to think that the term "Bastard Children" is not and never will an acceptable way to talk

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about a child born out of wedlock.

Just wondering as another poster on Mumsnet seems to think that it is.

And I don t give a fark if I am telling tales. As a "bastard child" of the seventies it hit me hard that someone would still use that term especially on Mumsnet.

on mumsnet?

fgs

not nice

Ooh, blimey, I have one of those.

How odd.

Is this the 1950's then?

Thats what I said in response to the post.

I had one too - was shocked at my wedding when he was 10 months old that people commented on making him legitimate.

Link please. Is there some way that this poster thinks it is amusing? Is s/he being self deprecating?

How utterly old fashioned. What a nasty, pointless thing to say.

Which thread?

It's one of the reasons, in fact, I don't want to get married - I really don't want people to think it is somehow about making my darling daughters better.

no, not acceptable.

I would be livid if someone spoke about my children like that.

This word was used to describe DS1 by his step-granddad when we announced our engagement. I do hope he was equally offended when i called him a C**t!

Does getting married un-bastardify your children?

certianly not on MN. It is an historically accurate term though, so depends on context.

agree wholeheartedly MI.

Historically it was always used as mentioned...if used now as referring to a child then it is awful it is often used in another context these days too though isnt it i.e. not in relation to the parents marital status. Sorry I cant think of an example but I know I have heard it.

Totally unacceptable and disgusting really.

oh and children born outside of marriage are now included in Debrett's (or is it Burke's? one of the two) thus doubling DH's family's records

(i didn't really though, i just wish i had) I think the fact MIL threatened to leave him over it was enough for him to know it was totally unacceptable.

I saw that too, on the Big Brother thread. Horrible, offensive terminology.

When I was first pregnant, my mother had a tantrum over the fact that her grandchild would be a bastard, would inevitably be bullied at school, and how could she (mother) ever look her friends in the face again. I've never quite managed to forgive her for that

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Poster responded saying it is still the current term for children born out of wedlock and she has a child who was three when she married. Sorry I still don t think it acceptable used in this context.

As someone who is currently gestating just suuch a child, I find the term so unacceptable as to be hilarious (although totally understand why someone who had had it used against them would not find it so).

I would just dismiss anyone who used the term as definitely not my type.

YANBU

tis old fashioned, nasty and unnecessary.

Not a nice term if levelled at a child or used as a slang insult.

I think you are overreacting to the post though.

I had already trawled the thread before you posted the link, so to save others the time:

Poster was referring to someone on BB:

"and if she is such a good muslim, i am quite sure the quoran does not advocate underage sex and bastard children"

big brother gawd so avoided it and glad for it

its from a thomas hardy novel innit...
this sort of thinking / terminology went out a long time ago,non?