to think that the term "Bastard Children" is not and never will an acceptable way to talk

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about a child born out of wedlock.

Just wondering as another poster on Mumsnet seems to think that it is.

And I don t give a fark if I am telling tales. As a "bastard child" of the seventies it hit me hard that someone would still use that term especially on Mumsnet.

mmm well i have two of those then...and have no intention of getting married. I thought it was pretty common nowadays!

i thouht it was just a word which would then negate 'out of wedlock'

bastard child - says it all

not a phrase i would use - i prefer 'little shit' - i dont care about parents marriage details.

Well I would never have had children without being married I guess its my upbringing but I felt that if a man didnt have the committment to me to get married then he was unlikely to have the long term committment that having children would demand. Having said that it wasnt the be all and end all to my life that I have children at all

But as an aetheist and in the scheme of things I really dont think a childs parents being married is important is it...far more important that they are good parents, teaching good personal values than they spend thousands on a day where everyone wears silly clothes and gets pissed!!

I cant imagine anyone I know ever using that term in relation to a child.

you should mention in op that you are referring to a 'big brother' thread which is offensive in itself.

Yes I posted to the link SG. She was referring to Alex and her child when she said this.

I have no idea who she was referring to, I don't watch crap BB.

Good for you. Still not acceptable to refer to a child as a bastard child IMO.

i find it more offensive that you are all sitting slack jawed watching a room of numpties scratch their arse.

[said while slack jawed on mumsnet!]

Having said that I cant imagine that anyone who would waste time on a big brother thread is at the top of the tree when it comes to intelligence anyway.

Whilst I did watch earlier series I look on it now as the modern version of the freakshow that they had at the fair in the past "ohh lets get the most disfunctional damaged people we can find, encourage everyone to laugh at them and make money out of them" All they need is a bearded lady.

Ooh sarcasm, how nice.

I'm not sure there's much sting left in the term now though is there? I was born in 1970 and I'm not sure how much sting there was then, although I suspect my mum had a bit of a harder time than my sister is having in a similar situation.

Unpleasant way to talk though. Would make me raise my eyebrows in a RL conversation.

oh well i have 2 of those and am on my own. doubly naughty girl!!
i dont like the term as to me its caling my children little shits or such like!
i dont hold much stock on getting married (obviously) as even if you are married things can still go wrong and you could end up on your own. i dont see that it gives you anymore security.
that said would love the posh dress and big party someday

Doesn't matter where it was said surely? If its offensive its offensive and just ignoring it because we think that the fact something was said on a Big Brother thread makes it not worth noticing is just wrong imo.

I did take it up with njm. I posted there first. I am offended by your post and I think you sound unbelievably ignorant yourself.

Rude??? Tough.

I think it's a perfectly valid point to make on a separate thread btw.

Thank you EP. I do too. I have been thinking about it all morning. So it is not like I rushed off and did it straight away to start a bun fight. This has really upset me.

It doesn't matter where it was said, no. It does matter how it was said.

The poster was referring to someone else (who happened to be on TV) and used the word in context.

I commented that I don't watch BB to explain that I wasn't aware that the person on TV was, in turn, referring to someone else (confused? you will be!)

Whatever. I think you were rude in starting this thread.

Off to work, so slate me if you want but don't expect any replies.

not just..I wasnt on your thread so I wasnt commenting on that just as a response to this one.

But would you imagine her children are going through enough having the kind of fluffy idiot mother who would abandon them to go on big brother without people who dont know them insulting them? I appreciate you were commenting on the mother but in doing so you insulted the children which isnt fair.

The poster was referring to an actual person with an actual "bastard child". That makes it offensive to me. However unpleasant the person she was referring to.

I agree with EP.
This topic deserves proper discussion and has no place on a big brother thread.