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AIBU to think female sports categories should apply at all levels not just the olympics?

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Fastline · 04/04/2026 10:11

In light of the welcome news that biological males or people with SRY (Y) gene are no longer allowed to compete in the women’s category in the Olympics, AIBU to think that it shouldn’t only be elite sports women who should have fairness and safety in sport?

AIBU to think that all women and girls deserve the protected female category for both fairness and safety from grass roots sport to county level and beyond.

I mean, what is the point of having separate categories, which are there for biological differences if anyone can self identify into them.

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OneTimeThingToday · 05/04/2026 12:17

And as a repeat from earlier...what actually happened when a male played in a womens league. Not theoritcal, an actual event.

www.doncasterfreepress.co.uk/news/people/discrimination-sees-doncaster-transgender-player-quit-womens-football-league-club-after-rivals-knee-break-4418843

TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2026 12:18

dizzydizzydizzy · 05/04/2026 12:10

It’s because your viewpoint js extremely black and white with no grey areas. There is a full spectrum of sport from elite competitive to non-competitive grass roots. In the former, total fairness is paramount, in the latter, encouraging participation becomes more important.

Real life is rarely black and white.

And by the way, for clarity, I’m not saying that fairness doesn’t matter in grass roots sport but I am saying that the threshold can be lowered to ensure greater participation. So in elite sport, all sorts of over the counter and everyday prescription drugs will get an athlete a ban because they can be used to enhance performance. People playing on the local football team or competing in a local running race are highly unlikely to get tested because the stakes are low and costs of testing are high.

Also, you have talked a lot about the safely aspect for women but that appears to be a theoretical possibility rather than something that has been properly investigated. I think we have to consider that it may well be possible for coaches to keep their people safe because they understand the issues in their particular sport and know the individuals involved. A PP who is a football coach did address this.

Anyway, I have no more to say on this matter. It has been interesting discussing it but I feel like I am repeating myself.

If you are actually arguing for more mixed sex sporting opportunities, then by all means do that.

What I cannot understand though is on what grounds you think men should be allowed into women's sports, when they are clearly demarcated for women?

Are you also arguing that seniors should compete in junior teams? Or that able bodied athletes should compete in Paralympic teams?

Why have categories if you aren't going to abide by them?

Fastline · 05/04/2026 12:19

dizzydizzydizzy · 05/04/2026 12:10

It’s because your viewpoint js extremely black and white with no grey areas. There is a full spectrum of sport from elite competitive to non-competitive grass roots. In the former, total fairness is paramount, in the latter, encouraging participation becomes more important.

Real life is rarely black and white.

And by the way, for clarity, I’m not saying that fairness doesn’t matter in grass roots sport but I am saying that the threshold can be lowered to ensure greater participation. So in elite sport, all sorts of over the counter and everyday prescription drugs will get an athlete a ban because they can be used to enhance performance. People playing on the local football team or competing in a local running race are highly unlikely to get tested because the stakes are low and costs of testing are high.

Also, you have talked a lot about the safely aspect for women but that appears to be a theoretical possibility rather than something that has been properly investigated. I think we have to consider that it may well be possible for coaches to keep their people safe because they understand the issues in their particular sport and know the individuals involved. A PP who is a football coach did address this.

Anyway, I have no more to say on this matter. It has been interesting discussing it but I feel like I am repeating myself.

If a club has decided to make a local league single sex, it is not me that has made the eligibility black and white. Male and Female. Two choices?

Also you never answered the question whether you would support a short 18 year old in the local U16’s league. You are either under 16 or you’re over 16. Black and White

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Fastline · 05/04/2026 12:22

@dizzydizzydizzy

You are right it wasn’t properly investigated before people like @Rewis thought it was ok to let men play in contact sports against women.

There are multiple links on here where women have been injured by a trans identifying man playing in women’s amateur leagues.

Please take time to read these because you are spreading misinformation.

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GargoylesofBeelzebub · 05/04/2026 12:28

dizzydizzydizzy · 05/04/2026 12:10

It’s because your viewpoint js extremely black and white with no grey areas. There is a full spectrum of sport from elite competitive to non-competitive grass roots. In the former, total fairness is paramount, in the latter, encouraging participation becomes more important.

Real life is rarely black and white.

And by the way, for clarity, I’m not saying that fairness doesn’t matter in grass roots sport but I am saying that the threshold can be lowered to ensure greater participation. So in elite sport, all sorts of over the counter and everyday prescription drugs will get an athlete a ban because they can be used to enhance performance. People playing on the local football team or competing in a local running race are highly unlikely to get tested because the stakes are low and costs of testing are high.

Also, you have talked a lot about the safely aspect for women but that appears to be a theoretical possibility rather than something that has been properly investigated. I think we have to consider that it may well be possible for coaches to keep their people safe because they understand the issues in their particular sport and know the individuals involved. A PP who is a football coach did address this.

Anyway, I have no more to say on this matter. It has been interesting discussing it but I feel like I am repeating myself.

