To be upset that I have to cancel my plans for DH’s plans?

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DH mentioned a couple weeks ago that he’s made plans to see a friend on a certain date. At the beginning of this week, I told him that I want to go to the theatre and asked him if Wednesday or Thursday is better for him (we have a DC, so one can go out and the other one looks after DC) to which he replied ‘either‘. I booked my ticket for Thursday. This morning he tells me that he’s seeing his friend tonight. He acknowledged that he’d forgotten about it when I discussed my theatre plans earlier this week, but said that he had already plans in place for the 2nd April at the time I booked my theatre ticket and did mention this to me a couple of weeks ago, so his plans have priority. I kind of see his point but I’m also gutted, I don’t often go out and I’ve wasted the money on the theatre ticket now. I find it very hard not to be upset with DH. We don’t have childcare available unfortunately.

Why are you still with this guy? Seriously. So he forgets a random get together with one person he knows and some others he doesn’t (so not that important then). You check the date and make plans which involve buying tickets. He eventually realises HIS mistake but he expects you to be the one who changes your plans and ultimately wastes money?? You’ve bought tickets while he is planning to do what, drink with people he doesn’t know? Why can’t he bow out of his none-event?

The gentlemanly thing to do is for him to accept that he gave you the green light for a night off, so you invested money in tickets and it’s not fair to go back on that now and expect you to fix his mistake by sacrificing your plans.

If it was his brothers stag do or something maybe he’d have an exceptional case, but it sounds like a nothing-important night with people he doesn’t even known? He can easily skip it.

It’s so irritating to see men’s bad behaviour reinforced. Why would he ever bother being a grown up and keep tabs on his plans if he can royally mess-up but their are no consequences because someone else changes things and makes it okay.

Throwing money at new tickets is a dick way to deal with it. He should’ve cancelled with his friend (he doesn’t know the others to even cancel with) and rearranged something with this friend, not difficult.

Sorry this is his fault so his plans can’t happen. Or he pays for and organises a babysitter

Absolutely this. Why is bad behaviour always excused in men? I know the second of April has past but if he did go out and you do not, please question this. It’s not your responsibility to remember a random date, it is his.