AIBU to think lazy days are underrated in modern life?

[Alldoomandgloom]

There’s so much pressure in modern life to always be doing something exciting. Holidays, days out and the like. It’s exhausting! AIBU to think that lazy days are underrated?

But when your kids leave home, you'll find a lazy day is really boring!

I’m away from home 3 nights a week for work so with hubs working Saturdays I love a lazy day bimbling around the house on my own. I’ll do a bit of housework, some washing, eat some snacks and mooch about on my iPad. Bliss

Lazy day today as recently retired. I ran in the morning then Spanish lesson in library then a swim in the sea. I really wanted to play golf after that but fell asleep on the sofa. The cold sea swim saps all your energy in a good way.

That is not a lazy day!

I have a career. I'm the main earner. If I am made redundant we'd be fucked. It's a big responsibility when everything falls on you but I think you still need time to just be or what's the point of it all?
Today I've bimbled about doing things that make me happy. Finished reading a book that I started on Tuesday. I've spent a couple of hours on MN. Had a bath. I'm signed up to a site that sends art quizzes so I've done a few of them. It's totally unrelated to my career but if you want to frame it as an achievement then I've 'achieved' something by broadening my knowledge of women artists. Got takeaway for lunch and just did sandwiches tonight. I've groomed a few pets and done a few flea treatments, which is admittedly not so relaxing 😀
Tomorrow is a more normal and busy day. I'll spend a few hours working on emails and prep for work next week; I'll do shopping and washing; batch cooking for the freezer; sort out some house admin and bills etc etc. But today, I took today at a slower pace.

After working like a dog for years, I managed to get early retirement.

Every day is a lazy day. It is just wonderful. I never imagined that retirement would be so utterly wonderful - other half also retired early - and we are living the slow, quiet and loved up life. My health improved dramatically, btw.

The children and grandchildren are a mixture of astounded and envious. Whatever you do, please, please make sure you get some lazy days. Don't push things to the limit over work, or anything else come to that. Take time to do nothing, or something that is just for you. And don't feel that the 'whole family' has to take part. It's your lazy day - sod 'em!

A word of warning to anyone who connects physically activity with "being productive" like I used to... It is definitely worth cultivating some non-exercise passions because your body might suddenly stitch you up one day and you'll be in a black hole.

That said these days I love love love "pottering". Doing a few jobs, walking DDog, planning something nice to cook, mucking about in the garden... All the time listening to a good crime book. Gyargh, why must we have jobs!!

Absolutely not unreasonable. I work full time and try to keep weekends as free as possible. Just can’t function otherwise.
I think a lot depends on if your children like sports. Happily mine do not!! But the parents I know whose kids do sports have to devote a lot of time at weekends to ferrying them about.
I don’t like regular weekend commitments since they stop us seeing friends and having fun.

It is sad to me that people don't have lazy days. They are GREAT for mental health.

That nots laziness. That’s recuperation and essential - if you don’t listen to your body with shingles you will end up in the shit health wise.
Will people STOP saying it’s lazy to treat your body and health with respect.

We have lazy morning on weekends breakfast in bed, and try to be up and dressed by midday, if there's anything we need to do we try to gwt done on Saturday, so we can relax a bit on Sunday, otherwise the whole weekend is gone in a flash, today we were up by midday and dressed, then ready and out for a trip to garden centre, then b&q, luckily in same areas as costa, so we all popped in there for coffee and toasties, then to Sainsbury's to get the 4 year old some plimsolls for pe, as today I just read a notice saying they'll have outdoor pe next week(week back) and that plimsolls are needed, phew, we got back around 6pm. Tomorrow we'll plant some of the plants we got, and then hopefully rest, but we will have breakfast in bed again, some mornings it's cereal, then another day will be toast and choc spead jam etc, we keep extention cord under the bed so we bring the toaster etc upstairs, some weekends I put a loaf on in the bread machine before I go to bed, so we have fresh loaf in the morning for chocolate spread, it's our little thing lol

I have to have one lazy day at the weekend and also love a lazy week in school holidays too! Other people seem to do so much. We do a lot more than my family did in the 80s/90s. I genuinely spent 99% of my childhood at home or at my nans house 🤣

Today my 7 yo stayed in PJs all day and spent the entire day watching TV and reading her book. She was happy as Larry!

That sounds like such a lovely day

I fell asleep on sofa at 2pm. That’s what sea swimming does. I obviously woke up later after deep sleep. I need to absolutely do round of golf, run or anything else at all before sea swimming as it takes all my energy.

I do know this is not a lazy day.

I feel the same. We try to have a lazy day every Sunday to reset for the week ahead. It’s not lazy as such though as I am usually washing and ironing cooking a roast and so much more in prep for Monday haha. I feel we are always on the go with work and entertaining the kids though that even though I’m busy it’s nice to be slower and stay in my pjs and stuff :-)

It's a shame that so many people are conditioned to describe them as lazy days when recharging is important and vital for some people. We're human beings not human doings. Recharging with activities such as reading, crafts or a pamper day nourishes some people's souls and shouldn't be treated with derision

Totally agree OP - I’ve just had a whole week of them (well as lazy as it gets with children). Can’t decide whether it was wasted time or utter bliss. But just couldn’t bothered to do anything at all

Totally NBU. I love a lazy day, and I'm having one right now. We've a cyclone crossing the country as I write, it's tipping down with rain and the occasional gust of wind; our part of the country is luckily unlikely to get anything worse than torrential rain in an hour or so. We had breakfast out, gassed up my husband's work car and did a small grocery shop. Since we got home I've been lounging around, messaging friends around the country/globe, snacking, puzzling, made inane comments about the weather ...

I love a pottering day!
going for a mooch maybe around TK maxx/waitrose (not a proper full on food shop, that’s for a not pottering day)
cooking something that takes time like lasagne
might do a few odd jobs, light cleaning
coffee and a book

In the school summer holidays I made sure to arrange social days for them on alternate days so that my children had time to chill at home and entertain just themselves with their toys and pets and play in the garden. I believe it’s not good to fill their time being busy. They need to experience downtime and be resourceful about occupying themselves. But we are laid back and not a highly strung go-getting family.

We are retired and have a balance of full on days and doing fuck all.
Last week had visitors, did 3 big walks ( 8 to 12 miles each), theatre....today is a nice 5 mile walk locally, coffee out, finish 40th book of the year and stick a casserole in the oven.

After reading this thread this popped up on my insta

So...the best thing I can do, if the sun is shining but its cold outside is have a long luxurious bath during daytime hours. We have solar panels so on those sunny days it costs vitually nowt to heat the water ...so its luxury without the expense ...brilliant !

Pressure from whom...?

I don't think tgats what she means by lazy, its not doing nothing its just not going out and just doing stuff at home.