Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

[lilybit2025]

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

Just tell her off

Spray her with a garden hose 😉

Obviously, you need speak to her parents. I mean, it's the obvious answer unless you want to faff about putting trellis on the top of your fence and growing climbers up.

I was also going to suggest you had a mishap with the hose. And stop telling her so nicely to stop looking over the fence - she might take notice if you’re more assertive and make her realise she’s making you angry.

Simply train your ddog to not care.. It's took me 2 short afternoons only to stop our dpuppy barking at ndn lawnmower and the fucking yappy ddog they have. Yesterday they had another yappy fuck and dpuppy didn't even react.. *stealth boast!

Try speaking to her parents first. Failing that, plant prickly things along the fence line. Some lovley holly and hawthorn should act as a deterrent 😂

Is your fence a 6 ft fence? If not, then i would look into either replacing or extending it.
Or...... Just knock and speak to your neighbours and let them know and that you would prefer their child to not look over your fence.

Although you’ve had a lot of people say it’s not acceptable and to tell the parents, realistically you can’t stop her standing on a table/ climbing a tree / bouncing on a trampoline in her own garden.

No don’t invent an excuse that deflects from the problem. Dog or no dog she’s being rude. Probably she doesn’t know this but she has to learn that it’s rude to stare and be nosey. And the fact that she’s standing on something to do this highlights that she shouldn’t be doing it.

Years ago she’d have been told “oi, Miss Nosey. Mind your own business”.

If telling the child not to, and asking the parents to stop her, doesn't work then the OP can look at extending her fence or planting something for privacy.
But try speaking to the neighbours to resolve it amicably first.

Invest in some of these.

https://ebay.us/m/NGRPAD

Planting, yes. Bamboo on pots works well. But you can’t extend above 6’6.

Gosh we had this! I’m so glad we moved from the old house. It was a boy around 11 and his sister around 8 at the time. I had my own kids and always thought it was so rude as I wouldn’t allow my kids to do the same. The mother actually encouraged it and I would hear her saying “are you spying on the neighbours? What can you see”. I wrote about it so much under a different username I was at my wits end with them. The only thing that worked was getting a higher fence (it was our fence side so not sure if this would work for you). There’s no talking to people that allow their kids unsupervised in the garden as they wouldn’t be the type to explain concept of boundaries. On another note I’m so glad people are understanding and seem to be with you on this thread as I was often told on mumsnet that I should put up with it as they are kids!

Just remembered the dad would bounce on trampoline and shout over hello to me and my kids! 😂

I am so glad we moved I hated summer because of them

Kids don't really learn at the first 'please dont'. My guess the dog will get bored first.

Imagine saying "hello can I help you" to a five year old! 😂 I would just chat to her and then say that it was maybe not safe for her to be doing that (if she is standing on something) and it makes the dog bark. But then I seem to be unique among childfree people on here in that I actually quite like children and know how to deal with them (thanks to a horde of nieces and nephews!).

Speak to your neighbours and 'apologise' for your barking dog who wouldn't bark unless provoked by their daughter peering over your fence

@deserthighway *What I would have done was to have gone round with an easter egg as a friendly gesture and when i handed it over to the parents I would have mentioned about the fence issue.
*That's encouraging her.

if i look over the fence NDN will give me chocolate.

Looking forward to the upcoming thread on here:

"my neighbours, who hate kids & have a loud dog, saw my daughter (neuro diverse, obviously) looking over the fence and asked her stop looking, but she is so curious & interested about the world i feel this has crushed her inquisitive spirit, should i call the police?"

Exactly this.

We had to do something similar about 10 years ago when the neighbours children were similarly being a nuisance. Neighbours initially tried to say they weren't doing that, but then I started asking them to please turn around whenever they did it when their parents were outside, too. Loudly. It then stopped.

The problem these days are some parents absolutely refuse to discipline their kids.

You should get a set of those rubber spikes you can put on the top of your fence to deter birds.

We had so much of this in our last house. I was so happy to leave. Huge gang of 4-6 year old girls would come up to the living room window (so standing in my front garden) and would all peer in. Honestly, nothing at all worked. It was a nightmare as their parents sided with the kids.

We had this a few years ago with neighbours’ young son standing on something to peer over the fence.
He soon got bored of it.
This might just be a problem that resolves itself, as children soon get fed up of doing certain things.

If you ask her not to do it and she still does, I’d put a trellis on top, and grow a rampant climber all over it.

That was the only way an ex colleague managed to stop a neighbour appearing and wanting to natter over the fence virtually every time she went into the garden. Apparently she would be watching almost non stop from her kitchen window to see when ex colleague ventured out!

Young children are curious about things, and this should be encouraged.
At her age she isn't being intrusive, there is obviously something she finds fascinating or interesting. Perhaps your dog? Or intrigued by her grumpy neighbour.

You need to speak to her parents, not a 5yr old. Just say it sets your dog off and you can’t relax in your own garden. They will need to move whatever she is standing on.

Why should it be encouraged when it’s making someone else uncomfortable, the home owner and the dog. It needs to be stopped.

I'm voting for an accidental garden hose slip