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What's some --more-- juicy gossip that you can't share irl but can share with nosy strangers on mumsnet?

586 replies

mumofoneAloneandwell · 08/04/2026 21:37

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The follow up thread to my one from last year 🤭

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Candy24 · 09/04/2026 21:31

murphys · 09/04/2026 20:46

Ooh I have one.

I have told my best friend, but haven't told anyone else because I don't want people to think I'm spreading rumors.

So my exh had an affair with his work assistant. He left me after 20 year marriage to be with her. She was married too and left her h. They since got married and make out they have the perfect life.
She was well known at the work, yes in that way, as had multiple affairs with multiple men there.
I have a mutual friend who works at the same place and he is a nice looking lad.
Their work had a conference and they all had to stay over at the attached hotel.
I saw him recently and he said he had something to tell me, but I had to promise not to repeat it.
He was getting ready in his hotel room and there was a knock at the door. It was my exh new wife. She asked if she could come in and he hesitated asking why. While talking he said she was wearing leggings type trousers and kept pulling them up, showing off a severe camel toe. Then she asked again if he was sure he didn't want her to come in. Anyway it was very obvious that she was after a possible shag, he said no and she replied with 'your loss'. The awkward thing was though he said, was my ex was also at that conference.

So of course the first thing I did after finding out, was to phone my friend to tell her as keeping a secret doesn't include not telling her 😂

So now if this is true, which I suspect it is, is my cheating exh now being cheated on too....? As if she is going around proposing herself like that to random men, she is doing to to others too, right ?

Is this Karma?

Ultimate justice may he find out he has an STI….and yes your friend doesn’t count as telling someone lol

Kalanthe · 09/04/2026 21:38

My aunt is a headteacher at a secondary school and the number of teachers having affairs with each other is mind boggling. Even the school nurse and the IT guy who are at the school only part-time. They are all married of course

CuteOrangeElephant · 09/04/2026 21:39

My great aunt has two sons who don't speak to eachother anymore. I got the story from my aunt (they are her cousins).

Apparently one of them was having a secret affair with his brother's wife. Imagine when that came out, I don't think you could ever have a normal family get together again.

Cowcurtains · 09/04/2026 21:41

A previous, engaged male colleague kept sending me suggestive texts and pics after we both left the company we met at. Ashamed to say I didn’t tell him to stop, I found it amusing if anything as they’d just randomly arrive if we were messaging. He stopped for a few months around the wedding but then continued on and off for about 10 years. During this time they tried and tried for kids, eventually had a child through IVV. His wife tags him in everything on FB and the only reason I haven’t said anything is that she loves him so much and is so blissfully happy in her little family.

NeedingASafeSpace · 09/04/2026 21:45

When I was younger and had a boyfriend I went on his laptop to find a film (we used to watch our film on his laptop in his bedroom) his search history was “gay porn” not “lesbian porn” or just “porn” but “gay porn” …..

Periperi2025 · 09/04/2026 21:56

I reported a senior male colleague for sexually harrasing a student and he got sacked, a handful of my colleagues know but i am delibrately very guarded about telling male colleagues when really I want to shout it from the rooftops so any other pervs/pests at work (and there are plenty) know they aren't safe.

wakeupshakeupmakeup · 09/04/2026 21:57

user1497787065 · 09/04/2026 06:14

I had a friend whose goddaughter turned out to be her husbands daughter.

This is horrendous!

StrictlyCoffee · 09/04/2026 22:10

My husband has just inherited enough for us to pay off our mortgage. It feels sly in a way keeping it quiet but it also feels like his information to share and not mine

Sassandballs · 09/04/2026 22:14

My DA fell pregnant and my DM found her giving birth in the bathroom, this was early 1960's. The baby was adopted by another DA, the oldest DS in the family. The child a boy, he was never told of his real parents until he started shagging his half sister, thinking they were just cousins, yack. I am not sure that they know the truth to be honest and neither do his DW and DC.

Janblues28 · 09/04/2026 22:22

I thought the new "American" school mum seemed out of place having moved abroad. Like she stepped out of Selling sunset. So I looked her up on instagram and she was on a very well known American reality TV show and known for being in a throuple with a celeb. She doesn't know I know and no one else at school has any idea. Really like her though, she's great fun to be around.

Cowcurtains · 09/04/2026 22:25

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NotAnotherScarf · 09/04/2026 22:30

Sillycake · 09/04/2026 21:11

what drives a person to what sex that much ?

Well for a man a biological need to spread his genes. Sadly for a woman (in my experience) a deep seated lack of confidence meaning that her only validation is if men want her.

Oh and most men are pathetic dicks.

Another one I've debated sharing...a friend of mine's father is a convicted flasher... actually been in trouble several times....years ago. The wife divorced him because of it when my mate was young. My mate idolises his dad and no ones ever told him.

I know because my parents were friends of my mates grandparents.

Cismyfatarse · 09/04/2026 22:40

OneNewEagle · 09/04/2026 16:14

Truly awful. The poor child.

my dad also had affairs and a second family. We’ve never recovered as a family, we never will. I would never cover up something like this. You are all as guilty as your sister imho.

Not sure how. We all abhor it and I haven’t seen her for 8 years. She doesn’t know that I know. We don’t know the Dad - nothing beyond his first name and that he lives in or near Manchester. We hate it particularly as my Dad blew up our family - although my Mum stayed with him knowing about his affairs because this was very different times. (He had a 2nd family). I just stay well away from the whole toxic mess of my entire family. I live an unremarkable life in a different country.