Nonsense. World Rugby and Sport England are two bodies that I know of that have investigated the safety aspects and concluded that transwomen are a safety risk to women because of their male bodies.

Fastline · 05/04/2026 12:41

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 05/04/2026 12:28

Nonsense. World Rugby and Sport England are two bodies that I know of that have investigated the safety aspects and concluded that transwomen are a safety risk to women because of their male bodies.

Hockey Drag Flick

  • Elite men (international / national‑level):typically ~100–140 km/h (≈28–39 m/s).Several studies of male national teams report averages near 110–125 km/h with top attempts up to ~140 km/h.
  • Elite women (international / top national):typically ~75–105 km/h (≈21–29 m/s).Reported group means often lie in the 80–95 km/h range; best female flicks can approach low‑100s km/h.
  • Mixed/club players & small samples: widespread — from ~60 km/h(recreational/novice) up to ~130 km/h for strong male specialists; means commonly differ by ~15–30 km/h between sexes at similar competitive levels.

Boxing needs no explanation

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FernandoSor · 05/04/2026 12:45

What sports are you thinking of where it doesn’t apply at all levels? The rules banning males in female competition apply at all levels for the sports I am involved in (cycling and triathlon) and many others that I know of (rugby, athletics, swimming for sure).

brunettemic · 05/04/2026 12:52

It’s an obviously safety issue that surely needs no explanation. I do find it odd though that in football girls can play in boys leagues up to under 18s as that presents a safety risk too, albeit the choice is far more in the hands of girls then. DS had a girl in his team until under 13s (she was very good) but has moved back to girls football now due to the risk of the increased physicality.

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:03

The whole issue is a mine field, and far too complex to be discussed in small bites on a forum. I find it very hard to get a point across in such a way. I’ve commented a few times and always had an issue picked up by someone else, something that I’d deliberately missed out just to get what I want in an easy to understand paragraph. It feels like we’re always talking in circles. Whole studies with hundreds of participants being studied and thousands of pages of results don’t cover every aspect of what needs to be considered. And tbh many people aren’t interested in facts, they simply have made their own minds up, often with very little knowledge of more than one or two sports themselves.

You can throw an argument in here about men hurting women and then someone comes along and says, “but what about swimming/running etc, there’s no contact?” Then someone comes along and says ‘what about sports where strength doesn’t matter?’, it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. I’m not saying it isn’t worth a discussion, but ‘sport’ is such a massive spectrum. To discuss and make headway it needs to be more focused. Quite rightly all sporting bodies are doing their own studies and things are moving… slowly.

Fastline · 05/04/2026 13:04

FernandoSor · 05/04/2026 12:45

What sports are you thinking of where it doesn’t apply at all levels? The rules banning males in female competition apply at all levels for the sports I am involved in (cycling and triathlon) and many others that I know of (rugby, athletics, swimming for sure).

I think many people, (a poster on this thread has confirmed in fact), that people make their own rules up about eligibility.

If a team should be for women often people running the teams decide that some men can join too.

I mean ParkRun is a very good example where women’s records have been taken by men in the name of inclusivity. Yes, trans identifying men could do this anyway but, with park run, the rules allow it.

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Fastline · 05/04/2026 13:07

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:03

The whole issue is a mine field, and far too complex to be discussed in small bites on a forum. I find it very hard to get a point across in such a way. I’ve commented a few times and always had an issue picked up by someone else, something that I’d deliberately missed out just to get what I want in an easy to understand paragraph. It feels like we’re always talking in circles. Whole studies with hundreds of participants being studied and thousands of pages of results don’t cover every aspect of what needs to be considered. And tbh many people aren’t interested in facts, they simply have made their own minds up, often with very little knowledge of more than one or two sports themselves.

You can throw an argument in here about men hurting women and then someone comes along and says, “but what about swimming/running etc, there’s no contact?” Then someone comes along and says ‘what about sports where strength doesn’t matter?’, it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. I’m not saying it isn’t worth a discussion, but ‘sport’ is such a massive spectrum. To discuss and make headway it needs to be more focused. Quite rightly all sporting bodies are doing their own studies and things are moving… slowly.

But the question still stands, why do we have single sex categories in the first place if they are negotiable depending on someone's feelings?

As soon as one male is allowed that category becomes mixed sex.
That’s not an opinion it’s just factual.

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TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2026 13:08

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:03

The whole issue is a mine field, and far too complex to be discussed in small bites on a forum. I find it very hard to get a point across in such a way. I’ve commented a few times and always had an issue picked up by someone else, something that I’d deliberately missed out just to get what I want in an easy to understand paragraph. It feels like we’re always talking in circles. Whole studies with hundreds of participants being studied and thousands of pages of results don’t cover every aspect of what needs to be considered. And tbh many people aren’t interested in facts, they simply have made their own minds up, often with very little knowledge of more than one or two sports themselves.

