to think that if young children are having full on tantrums outside, they should be taken indoors?

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My next door neighbours have a couple of toddlers who play a lot in their garden. I’m not expecting silence and normal playing, laughing, even the odd cry doesn’t bother me.

But what’s starting to really grate is that when the tantrums kick off, they just leave them outside. These aren’t quick little moments either, it’s full screaming, crying, shouting, going on and on. Sometimes the parents are out there but just let it carry on, other times they actually go back inside and leave the kids out there still in the middle of it.

Even when they’re just “playing” it’s very loud, lots of screaming rather than normal chatter, but I’ve tried to ignore that because kids are kids. It’s the tantrums being left to play out in the garden that I’m struggling with.

It feels a bit unfair that everyone else has to listen to prolonged screaming when it could just be taken inside and dealt with there. I wouldn’t mind nearly as much if they at least brought them in once it escalates.

I also don’t feel like I can just have a quiet word with them as we’ve had issues over parking in the past, so it’s not exactly a comfortable or friendly situation.

Why should she have to listen to all that noise,it's bad mannered and anti social, drag the child inside kicking and screaming and deal with it like responsible parents.
Iam great fun with a wicked sense of humour, but wouldn't tolerate a minute of this shit show

as a parent of three kids who fight a lot - you are NOT being unreasonable. Leaving them to tantrum and fight outside to the extent where the rest of the neighbourhood has to put up with it is antisocial and people who disagree are (IMO) entitled and selfish. My kids arguing / screaming drives me up the bloody wall…if I had to listen to all our neighbours kids as well I’d lose it.

mine often go outside to play on the trampoline then 5 mins later they are bickering and 7 mins later it’s turned into screaming and fighting. They get a verbal warning first and if they can’t sort it out between them then 1 min later they are bought inside. I can’t believe this very basic parenting is being seen as something unnecessary

YANBU id always bring mine in when the were kicking off. Both school age and one with ND so they are loud silly play and shouting whilst jumping on trampoline. Always watching them and in room out looking garden. I speak to them about a reasonable amount of noise and conscious if they are getting too loud to get them in for a while. I do feel bad as I know I’d find it annoying if it wasn’t my kid. If only I could afford to live in middle of nowhere

We do not allow our children to scream and shout outside. If they are having a tantrum or are loudly arguing then they are made to go inside, as it is not fair on everyone else having to listen to it and we make that very clear to the child. They need to learn that their behaviour has an impact on other people and it is not okay to negatively impact on others for no good reason. This also extends to how they are playing. Children can be loud but if they are shouting and playing obnoxiously loudly then they are pulled up on that and it is repeatedly explained why. Yes they can have fun, but part of parenting is teaching them to have an awareness of others. We want to be good neighbours and raise conscientious children. The chuck them outside and let them do what they want type of people are selfish. It makes the locals miserable and the children can learn to behave without it being a negative thing for them.

If only there were not a solution to that of going to an actual place of work instead of expecting neighbours to be quiet so youcan work. Or putting headphones on. Easily resolved.

Have you had kids or are you just coming here to tell parents off? As clearly you are talking out of your arse.

Hahahahaha sure. Why would I want a screaming child INSIDE my house? Do you think in the heat of the moment I am thinking about my Karen neighbours?

In pain 😂😂

When your relationship with neighbours breaks down nothing is tolerable. As someone says they won’t be toddlers long but also the neighbours won’t be worrying about the effect the noise of their kids has on you at any age and stage. That’s why it’s best to pick your battles!

Thank you for being a considerate parent.

If the tantrum was being dealt with, I wouldn't mind!

I have AuDHD and hyperacusis is part of that.

Not sure why that is so hilarious Do you find people’s medical conditions funny generally?

Lovely bit of misogynistic posting there

I am discussing something on a public forum. Not sure why it is necessary for you to post something so nasty.

Lol, yes if you have lost the use of your arms then it's almost impossible.

You pick up and take inside

and read your latest reply @Octavia64 add in time out /cooling off time for biting

or do you just leave your child outside having a paddy incase they bite you ?

I think you’re both a bit unreasonable. The neighbours should be conscious of the noise but similarly a toddler having a tantrum is totally normal and it’s you that finds it a problem. I wonder why people live so close to others when it doesn’t align with what they are prepared to tolerate. If you have neighbours close enough that you can hear their kids playing in the garden you really do need to accept that you’ll hear them regularly or you need to move.

Crying is fine in moderation. Full on tantrum, no. Be a considerate neighbour and take them indoors.

I dont know why anyone bothers posting on MN anymore. If you say loud children annoy you, you are called a child hater and told to suck it up. If op had posted that her neighbours were complaining about her own crying dc, then she would be called selfish, an unfit mother, etc. Basically whatever you ask you are in the wrong!

a lot of my colleagues are “virtual first” and don’t actually have a place of work. Nevertheless it’s 2026 and a significant proportion of people work, at least partially, from home.

whether we are working or relaxing, we shouldn’t have to receive constant noise from our neighbours, whether it’s kids screaming or (my) dogs barking!

YANBU. Toddlers have tantrums, of course, that’s not their fault, but parents can try and reduce the impact it has on other people. My daughter had her fair share of tantrums and if she was in the garden, in a restaurant, or other public space, I’d move her somewhere away from other people. It’s just basic courtesy.

She also knows not to scream while playing in the garden - I would bring her inside if she did it and now she never does. Our neighbours kids are big screamers - I have zero issue with the sound of kids playing normally, but the non stop screaming is so bad, we can’t sit outside in the summer. Their parents just shut the back door and leave them to it.

The best way to deal with a tantrum is to ignore it. Suck the oxygen out of the room...If it happens in the garden so be it. I think you are being unreasonable expecting parent to think about neighbours whilst having to cope with a tantruming child. It's very stressful.

They go inside their house leaving the tantrumming toddlers outside.

We’re on mumsnet. Fairly good chance the OP is a woman.

Mine is 17kg which is the weight of a decent holiday suitcase and when he is trashing around its difficult without hurting back do i wouldnt force him to move just for the sake of neighbours for two mins