PracticalPolicy · 09/04/2026 23:04

My husband's ex-wife moved to Spain with another man after they divorced. He was a bigamist. She found out about a week before she would have been his third current wife.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/04/2026 23:11

Anotherlurkingmale · 09/04/2026 14:38

Next door neighbours, a married couple in late 30s with 2 young kids, nice quiet family, the wife is leader of local council and v ambitious, likely to stand as MP somewhere by time of next election probably. A few months ago we noticed another guy around there all the time - they were having work done and assumed he was a handyman. Next thing we know husband has moved out and 'handyman' - definitely 'bit of rough' type has started staying overnight for weekends.

Do you reckon it'll affect her chances? Is she trying to clean his image up? 😄

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 09/04/2026 23:13

HaveCreditWillShop · 09/04/2026 14:42

Can I say if you like that kind of thing, consider genealogy as a hobby. You’ve got to use lateral thought, be forensic in your approach, and be absolutely insanely good at logic puzzles - and then you have to get creative - spot the lies, the coverups the inconsistencies and the skeletons. It’s like a massive CSI left brain right brain mash up! Think you’d like it!

I'm unable to do these things 😩😩

Rubbish at logic puzzles

Will have to carry on being nosy

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RawBloomers · 09/04/2026 23:18

Starlight1979 · 09/04/2026 08:59

I mean, that's not really juicy gossip is it. Just you being judgemental and presumptuous. Why on earth would she tell her neighbour that she drinks?! And how do you know it's her who drank it all?!

She’s putting 3 empty spirits bottles in a neighbour’s bin just before pick up, rather than her own and not as an isolated thing. That’s a classic alcoholic’s attempt to hide the evidence.

AcrossthePond55 · 09/04/2026 23:22

'Really old' gossip as my family is incredibly boring these days.

My great x 3 grandmother on my Dad's side was a servant in my great x 3 grandfather's house and became pregnant by him. He was 26 years older than she was so he was in his late 40s and she her early 20s when she got pregnant. Their eldest daughter was born before they married. No one can really say why they didn't marry before the birth. My 2 x grandmother was born after their marriage.

FishPie2 · 09/04/2026 23:23

RawBloomers · 09/04/2026 23:18

She’s putting 3 empty spirits bottles in a neighbour’s bin just before pick up, rather than her own and not as an isolated thing. That’s a classic alcoholic’s attempt to hide the evidence.

Don't know what the bin men or any body else thinks who looks in my glass bin and sees it full of bottles every week. I live on my own and the lads next door use it but nobody but us knows.

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 09/04/2026 23:36

Mintchocs · 09/04/2026 06:59

If shes your SIL doesnt that mean her husbands brother is another sibling of your DH? How on earth could you manage to keep quiet?!

… what?
SIL - either your brother’s wife OR the sister of your husband OR as obviously not in this case, the spouse of your spouse’s sibling
If you say your SIL is having an affair with her husband’s brother:

  1. if she is the wife of OP’s brother, then the “husband’s brother” would be a brother to OP, not her DH. Wouldn’t OP have mentioned this?
  2. if it’s OP’s DH’s sister (only plausible scenario), then SIL’s husband is just a random, unrelated bloke - the “husband’s brother” would not be related to anyone.
  3. I assume it’s not the spouse of OP’s DH’s sibling, because only then would SIL’s husband’s brother also be OP’s DH’s brother, and again, I definitely think OP would have mentioned this.
Am I missing something? (I understand I might be! Rough day here.)
Verycivilbiker · 09/04/2026 23:39

honeylulu · 09/04/2026 10:27

I agree it sounds implausible but I believe the friend/hostess who witnessed it. She really isn't a bullshitter or shitstirrer, she's very "call a spade a spade" and get things out in the open, so I really don't think she could have made it up. Her instinct was to tell his ex (our friend) but hesitated and asked us (the other friends) what we thought and we agreed there was no benefit in her knowing.

Yes he was/is an ostensibly straight man, very flirty with women, a bit of a philanderer which is why I was so shocked. Not someone I expected to be interested in willies at all. But from other comments on my post it seems this isn't unknown for ladies men types. I've obviously led a very sheltered life!

"Any holes a goal" for those types 😳

BlueEyedBogWitch · 09/04/2026 23:40

Pebblesonthebleach · 08/04/2026 22:59

I know someone who was the innocent spouse in this kind of situation, believing the child was his until he discovered the truth. It was utterly, unalterably devastating for him - it sent him on a very destructive spiral and he’s not the same person any longer. It was awful to witness.

Edited

I knew a family that imploded when the dad came to realise that two out of his three kids weren’t in fact his.

He got DNA tests without the mum knowing, and that was that.

CotswoldsCamilla · 09/04/2026 23:44

Friend of mine is a human rights lawyer. Does a lot of pro bono work. There was a high profile case a few years back which made headlines globally on account of what the perpetrator did to a young child. Said child has been left with life changing injuries. My friend was his defence lawyer. She was pregnant at the time and was chilled by the complete lack of remorse he displayed.

HoppityBun · 09/04/2026 23:48

BunnyLake · 09/04/2026 15:10

Do they live in the Appalachian mountains?

Obviously not, because the father told them to stop

Dancingintherain09 · 09/04/2026 23:51

My brother isn't my brother he's my cousin.....

My mum and dad split when I was young, dad moved on and remarried. He and his wife had my "half brother" turns out out she had an affair with my uncle (dad's brother). "Brother" doesn't know.

I don't have anything to do with Dad (he's a narcissist, but that's a different story) and have "brother" on my Facebook... I just haven't found the words to tell him, my dad never will.