AIBU to think shorts are not wedding guest attire abroad?

[Weryj]

We are attending an abroad wedding in the summer (Greek island - at a resort rather than on a beach).

DH intends to where chino style shorts and a short sleeve shirt!

I have told him that whenever I’ve seen photos of men attending abroad weddings, they are still wearing a suit/trousers.

I am worried he will look ridiculous! He insists this is appropriate attire…AIBU to disagree?

Making them up also.

What did I make up.... I didn't quote anyone I wrote a fucking sentence.

Do you not know how forming a sentence works?

My pleasure. Always happy to help.

I think shorts are ok for a wedding abroad , as long as they are smart., it’s far too hot to be wearing a suit.

tbh I couldn’t tell you what anyone wore to my wedding all these years later.

I can't imagine looking at a picture of my wedding and thinking "I wish they wore something else, they've ruined the image"

You assumed I thought this, which I didn’t. So you’re making things to put your point across, aggressively.

No... I said I CAN'T IMAGINE

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Got it?

Why do you think he needs your approval? He's an adult, responsible for himself and able to choose his own clothes.

I assume on a summers day is Greece you would wear something cool, a summer dress perhaps?
So DH should be able to do the same.

You replied to my post. There’s no other reason to mention what you can’t imagine if you weren’t assuming that’s what I was imagining.

Maybe you replied to the wrong post when you wrote that.

If the bride and groom were okay with it, then go for it!

Oh right, as long as the photos looked good. Never mind how inconvenient or uncomfortable it is for your guests or anything.

It’s one day in your life, your own wedding that you get to choose. The guests should be adaptable to this. It really isn’t a biggy.

Wear shorts or don’t wear shorts, I don’t care, but either way if it isn’t the usual wedding attire, check with the bride and groom.

your being ridiculous a nice pair of shorts is fine. What's the matter with you
. Let him wear what he wants

But why would putting a requirement that could be massively inconvenient for your guests be part of your planning at all? I don't get it. I wouldn't have entertained for a moment the idea of a particular image for the photos being important enough that I would tell people what to wear. The whole concept is bizarre to me.

Okay.

We are attending a wedding in Spain this summer, I checked with the grooms and suits will be expected. Dh and ds will be wearing light linen suits.
Check with the wedding party.

Brits however do appear to have very rigid dress codes, unlike some other parts of the world. All this angst about what to wear at funerals for instance, thankfully many of us have moved on from wearing black decades ago and don't have an attack of the vapors should someone turn up in jeans.

I would rather be too cool for words than too rigid for words.

I can’t believe people pay to go to someone’s wedding abroad and are then told what to wear and get snooty comments if they choose to wear a short sleeve shirt etc. I call it being sensible not lack of effort. In Greece in the summer it must be so uncomfortable to wear long trousers/ suit / long sleeve shirt. I think that looks ridiculous. Yes I agree to ask them but if the dress code is suits the men will be very hot unless they stay indoors in aircon all day which hardly gives Greek wedding vibes.

You seem cross. I brought it up because I thought it showed that some guests would prefer not to have to dress up if they don't "have to". Isn't that relevant?

Not enough information to answer the question, my parents got married in the Caribbean on the beach, everyone was in shorts.

I have good friends who got married in a villa in Spain and would have been horrified by anyone wearing shorts.

There was also a friend of my wife who got married in Italy and maybe 60% of men including the wedding party were in shorts.

It is down to the couple, ask them.

the trouble with dress codes like 'black tie' is that is costs your guests loads of money.

Unless you move in circles where everyone owns a tux and evening dress, then they have to hire/buy something for the wedding.
And then also accessories/shoes etc to match.
It makes it extrememly expensive to be a guest.

And for most of us, there were a few years when we went to several weddings every summer, and if each one has such a high dress code, that is hundreds of pounds per year just on wedding outfits.

It is your wedding and of course anyone is perfectly entitled to have whatever dress code they like, but at the same time I cannot imagine a situation where I woudl make all the guests fork out loads of money on order to walk in the door, knowing that many of them have already forked out loads on overnight accommodation and gifts.

These type of dress codes to me are basically pretty selfish, same for colour codes or themes.
I expect to have to dress up for a wedding, to come in an appropriate outfit, but it should also be possible to come in something that is in my wardrobe if I don't have the money to buy new.

social media photos have a lot to answer for

I bet the groom and the best man are wearing that weird shorts and bow tie combo I always see at weddings abroad. So he'll probably be fine.

We take the attitude that we don’t care what people wear. If they make the effort to attend we are happy to see them. One person came to my mother’s funeral in a shell suit and someone else came in t-shirt and casual shorts. If people are prepared to travel abroad to a wedding that should be enough.