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Keeping a 3 bedroom council house when your children have grown up

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Iwishitwerewarmer · 03/04/2026 07:41

Just pondering - what are everyone’s opinions on a single parent raising their children in a council house/housing association house and staying there once their children have moved out? Should they downsize into a one bed flat/smaller property or is it their right to remain in their home/neighbourhood?

Added extra - they have looked after the property well, have landscaped the garden, installed a new kitchen and generally added value to the property.

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Choosos · 03/04/2026 17:12

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hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:13

Why is it always the people who have the least who are being made out to be the bad guys?

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 17:13

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:10

People in private rentals pay rent forever too. I don't understand your point and it also doesn't mean that you've 'paid off' your property just because you pay money to live somewhere. Especially when it's only 50% if the market rate. Have you heard of interest only mortgages? People can pay repayments forever and never own their homes. You don't get to claim some weird moral ownership because the amount you paid would have covered the principle amount. That's not how things work.

Where do families go now when they can't get a property? If it's good enough for them then why isn't it good enough for council tenants house blocking?

I didn't say I had paid off my property. I was making the point that I worked and paid tax. Some people in private rentals get help with their rent from the dwp even if they work full time as their rents are so high.

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 17:14

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:13

Why is it always the people who have the least who are being made out to be the bad guys?

I don't know but it seems to be a recurring theme on here

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:14

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:10

And how many times must it be said SH tenants are tax payers too.

Private renting is also subsidised by the tax payer through HB to help people pay the extortionate rents. Not getting worked up about that though, are you?

Yes, but everyone is a tax payer. Even my 8 year old son. The point is that we all pay tax and yet only a few are entitled to a 50% discount on their rent subsidised by everyone else unless you're suggesting everyone in social housing pays enough tax to cover this subsidy and all other public spending areas that they should fairly contribute to such as education and health?

Yes, private rentals are subsidised by HB so why aren't social housing tenants keen to just switch to a private rental? Because we all know they are not comparable. I won't get worked up about people in an inferior position whilst life tenancies exist that cause house hogging and families to live in disgusting conditions.

BackToLurk · 03/04/2026 17:14

They think that private renters don’t get repairs done for them, council tenants don’t pay full council tax and council properties are banded differently for council tax, so don’t underestimate what other nonsense they may believe.

XenoBitch · 03/04/2026 17:14

kombuchabucha · 03/04/2026 17:07

It sounds harsh/socialist but I think anyone (private, rented or council) who has vastly more space than they require would be doing young families a favour if they would downsize and give young/growing families the chance to purchase/rent the bigger houses!

Guest rooms / home offices / craft rooms appear to be luxuries that these potential downsizers don't want to give up though. Obviously there's other factors, like moving costs, availability of other suitable housing in the desired location and the general hassle of packing up your things.

Ha, but that is a hard no from me.
I have lived in a pokey flat before. I am not doing it again.

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:14

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I'm not sure it's the SH tenants who are the cunts here.

x2boys · 03/04/2026 17:15

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:14

Yes, but everyone is a tax payer. Even my 8 year old son. The point is that we all pay tax and yet only a few are entitled to a 50% discount on their rent subsidised by everyone else unless you're suggesting everyone in social housing pays enough tax to cover this subsidy and all other public spending areas that they should fairly contribute to such as education and health?

Yes, private rentals are subsidised by HB so why aren't social housing tenants keen to just switch to a private rental? Because we all know they are not comparable. I won't get worked up about people in an inferior position whilst life tenancies exist that cause house hogging and families to live in disgusting conditions.

50% discount ?

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:15

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:13

Why is it always the people who have the least who are being made out to be the bad guys?

The people with the least are those stuck in temporary accommodation that can't access social housing. Don't you understand this? It isn't a victimless crime to under occupy a council house.

Dragonflytamer · 03/04/2026 17:15

XenoBitch · 03/04/2026 17:11

What is a "normal house"?

Paying someone else's mortgage?

Paying your own mortgage? Not having your life subsidised by a council/charity if you don't need it. Personally I think council/housing association housing should be assesses every 5 years. If there is still a need great stay there, if you no longer have a need and you can live in the "real world" then that should happen and someone greater need should have the house.

