AIBU to think shorts are not wedding guest attire abroad?

[Weryj]

We are attending an abroad wedding in the summer (Greek island - at a resort rather than on a beach).

DH intends to where chino style shorts and a short sleeve shirt!

I have told him that whenever I’ve seen photos of men attending abroad weddings, they are still wearing a suit/trousers.

I am worried he will look ridiculous! He insists this is appropriate attire…AIBU to disagree?

If he's making the effort to go all the way to Greece to attend someone else's wedding then surely that means he can wear what he wants. Smart shorts sound fine. If I thought the bride/groom was going to care more about what I wore rather than the fact I was attending I wouldn't be going in the first place.

Depends on the wedding and the dress code. We went to a wedding abroad where the groom, best man and groomsmen all wore suit shorts with matching waistcoats and shirts. If the wedding party's in shorts, surely the guests can be too.

Some hot country weddings could be black tie or formal or garden party or whatever - find out from the couple what the dress code is.

All that said, when I lived in a hot country, men wore trousers all the time. Men wear trousers in hot countries all around the world. Just make sure they're loose, lightweight, natural fibre and they can be cooler and more comfortable than a pair of formal shorts.

Most Greek and men from other European countries would never dream of wearing shorts to a formal occasion, or anywhere other than the beach

Perhaps that's because they are used to the heat in a way that we are not - or have 'weather appropriate' suits, such as linen.

I think if guests are shelling out to travel all the way to Greece in the summer, when it's going to be very hot, it's fine for them to wear what they want, as long as they look smart - and that includes smart shorts. It's not fair to expect them to go to more expense to pay out for a linen suit.

If I had chosen to get married abroad, I would just be happy that guests were able to make it - I certainly wouldn't be overly bothered about how they were dressed. I'd want my guests to be happy, and comfortable.

I would think it would be too hot to wear formal wear trousers in Greece in the summer. Shorts sounds sensible.

I probably would not even feel I could go to Greece in summer heat wise

Sounds fine for a beach/resort wedding. If it was in a church then I do think full length trousers would be expected. Orthodox church expects shoulders and knees to be covered for both sexes.

I've seen resort weddings in Mauritius, the Caribbean and the Canaries and there was a mix of smart outfits and more beachy outfits and neither looked out of place to me.

The only time I've been surprised by someone's wedding outfit was at a friend's wedding in the UK. Her SIL and niece (Swiss) turned up in matching black velour Juicy tracksuits. The SIL seemed a bit taken aback when she saw the other female guests in long colourful dresses and said no one dresses up for weddings and christenings in Switzerland, though her husband (friend's brother) was in black tie which should have been a bit of a clue! I have to say I've never been to a wedding in Switzerland so no idea if that's actually true or not.

He’s an adult. He can choose his own outfit.
If my OH tried to tell me my outfit choice wasn’t appropriate he’d get a sharp reply!

Have been to weddings in Denmark people literally wore their everyday jeans and sweaters.

Put him in a kilt, he get's the wind on the Trossachs and he looks smart.
Problem solved.

When DH and I used to live in a sub-tropical climate he wore shorts to weddings, no-one batted an eyelid.

If you know anyone going from UK or that country, I'd ask them what they are wearing. I would be a bit embarrassed to be with the only shorts wearer in the Village at a wedding where all other males were wearing trousers!

He can buy lightweight trousers, as I'm sure he knows. Sounds to me like he is just winding you up deliberately.

Winding the OP up deliberately?
Shorts at weddings abroad is extremely common... why would that be classed as a windup? 🙄

My sister doesn’t mind what I wear but our mum is absolutely horrified 🤣 She’s still thinking I’ll cave and wear a long dress or something and she’s definitely convinced my partner will be wearing a suit and dress shoes 😬 I think all the Greeks invited will be horrified but I’ve long decided I will never again buy special clothes for special occasions so it’ll have to be whatever I have in my wardrobe. I’m not wearing joggers, I’ll look nice hopefully, but my kind of nice ✌🏻🤓

She’s allowed to have a very valid opinion, especially about what she would expect at her own wedding. Some of you are just too cool for words. The world will always have rules and dress codes and social standards whether or not you like it.

Was at a wedding last week in South France and men were indeed wearing chino shorts!

absolutely fine if worn with closed shoes and a shirt (assuming dress code doesn’t state long trousers).

cut off jeans and flip flops are not ok

My brother got married abroad last year, the only person in shorts was DS (7) , he was in the wedding and in linen shorts, waistcoat and a shirt/tie he did have leather sandals on that he already had, he looked lovely. The men in the bridal party had full trousers but the same material

If guests were paying a lot of money to attend my wedding abroad I wouldn’t care what they wore. I’d much rather people be comfortable than close to passing out in a full suit because of the heat.

Ohhh... I must have missed the training day when we were all told that LoveOwnCompany made the rules on what everyone can or cannot wear.

Glad you cleared that up. Here I was stupidly thinking people had rights and minds / styles of their own.

I have been to a Greek wedding at the end of summer about 4 years ago. It was unbelievably hot- they were serving chilled water outside the church and the priest shortened the service - Greek weddings with lots of priests can go on for hours. I can't recall a single man wearing shorts though I don't think the men were in suits because it was just so hot. It really needed natural fibres.

Some good points made.

That’s what they said about everyone in offices having to wear shirts and ties. And indeed about people going to the office.

She did the dress code. So not sure why you brought it up in the first place.

No one said they ruined the image. You’re adding your own words.

🙄 Yes... my words...! That's generally how you form a sentence by adding words. Well done!

They wore fascinators. It was a very very hot day, the women wore light elegant knee length or long dresses and the men, summer coloured suits. Everyone looked fabulous, bar one!