You can throw an argument in here about men hurting women and then someone comes along and says, “but what about swimming/running etc, there’s no contact?” Then someone comes along and says ‘what about sports where strength doesn’t matter?’, it’s like shooting fish in a barrel. I’m not saying it isn’t worth a discussion, but ‘sport’ is such a massive spectrum. To discuss and make headway it needs to be more focused. Quite rightly all sporting bodies are doing their own studies and things are moving… slowly.

I don't understand what is so desperately complex about sporting opportunities advertised as for women being only open to ... women.

What's hard about that?

If people actually want to talk about creating more mixed sex opportunities, then great, let's do that, but be accurate in our language so that there is no ambiguity.

OneTimeThingToday · 05/04/2026 13:16

I did play Mixed Hockey in my late teens/early 20s... it was considered to be a crazy sport by the Single sex players.... tbey tended to be the serious players, we were the hit the ball as hard as you can and hope for the best type!

You could see the men physically hold back at times though. The women tended to bave more experience as we had played at school.

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:52

Fastline · 05/04/2026 13:07

But the question still stands, why do we have single sex categories in the first place if they are negotiable depending on someone's feelings?

As soon as one male is allowed that category becomes mixed sex.
That’s not an opinion it’s just factual.

I answered this earlier

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:54

TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2026 13:08

I don't understand what is so desperately complex about sporting opportunities advertised as for women being only open to ... women.

What's hard about that?

If people actually want to talk about creating more mixed sex opportunities, then great, let's do that, but be accurate in our language so that there is no ambiguity.

I don’t think they should, I have said this many times even on this post.

What did I say about not being able to cover everything in one bite sized post, jeez.

Fastline · 05/04/2026 13:57

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:52

I answered this earlier

So we have single sex sporting opportunities for fairness, safety and inclusion. Many women do not or can’t play sport with men.

So what is complicated about that?

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HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 14:02

Fastline · 05/04/2026 13:57

So we have single sex sporting opportunities for fairness, safety and inclusion. Many women do not or can’t play sport with men.

So what is complicated about that?

I am a female Olympian, I totally agree women need their own categories, having competed at all levels, grass roots through to well, the Olympics and world championships. I have no idea where you get the idea I don’t. I’ve read through the post you’ve quoted and I just cannot see a link.

TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2026 14:09

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 13:54

I don’t think they should, I have said this many times even on this post.

What did I say about not being able to cover everything in one bite sized post, jeez.

So can you explain what you think is so complex about it all?

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 14:13

TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2026 14:09

So can you explain what you think is so complex about it all?

The discussion is complex, answering all objections in a way people can understand and relate, not just issuing a blanket statement which, although correct, will never make headroom.

TheKeatingFive · 05/04/2026 14:15

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 14:13

The discussion is complex, answering all objections in a way people can understand and relate, not just issuing a blanket statement which, although correct, will never make headroom.

Is it though?

What aspect of it? Because if we are saying women's sports should just be for women, I don't see where the complexity is in that statement?

Whats hard to understand or relate to there?

HotChocolateBubbleBath · 05/04/2026 14:20

OneTimeThingToday · 05/04/2026 13:16

I did play Mixed Hockey in my late teens/early 20s... it was considered to be a crazy sport by the Single sex players.... tbey tended to be the serious players, we were the hit the ball as hard as you can and hope for the best type!

You could see the men physically hold back at times though. The women tended to bave more experience as we had played at school.

I could compete against 95% of all men at my sport and beat them convincingly without much effort, I cannot in any way shape or form beat a man with any coaching or training. Mine is a no contact sport though, I imagine that would be very different, I have seen the faces of men who have challenged me and they’re not happy I’ve beaten them, I would think a fair few would’ve reacted roughly if they’d had the opportunity. I don’t understand men who see a woman is national champion and think “hmm, bet I could beat her” fgs!

Fastline · 05/04/2026 14:21

@dizzydizzydizzy

You said "It’s because your viewpoint js extremely black and white with no grey areas. There is a full spectrum of sport from elite competitive to non-competitive grass roots. In the former, total fairness is paramount, in the latter, encouraging participation becomes more important."

What has encouraging participation got to do with allowing men to identify into women’s sport. Surely it is the exact opposite of encouraging more women into the sport.

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guiling · 05/04/2026 14:42

You are of course 100% correct OP. Any argument against is bonkers and shows the lack of experience, understanding and empathy that some people have. It's incredible this is even being discussed.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 05/04/2026 14:47

........some transwomen were being excluded from their local women’s football team

Good. They should have been excluded, because they're men.

........one of them has been in it for decades and, understandably, was very sad

Who cares? He shouldn't have been in the team in the first place. Why does one man's sadness take precedence?

.........that did seem a bit over the top to exclude her, so I am not so sure about this one

Exclude HIM, not "her" FGS.

You might not be sure about this one, but I sure as hell am. He played in a women's team, knowing he was a man. Typical male entitled behaviour.
He should have joined a men's team.