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Keeping a 3 bedroom council house when your children have grown up

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Iwishitwerewarmer · 03/04/2026 07:41

Just pondering - what are everyone’s opinions on a single parent raising their children in a council house/housing association house and staying there once their children have moved out? Should they downsize into a one bed flat/smaller property or is it their right to remain in their home/neighbourhood?

Added extra - they have looked after the property well, have landscaped the garden, installed a new kitchen and generally added value to the property.

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MimiGC · 03/04/2026 11:02

BackToLurk · 03/04/2026 10:52

There are 1 million empty homes in the U.K. It isn’t only about house building It’s also about the type of houses being built, second homes and ‘buy to leave’ properties.

Edited

I agree those are problems too. But how many of the 1million empty homes are part of the social housing stock?

gliborglitch · 03/04/2026 11:02

Whosthetabbynow · 03/04/2026 10:59

Yeh and your mortgage debt repayments that you owe the bank should also increase if you get a pay rise

WTF?? 😂 You cannot see the difference between social housing where the rest of society helps you pay for your rent from their very own labour and private arrangements where all rent or mortgage payment is privately paid so nobody else's business.

ImLeavingWalford · 03/04/2026 11:02

Walkaround · 03/04/2026 10:55

And if there are none, locally? Would you chuck her out of her current home and into temporary accommodation in a Travelodge, to make way for a family currently in a Travelodge, given the shortage of available social housing of any size? Do you think that should happen? Or maybe move her to the other end of the country to a cheaper area, to make way for a family in her area, because then you’re only moving one person hundreds of miles from their support networks and wider family, rather than an entire family (albeit pissing off everyone in the cheaper part of the country, because their councils can’t outbid wealthier councils scores or hundreds of miles away for accommodation for their own homeless population)? Would you like to see how badly people can behave, or how mentally ill they can become, and how little they can care for the community around them when they feel they have no security, few rights, no sense of belonging to the community, and no respect, because you would likely be increasing the number of such people if you took protections away from those who had finally made it to the top of the waiting lists and been allocated somewhere, and continued to gouge away at many people’s most fundamental desire (to have a home where they feel they belong and feel safe and secure)? Fear of losing your home has a massive effect on behaviour, so unnatural behaviours, lies and manipulations would increase, just so that people can maintain their sense of security and stay in their safe space. And this is not to mention how expensive it would in reality be to councils to keep moving tenants in and out of properties as they juggle changing needs and availability - moving people around is never actually cheap, it costs a lot of money to move people around.

There are no simple answers when houses are investments, not just (or not even) homes - even in the private sector, many wealthy, elderly homeowners of large homes can’t sell their large homes to families at the moment, even when they want to, because families can’t afford them, and in any event they often can’t find places to downsize to, because the families are squeezing themselves into the smaller properties they can afford to maintain, or separated families are buying them up, or people bought them as investment properties. The next big thing will be former private family homes being converted into cramped HMOs, except then wealthy homeowners will complain about disaffected people being moved into their neighbourhoods and changing the character of the area, and having children will become ever less appealing as family-sized homes remain an unaffordable commodity even if councils are playing accommodation chess. Currently, there is a lot of underused or empty accommodation around the country, due to properties’ use as investment (between 100,000 and 300,000 properties in London, for example), holiday homes, holiday lets, inheritances, etc, so the problem is not just lack of space, it’s also the collision of market forces with fundamental needs in which the majority of people in this country are now the loser, because we all suffer when our sense of community is disrupted and large numbers of people struggle to afford to pay for a home to live in. Pretending it’s simple is what political parties do when in opposition. Reality is infinitely more complex and every “solution” tried to date is just the creation of more problems, as social need butts up against the marketplace, with each destabilised by the requirements of the other.

I’m therefore on the fence on this one. I think she should ideally move if there is somewhere smaller and appropriate to move to, but can also see why the whole thing is really not as simple as we would like it to be.

Sorry this is too long to read.

However, no I believe a suitable place would need to be found in their area or at least an area within a 30 mile radius.

ProjectHailMary · 03/04/2026 11:02

Whosthetabbynow · 03/04/2026 10:59

Yeh and your mortgage debt repayments that you owe the bank should also increase if you get a pay rise

What? Your comment is bizarre.

People’s mortgage payments often increase even if they don’t get a pay rise. People purchasing a home are buying it with their own money AND paying a lot of mortgage interest on top of this AND taking a lot more financial risk because mortgage rates can rise at any point without them having any increase in income.

previouslyknownas · 03/04/2026 11:02

Maybe 20 years ago if you gave up your council houses / HA property you were given a grant anything between 10 -20k depending on the size of the house
a few people I know took the money and bought a place

they stopped doing it

but one of my neighbours was trying to downsize a few years ago
3 bed 3 storey house , huge garden , double drive
her rent was 90 quid a week
A one bed new build flat was around 150

so she stayed in her house and is still there now

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 03/04/2026 11:02

YouDriveMeCrazyButICanDoThatMyself · 03/04/2026 07:44

It’s their home. They shouldn’t be forced out into a one bedroom flat anymore than a private home owner should have to sell their 4 bed detached and move into a one bed to free up houses for new families.

