disgusted.

50nifty · 09/04/2026 18:53

And I'm missing the 🤣 option at several of your posts...

OP posts:
PyongyangKipperbang · 09/04/2026 18:58

DoloresDelEriba · 09/04/2026 18:52

Who takes a baby to a taproom? I am speechless. And disgusted.

Unclench!

You have never been on a walk with your baby and decided to stop at a nice pub somewhere for a pint? Because a pint each is all they are having, hardly the stuff of Shameless.

shutuporsaysomething · 09/04/2026 19:02

Well the baby talk would irritate me a bit if it was very loud but no more than anyone else being loud.

Really don’t understand the “how awful to go out and DRINK with a baby” crew. As long as you’re not pissed or letting your baby scream the place down what’s the problem? We used to do it quite a lot when my first was tiny - long walk with the pram, stop off at a nice pub for a pint and hope they stay asleep so you can have a chat (or actually talk about your baby) It’s very sweet really and a bit of treat after pregnancy, and the early days in the trenches with a newborn. I look back very fondly on that time because before you know it you are wrestling feral toddlers and wiping bottoms and getting stuck in the soft play tunnel and pub trips are a distant memory.

Taprooms selling flights of craft beer are v naice ime and tend to have lots of space. Good luck to them, buy yourself another flight OP!

BrickProblems · 09/04/2026 19:10

Voted YABU because whenever I took my little baby out to a pub to have a half or Sunday roast and a quiet chat with DP it felt like about 10% of the pub would insist on asking me questions about how old they were, what they were called, if they were sleeping etc. Friendly pub and I’m not complaining but when you bring a small baby out they inevitably draw attention from some.

MrDobbs · 09/04/2026 19:15

I wouldn't (and didn't) take a baby to the pub and do find other people's baby chat boring.

But people chat all sorts of boring non baby bollocks in pubs as well and as long as they don't try to force me into the conversation there isn't a lot to say. I am sure the conversations I have with my friends are boring to other people with different interests.

50nifty · 09/04/2026 19:18

BrickProblems · 09/04/2026 19:10

Voted YABU because whenever I took my little baby out to a pub to have a half or Sunday roast and a quiet chat with DP it felt like about 10% of the pub would insist on asking me questions about how old they were, what they were called, if they were sleeping etc. Friendly pub and I’m not complaining but when you bring a small baby out they inevitably draw attention from some.

Trust me, this was very much new parents attempting to pull anyone and everyone into their conversation.

Friend and I ignored.

Other tables bit

OP posts:
zigazigaaaing · 09/04/2026 19:21

You sound harsh and unreasonable and also a bit judgey tbh. Why don’t you just enjoy your beer with your friend and not let this annoy you. You should be happy for them and good on the. for getting out and about

Happytap · 09/04/2026 19:23

How miserable can you be? God forbid parents are in love with their new baby. No wonder parents feel so isolated and rates of PND soar when other people have this attitude to leaving the house with a baby.

In other countries babies are loved on and adored by the 'village' and here we have teachers no less moaning and ruining their own day because a couple with a new baby are out and about with her and gasp talking about her! Their whole life has changed beyond measure in a few weeks, of course they want to talk about it.

If you manage to be this miserable in the school hols whilst drinking I can't imagine how miserable you are the rest of the time. Maybe focus on yourself a bit more.

Reasonstobelieve · 09/04/2026 19:36

50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:47

I'm in a taproom with a friend.

A couple arrived with their 32 day old baby. And 2 flights of beer.

They're talking very loudly about how baby is/isn't. They've already pulled 2 other tables into the conversation about their baby and feeding/sleeping/clothing/nappies.

My babies are adults. Friends babies are adults.

I know I wasn't this insufferable when mine were little. Friend says she wasn't either.

We both know we didn't go out drinking when baby was 32 days old.

Babies are really precious creatures. But only to their parents/family. Most people don't want to get drawn into a conversation about a strangers baby.

In essence, stop talking so loudly about your baby. The rest of us really don't care.

AIBU?

I also have grown up children & if it was me I'd be smiling from ear to ear & secretly wishing I would be asked to help with comforting the baby if it was crying. Please dont assume everyone couldn't care less about other people's babies.

Three4 · 09/04/2026 19:41

Any kind of attention seeking or obnoxious behaviour is annoying, it’s not specific to babies really. YANBU to find it irritating. Then again, many of us probably didn’t realise and did similar.