XenoBitch · 03/04/2026 17:16

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:13

Why is it always the people who have the least who are being made out to be the bad guys?

It is always the case on here. Punching down. Easier to do that, than to campaign for more housing stock.

Enigma54 · 03/04/2026 17:16

Dragonflytamer · 03/04/2026 17:06

Yes and they earn money that they should use to pay for a normal house like everyone else.

A “ normal house” What's that? Private rental?

Totallyfedupnow · 03/04/2026 17:16

BatchCookBabe · 03/04/2026 12:07

It's not. Private let is so expensive that £400 a month LOOKS cheap. It's not.

I don’t understand your argument.

Subsidy is not about what you or I or anyone else subjectively feels is expensive or cheap. (Maybe £400 for a new build house sounds expensive to you but it won’t to students paying £700 a month for a crappy single room at uni)

Subsidy is the difference between market rent (ie the private sector - what the property would fetch if you advertised it and anyone were allowed to rent it) and what rent is actually charged. In this case, as you’ve admitted that market rent is a lot higher than £400, the subsidy is the difference between whatever that is and £400.

Whosthetabbynow · 03/04/2026 17:16

Dragonflytamer · 03/04/2026 16:56

Anyone who has social house that is too big for them their family is a leach preventing a family in need from having one.

Leech

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:17

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:14

Yes, but everyone is a tax payer. Even my 8 year old son. The point is that we all pay tax and yet only a few are entitled to a 50% discount on their rent subsidised by everyone else unless you're suggesting everyone in social housing pays enough tax to cover this subsidy and all other public spending areas that they should fairly contribute to such as education and health?

Yes, private rentals are subsidised by HB so why aren't social housing tenants keen to just switch to a private rental? Because we all know they are not comparable. I won't get worked up about people in an inferior position whilst life tenancies exist that cause house hogging and families to live in disgusting conditions.

I'd take a look around some Council houses with mould and other neglected repairs if you want to see some disgusting conditions.

vodkaredbullgirl · 03/04/2026 17:17

Argh 😫

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:17

x2boys · 03/04/2026 17:15

50% discount ?

Social housing rent is often at 50-60% more affordable than private renting according to Shelter. Do you dispute their figures?

XenoBitch · 03/04/2026 17:17

Dragonflytamer · 03/04/2026 17:15

Paying your own mortgage? Not having your life subsidised by a council/charity if you don't need it. Personally I think council/housing association housing should be assesses every 5 years. If there is still a need great stay there, if you no longer have a need and you can live in the "real world" then that should happen and someone greater need should have the house.

Not everyone can buy.
So the people who can't afford to buy are paying the mortgages of private landlords instead. How does that make sense?

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:17

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 17:17

I'd take a look around some Council houses with mould and other neglected repairs if you want to see some disgusting conditions.

Then let those desperate to live there have it then.

Lomonald · 03/04/2026 17:18

Spanglemum02 · 03/04/2026 17:10

50 years ago ut was quite normal to live in a council house ,

It was yes, I didn't understand the rest of your post

Dragonflytamer · 03/04/2026 17:19

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 17:15

The people with the least are those stuck in temporary accommodation that can't access social housing. Don't you understand this? It isn't a victimless crime to under occupy a council house.

Exactly we aren't talking about people with the least in society. We are talking about people who have public assets that are beyond there needs, who are preventing those with the least from accessing them.

Whosthetabbynow · 03/04/2026 17:19

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Cos them’s the rules

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 17:19

Councils could easily adjust their rent upwards. My rent has gone up more this year than it has in the last 7 as part of my councils 7 year plan.

My council is also spending 14 million pounds revamping a sports facility while making cuts elsewhere. They aren't poor. If they wanted to raise rents they could easily do it

Blueshoey484 · 03/04/2026 17:20

Dragonflytamer · 03/04/2026 17:19

Exactly we aren't talking about people with the least in society. We are talking about people who have public assets that are beyond there needs, who are preventing those with the least from accessing them.

Some people in council and social housing have the least in society. Those on basic UC for example

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