@YouDriveMeCrazyButICanDoThatMyself , that’s comparing apples with pears. The person who used their own money to purchase a property has every right to stay but the person in a housing association property doesn’t own it and has been supported by the taxpayer to use that property while they had a need. Those who become able to support themselves or no longer need so many bedrooms should not expect to place a burden on the taxpayers larger than is necessary.

ProjectHailMary · 03/04/2026 11:02

ImLeavingWalford · 03/04/2026 11:02

Sorry this is too long to read.

However, no I believe a suitable place would need to be found in their area or at least an area within a 30 mile radius.

Sorry to hear that you struggle to read, that must be hard.

x2boys · 03/04/2026 11:03

Random321 · 03/04/2026 10:58

Unpopular, I don't.

If someone isn't in a position to provide their own housing and benefits from housing subsidies or reduced rents, then the accommodation should be best used for everyine that allies to.

No one should be permitted to stay in a 3 bedroom when they only need one.

It's essentually taking rooms away from others who need them.

Where would they go ,there is,often a shortage of one bedroom properties .

Whosthetabbynow · 03/04/2026 11:04

gliborglitch · 03/04/2026 11:02

WTF?? 😂 You cannot see the difference between social housing where the rest of society helps you pay for your rent from their very own labour and private arrangements where all rent or mortgage payment is privately paid so nobody else's business.

SH tenants work and pay tax and pay their own rent.

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 11:04

ElizabethReed · 03/04/2026 10:55

One of the lads that I fancied at school was from the council Estate he’s been in prison for 35 years for murder
It can go either way

My mum grew up in a council house. Has a degree and two post grads. I grew up in a council house. Two BA degrees and two post grads. You fancied him? Earlier on you said no one associated with those kids.

ElizabethReed · 03/04/2026 11:05

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 10:58

That's nonsense. I grew up in council housing. I wasn't "bottom of the pile". I had friends who lived in council housing and ones who didn't. I think it's astonishing the snobbery towards people who rent compared to those who don't.

Oh it definitely was snobby but you have to remember. This was the 90s when there was actually no good reason why anybody wouldn’t go and buy a house.
Properties on that Council estate would sell for 32,000
Starting salaries were 12k if you had two of you working you really did have to be poor to not be able to better yourself at that time

Whosthetabbynow · 03/04/2026 11:05

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 11:04

My mum grew up in a council house. Has a degree and two post grads. I grew up in a council house. Two BA degrees and two post grads. You fancied him? Earlier on you said no one associated with those kids.

Indeed

ElizabethReed · 03/04/2026 11:05

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 11:04

My mum grew up in a council house. Has a degree and two post grads. I grew up in a council house. Two BA degrees and two post grads. You fancied him? Earlier on you said no one associated with those kids.

You can look without touching you know 😂

vodkaredbullgirl · 03/04/2026 11:06

Subsidised blah blah blah, all I've seen throughout this thread.

moofolk · 03/04/2026 11:06

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 07:53

I just can't get my head around this. Almost everyone has a 'home' whether you rent or own. Nobody has an unconditional right to stay in our home. If someone defaults too many times on their mortgage then they will have their home repossessed. If a tenant misses their rent payments too often then they will be evicted. Even if you don't have a mortgage and own your home outright, if you can't pay Council tax and other bills then your home can be repossessed.

In this context and in the context that we are living in a housing crisis where families are living in hotels and other unsuitable accommodation then why on earth would we allow a single person to stay in a house that they would be under occupy? That is ridiculously selfish. That house could be a home for five people instead of one. The state can't afford to subsidise the madness of the mother staying just because they would quite like to and feel attached to it.

Do you think people who own their homes should not be allowed spare bedrooms?

Maybe take in homeless people from the streets if their children go to university?

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 11:06

gliborglitch · 03/04/2026 11:02

WTF?? 😂 You cannot see the difference between social housing where the rest of society helps you pay for your rent from their very own labour and private arrangements where all rent or mortgage payment is privately paid so nobody else's business.

Surely you understand that there are people in council and housing association housing that work full time too and pay taxes? Yes rents are subsidised - but that's nothing new

x2boys · 03/04/2026 11:08

ElizabethReed · 03/04/2026 10:55

One of the lads that I fancied at school was from the council Estate he’s been in prison for 35 years for murder
It can go either way

My Bil went school wit somone who was brought up on a nice middle class estate who committed a notorious, brutal murder
Both examples are extreme and neither are the result of where they lived as children.

