AIBU to think shorts are not wedding guest attire abroad?

[Weryj]

We are attending an abroad wedding in the summer (Greek island - at a resort rather than on a beach).

DH intends to where chino style shorts and a short sleeve shirt!

I have told him that whenever I’ve seen photos of men attending abroad weddings, they are still wearing a suit/trousers.

I am worried he will look ridiculous! He insists this is appropriate attire…AIBU to disagree?

Well it rather depends on the wedding. What is the dress code?
That said if someone expected me to spend a load of money and schlep off to a Greek island for their wedding I’d feel inclined to wear what I wanted.

Deffo the thing in Bermuda. Ask about the dress code.

My wedding was abroad. Some guests contacted us in advance and I was more than happy to tell the men they can happily wear "smart shorts". I would say that maybe 10% of the men wore chino style shorts but they were all under 35.

I have been to 2 other abroad weddings since. One of them there were a good few in shorts (again probably all late twenties / early 30s) but the other wedding was an absolute no go for shorts. It really depends on attitude of the couple. I would be very laid back about style as was my friend, the 2nd couple would be very upmarket.

My friend got married in Cyprus. The groom & best man plus the couples sons wore matching shorts. Almost all the male guests were in shorts. 💁🏻‍♀️

why not ask the groom/other guests what they're wearing.

But why would it worry you? If he wants to wear them he is old enough too

I've seen loads of weddings abroad where the men are wearing smart shorts and shirts.

But the obvious thing here would be to ask the bride and groom.

You can get some very smart chino style shorts with matching waistcoats in a light linen fabric. Perfect for a summer wedding in a Mediterranean country I say!

Last abroad wedding i was at had one person in shorts. Take smart shorts but maybe have a backup pair of trousers and try and suss out if anyone else in the group is wearing shorts before making a grand entrance.

My non-blood relative who was wearing shorts looked so out of place 🤣.

My DS, 11, wore shorts to a wedding

Sounds fine to me.

@Weryj I’d be disappointed if anyone wore shorts to my wedding. My nephew wore a short sleeve white shirt with trousers and tie and I hate seeing the short sleeved shirt in the photos. It just seemed too casual for my wedding and as if no effort, to dress-up, was made. I wish I had stipulated a dress code.

You should definitely ask the bride if you’re not sure. The groom won’t probably care.

I saw a photo on FB of a friend’s husband in shorts (and trainers) at a UK summer wedding, think it was on a farm of some sorts, and he looked completely ridiculous standing next to his well-dressed wife and suited teenage sons.

As long as you aren't a Greek native (my family are) as they would be horrified 😬
As a tourist, it's individual choice.
Not for me though.

Ask the couple what’s expected

You need to grow up a bit.

Greece in summer? Sounds like a shorts situation to me!
But, yes, ask about the dress code if you're already feeling vicarious mortification on behalf of your DH.

It depends on the dress code / the couple’s style. I’m going to my Greek sister’s wedding in shorts next year. It’s also on a Greek island! I’m also probs wearing Birkenstocks too. It’s not me getting married!!!

We went to a Cyprus wedding. All the men were in shorts and linen shirts. They all looked smart and it was a happy day. It was also 40 degrees so trousers would have been very uncomfortable.

Shorts sound comfortable and perfectly smart enough to me.
Any men in a full suit will likely be deeply jealous and turning to their own wives saying, ‘See! I could have worn shorts. I am so bloody hot’.
Check with the couple if you suspect they will want a high level
of formality.

If this isn't a parody post then you're being ridiculous. I didn't care what anyone wore to my wedding, I just wanted a nice day that everyone enjoyed.

Stipulating a dress code is really rude. And if it's a colour based one it's also really tacky.

😂

Fair enough! I’ve always just dressed appropriately for each occasion, so my bar is set for everyone else to manage to do the same, or just don’t attend if they can’t be bothered to.

It’s fine. It’ll be boiling hot.

You are projecting your own very narrow definition of appropriate onto other people and pretending it's some universal law.

I went to one recently and the dress-code was black-tie. I didn’t think it was rude. Their photos looked amazing. Their wedding, their choice!

Don’t like it, don’t come.

My nephew wore a short sleeve white shirt with trousers and tie and I hate seeing the short sleeved shirt in the photos

I am fascinated that people focus on petty stuff like this rather than happy memories of their big day.