It’s a sensitive thing for lots of people (pregnancy, babies) as well

weareallqueens · 09/04/2026 19:50

Aww, it’s cute - they’re still in the ‘we won’t change even though we’ve got kids now’ phase. ‘We’ll still go to the pub. Baby can fit in with OUR lifestyle, not the other way around’. They’ll learn. 😂

Pebblesonthebleach · 09/04/2026 19:54

This thread has made me want a flight of beer.

Ilovesandwiches · 09/04/2026 20:00

maybe just move away from them?

Snoopy51 · 09/04/2026 20:03

50nifty · 09/04/2026 16:56

Toilet!

And teachers on school holidays.

Here’s me thinking you worked all the way through the hols 😉

CinnamonJellyBeans · 09/04/2026 20:13

Pubs are social places. YABU to object

Other people's babies are not that interesting per se, but the joy that a new member of the species invokes, never gets old. It's nice to chat to proud new parents, reminisce about old times when your kids were tiny, or hear strangers chatting and bonding over something nice.

BogRollBOGOF · 09/04/2026 20:35

Performative people in broadcast mode are annoying, but 32 days into parenting is pretty forgivable in the grand scheme of things. 32 months would be different Grin

A taphouse tends to be a pretty civilised venue and a settled, young baby in feed/sleep mode is no bother. Mum's probably enjoying her first unfettered outing in 9+ months and new baby is a nice little window between the abstainence (and possibly health issues of pregnancy) and the years of Wacky Warehouse looming in the not-so-distant future.

JLou08 · 09/04/2026 20:56

I find people who have to talk negatively about others they come into contact with are usually the most boring. They usually do it because they have nothing of interest in their own life to discuss.

Charlize43 · 09/04/2026 21:08

You need to stop focusing on the baby and move onto spirits. Go to the bar and order a round of tequila slammers for your table. Then bring on the Jägermeisters...

I can guarantee you, you'll soon forget about the baby (and everything else).

Dontlletmedownbruce · 09/04/2026 21:08

weareallqueens · 09/04/2026 19:50

Aww, it’s cute - they’re still in the ‘we won’t change even though we’ve got kids now’ phase. ‘We’ll still go to the pub. Baby can fit in with OUR lifestyle, not the other way around’. They’ll learn. 😂

Or possibly, we've been through such a tough couple of weeks with a difficult baby who has finally settled and we are marking the occasion. We've made it through the most difficult part of parenting unscathed. 😂 bless them

keepswimming38 · 09/04/2026 21:12

My DH loves to talk to anyone about their babies. It reminds him of our girls when they were babies. I just roll my eyes when he starts up these conversations.

50nifty · 09/04/2026 21:18

BogRollBOGOF · 09/04/2026 20:35

Performative people in broadcast mode are annoying, but 32 days into parenting is pretty forgivable in the grand scheme of things. 32 months would be different Grin

A taphouse tends to be a pretty civilised venue and a settled, young baby in feed/sleep mode is no bother. Mum's probably enjoying her first unfettered outing in 9+ months and new baby is a nice little window between the abstainence (and possibly health issues of pregnancy) and the years of Wacky Warehouse looming in the not-so-distant future.

I don't think wacky warehouse still exists, thank the lord.

That was a special sort of hell I'd never want to repeat.

OP posts:
Agamede · 09/04/2026 21:30

So a flight is three little glasses of beer- one for the baby too maybe?

Isn’t that part of the point of pubs? They are a social place where you can meet and speak with people. Sure, sometimes we are with a friend or want to keep ourselves to ourselves, but a conversation with a friendly stranger about the matters of the day is part of the point.

I’m sure they don’t mean to be annoying. Maybe it’s benevolent just to cut a couple of exhausted, besotted and possibly rather overwhelmed parents some slack on this occasion?

I love babies and am always up for a conversation about a random baby’s habits, so much the better if it’s in a lovely pub and the baby is available for public viewings. Conversations about puppies obviously preferable, but babies will do in the absence of a young Labrador.

TheCurious0range · 09/04/2026 21:37

therewasafishinthepercolator · 09/04/2026 17:04

Why wouldn't you just have a halfpint or a pint? Are they not perfectly accepted measures of beer? I don't care about the baby. I want to know about this flight business.

It's so you can taste different beers, I quite like it I don't always have room for 3 pints but a flight gives me 3 drinks to try, or better yet 2 flights gives you 6!

Fwiw I once had a flight of gin, 5 gins a variety of botanicals mix and match, I was hammered, I don't even really like gin but it was fancy and fun

pictoosh · 09/04/2026 21:47

Aw 32 days old...they're experiencing baby euphoria together. Insufferable for you, yes...but they're just so chuffed with their baby.
Doesn't last. Sleep deprivation tends to dampen one's euphoria eventually.
Bless them the fools.

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