BackToLurk · 03/04/2026 11:08

MimiGC · 03/04/2026 11:02

I agree those are problems too. But how many of the 1million empty homes are part of the social housing stock?

Between 30 and 40 thousand.

PepsiBook · 03/04/2026 11:09

A council house should be given to someone on the condition that it accommodates the size of their family.
Once their kids have moved out, it should then go to the next family.
It's not their house, they rent it. If they choose to update it to make it nicer whilst they live there, that's up to them.

ProjectHailMary · 03/04/2026 11:09

BackToLurk · 03/04/2026 11:01

Did it occur to you that the ‘market rate’ may be artificially high?

What does that even mean? The market rate is the market rate. How can it be “artificially high”?

The market adjusts based on supply and demand so automatically reflects the current real-terms value in the price.

The only way I can conceive of that you comment makes any sense would be the fact that many of the legislative changes that have been made (i.e. market interference) to levy tax on landlords based on revenue rather than profit (unlike any other business) and make it more risky and expensive for landlords to let property have inflated prices because (unsurprisingly) they have reduced supply. But that, of course, is just the market operating as usual and adjusting the price to reflect the current costs and risks which have been changed by the regulatory regime, so is not “artificial“, rather an accurate reflection of the new costs introduced of course then having to be reflected in the price charged.

It’s just basic economics.

Itsabingthin · 03/04/2026 11:09

Council rent isn’t “subsidised” in the way people assume.
It only looks cheap because private rents have exploded, not because councils are giving tenants a discount.

Council rents have never been based on the private market. They’re set using a different system: long-term cost of building, maintenance, and affordability rules. Private rent is based on demand, mortgages, and profit.

People also forget how recently private rent overtook council rent.
In the 90s and early 2000s, in places like Dagenham, private rent and council rent were actually quite similar. You could realistically choose either. Council wasn’t seen as a “lottery win” because the gap wasn’t huge.

For example, my mum paid around £40 a week in the 90s and pays about £150 now. That’s a normal, steady rise. Meanwhile, private rent in the same area has gone from around £100 to £350+ in the same period. So it’s private rent that has shot up, not council rent being artificially lowered.

If someone pays their full council rent, they aren’t being individually subsidised.
What’s subsidised is the social housing system as a whole not the tenant’s personal bill.

The real issue is that the private market has become unaffordable, not that council tenants are getting an undeserved discount.

blubberyboo · 03/04/2026 11:10

Random321 · 03/04/2026 10:58

Unpopular, I don't.

If someone isn't in a position to provide their own housing and benefits from housing subsidies or reduced rents, then the accommodation should be best used for everyine that allies to.

No one should be permitted to stay in a 3 bedroom when they only need one.

It's essentually taking rooms away from others who need them.

No we can build more homes if the powers that be do their jobs properly. Housing associations can access bank finance just exactly the same as property developers building private homes. They already do all across the country so it’s not necessarily coming from taxpayers.

People’s situations are fluid and just because someone lives alone at a point in time doesn’t mean they always will. New partners, returning adult children, friends living together are all realities of life and shifting them into one bedroom properties takes away choice and has other social implications to extended families, communities and health.

These people are often no longer on benefits and are working, paying their rent and taxes, and supporting their children with grandchildren meaning the bedrooms are needed at some times in the month.

lots of folks on this thread have a very narrow minded view of how the lives of others should look and are lazy to blame the person instead of those in charge making decisions for our communities.

beAsensible1 · 03/04/2026 11:11

PlattyCat · 03/04/2026 08:44

My great aunt is in a four bedroom house (technically five as there are two front rooms). She's lived there 50+ years. She has been on the waiting list to swap to a one bedroom bungalow or ground floor flat for 8 years. We telephone thecouncil so many times to see if we can hurry the process along but they don't give a crap about freeing up her house for someone more in need.

its not that its just there not one person in the council dedicated to house swaps. im sure there's a very simple platform and algo that could be done for it but each council is individual and none of them have money for new systems being build form the ground up.

most councils don't have many one beds and if they do they keep them for temporary accommodation. limited stock, plus silo systems, plus large waiting lists and small teams. its not one singular thing.

But the majority of the issue is not greedy council tenants refusing to move.

x2boys · 03/04/2026 11:11

H3342 · 03/04/2026 10:57

Yes it it their home.

But it isn't their house.

I never ssid it was I know the difference between a home and owning a house i was replying to a Pp who doesnt.

Portakalkedi · 03/04/2026 11:11

As you're asking, yes you should move out of your taxpayer-subsidised house, given the huge waiting lists and shortage of council housing in general. Those who have to pay market rent or mortgage have to live in houses of a size they can afford.

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