AIBU to think shorts are not wedding guest attire abroad?

[Weryj]

We are attending an abroad wedding in the summer (Greek island - at a resort rather than on a beach).

DH intends to where chino style shorts and a short sleeve shirt!

I have told him that whenever I’ve seen photos of men attending abroad weddings, they are still wearing a suit/trousers.

I am worried he will look ridiculous! He insists this is appropriate attire…AIBU to disagree?

Does your dress have long sleeves?

I went to a suits wedding in Greece in the summer and people were close to passing out even in the shade.

You'd have needed smelling salts at my wedding. A friend turned up in a hoodie and jeans. I was delighted to see her 😁

DH worn linen shorts at a Caribbean wedding as did many of the men, including the groom. They looked perfect and very appropriate for a hot weather location. I wore a sundress.

Sorry OP, but I think males over the age of around 10 look juvenile if they wear shorts to a wedding or in any setting other than the beach or at a resort. It is a wedding, a formal occasion, men should take some pride in their appearance and dress like an actual men, not some slovenly Brit abroad or a bizarre cosplay of Little Lord Fauntelroy.

Most Greek and men from other European countries would never dream of wearing shorts to a formal occasion, or anywhere other than the beach. Just look at pictures of Greek weddings, they are formal occasions where everyone is dressed to impress. The only time I could think it would ever be acceptable would be a super casual Carribbean beach wedding, where the groom has confirmed they are also wearing shorts.

We Brits are certainly not internationally renowned for our fashion sense. I spent some time in Argentina and I was told by locals that all of the "gringos" can always be identified as they are always wearing shorts, whilst the local men dress properly and wear trousers. A foolproof way to spot the British or American tourist in a European city centre in the evening is to spot the adult men who are sunburnt and wearing shorts inappropriately.

No but I may have to wear a shawl over the top for church. I wouldn’t always, but it’s my family’s village and I don’t want to embarrass them. I can’t believe I’m 60+ saying this, but it’s just easier to not have backlash.

Who said he was a child?

They were dressed appropriately.

If you have ridiculous standards and control issues, you should set that out in the invitation. "We want you to be part of our special day, celebrating love, but only if you are in a Black Tie Tux with shiny shoes with matching socks and a fresh trim. Otherwise entry will be refused" 🙄

Yeah, I did wonder about that after I posted, but my general point still stands.

That’s just rude. Unless that was the dress code and he / she fit in, or they were just notified of your wedding on their way to do their weekly grocery shop.

My nephew wore a short sleeve white shirt with trousers and tie and I hate seeing the short sleeved shirt in the photos.

Presumably he didn't have tattoos.
I personally think black tie weddings, which you mention later, are really tacky, like being in a casino or at an awards dinner or something.

Yes, I do too, but it was their wedding and that’s what they chose and we respected that. Even though it did cost a small fortune to kit us all out (family of 4)!

And yes, he does have tattoos on his arms.

Beige linen trousers and a crisp white shirt always looks stylish

My day wasn’t spoilt, it was wonderful. A catholic church wedding (marrying my wonderful DH after being together 16 years) and wonderful reception with my nearest and dearest. Everyone beautifully dressed for the occasion to watch us commit to one another for life. Except for the short sleeved white shirt ofcourse! Not a biggy but I prefer to look at the photos without the tattooed arms in. Which is a shame as I love my nephew dearly and just wish he’d worn a long-sleeve shirt like everyone else.

This is rubbish about men only wearing shorts at the beach, even in other
European countries. For example, if you walk around Rome in the summer you will see plenty of Italian men wearing shorts.

This would be a lovey outfit for a wedding abroad in the sweltering heat!

@Weryj to get it right, just ask the bride.

I’ve never actually been to a destination wedding, never even been invited to one (and I’ve been to a lot of weddings in my time!) BUT I’ve seen photos etc on Facebook and there’s almost always ag least one person in shorts. Makes sense really, if it’s hot af. As long as they’re smart shorts with smart shoes, I think it’s fine. I draw the line at a short sleeved shirt though, they’re awful. Long sleeves rolled up, fine but something about short sleeved shirts is hateful for me 😂
Your best bet is to check with the bride or the groom, to be sure.

Odd of the locals really to not realise Northern Europeans aren't acclimatised to the heat and are therefore likely to wear different clothing.

Mind you we had a tour guide in Germany who was originally from Argentina. When her mother who was late 60s came to visit she wanted to wear skimpy dresses in Munich in winter to show off her 'sexy figure' to the German men. So perhaps the Argentine's views on clothing are a little.......retrograde shall we say?

This is honestly a ridiculous thread because the only logical thing to do is to ask the couple.

We went to a wedding on a farm in the UK on a very hot day last year, DH wore shorts, I wore a smock dress and birks - we fitted right in with the rest of the guests. The only people in suits were the two brides who looked stunning.

Or that guest really hates dressing up or doesn't have anything smart they own and the person whose wedding it was cares more about their friends and their company than aesthetics. Which is a lovely way to be.

I was delighted all my friends turned up to my wedding and had, I think, a lovely day. I don't use how people dress as a measure of how much they care about me. Nor do I think anyone dressed in any way impacts the photos.

I can't imagine being so invested in my guests' clothes to care.

your husband's outfit sounds like the exact outfit my DH married me wearing (beach wedding)

The dress code was "whatever you feel best in". Most people dressed up, some didn't. My friend is extremely comfortable in her own skin. I was delighted to see her after 8 years. Only one person was rude at our wedding and they were dressed immaculately 😁

I think its ruder to make a dear friend feel unwelcome for wearing what they are comfortable in. It may have been the finest hoody they owned.... I'm sure the bride and groom knew exactly what this guest was like and knew they would be dressed like that or similar.

Why does anybody need to fit in? I'd hate to have a uniform like school at my wedding. I got married abroad and a few guests wore shorts and I couldn't give a toss... we had a fabulous wedding. In fact, my DH wore a suit for the ceremony and then he and the groomsmen changed into short sleeved shirts for more comfort.

I can't imagine looking at a picture of my wedding and thinking "I wish they wore something else, they've ruined the image"

I’ve only been to one abroad - kids, ring carriers wore smart shorts - not going to make a young child boil all day - just why?! and anyway probably end up with very creased trousers considering most lightweight material.

One fella misunderstood it being a holiday wedding and came in posh swimming trunks - not one person, including bride/groom, were rude enough to make him feel more uncomfortable- he was wanted at the wedding for himself not his clothes - it was quite funny really - it didn’t ‘ruin’ photos or the day - but I don’t really grasp the concept of that. Obviously, if you have a dress code as your preference then fine but stipulate it. Generally the attire was more really nice holiday (hot) appropriate clothing than heavy U.K. wedding gear. I’m pretty sure I saw smart shorts on adults but didn’t particularly notice - only the swim wear ha!

An actual local wedding I saw there - wow full regalia for everyone- I felt so hot just seeing them - but it’s very different for visiting weddings.

If you know the party well enough then you’ll know if you’d be offending them - you could ask others going, or take alternative wear if you’re worried though it is your fella’s choice tbf unless he’s going to wear something fairly offensive.

I think the couple will be pleased you’re there to share their day rather than checking out everyone’s attire - I mean you can look a show even in the best wedding wear tbh.

The UK does not do style, this thread does not surprise me. Not unexpected responses at all.