AIBU over chair?

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Hi, grateful for any perspectives. Son is home from Uni, and wants to sit in his 'usual' chair in the living room. This is the one he has always tended to sit in. However, since he went to Uni, husband has taken to sitting in that chair. Husband wants me to support that it is now 'his' chair, and is angry that I'm not supporting him in that. Son is in halls with only a desk chair and I want him to feel comfortable and welcomed for the short time he is back. Husband says this particular chair has better view of TV etc. I have offered him the chair where I usually sit, with good view of the TV etc, but that didn't help. Husband feels that I am not prioritising him. AIBU to think son should be able to sit in his usual chair when he is back?

They don’t have or own a chair. Like with my kids if they don’t play nicely they don’t play at all.

Tell them to agree - you’ll not be an arbiter. You’re supporting this dysfunctional dynamic. If it starts say - you’re both adults please address this with each other and you walk away.

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Why is it your issue

Tell him to grow up and sort his own shit out, manchild

Is there some reason why your son would be uncomfortable or unwelcome in a different chair?! You getting dragged in to something trivial like this is just mollycoddling the pair of them. Whoever gets the seat first sits in it and if they want to squabble about it, let them. They’re both adults ffs

Tell them both to grow up and leave you out of it.

I hate these situations. Family members squabbling over stuff whilst the mum tries to please everyone, and her comfort and choice of chair is utterly irrelevant and not worth even considering.

I'd tell them to grow up and sort their shit own. I'd also privately tell my husband that he's a man child and I find that deeply unattractive.

Tell them you're having the chair. Problem solved.

Husband should be cooperative and make your son feel at home.

First come first served surely? Why offer up your chair, don't be a doormat.

I find your husband petty and I’d assume this isnt his first rodeo in the petty world.

we all tend to have our chairs in this house, or sofa positions. I can’t perceive this sort of argument and my husband would just give our child the chair

the sheer pettiness of it must give you the ick. I’d tell him to shift his arse and grow the hell up.

Offer to cut the chair in half?

You have the wisdom of Solomon

You sir in the chair and let them fight over the other one.
But does your son spend that much time sitting in chairs with his parents that it’s worth arguing over?

YABU. First, it's not your job to sort ths out. Second, your husband owns the chair (jointly with yoiu I assume) and it's his/both of your house - of course he gets to sit where he wants! Pandering to your son like this is not exactly going to do him any favours in terms of teaching him to grow up, not be a selfish idiot and to respect what others may want. Your son does not need to have 'his' chair to feel welcomed and comfortable. It's just his preference.

Or Miss Peregrine, in her home for peculiar children. When twins are fighting over a teddy bear, she rips the bear in two, gives them each a half, and they seem happy.

God almighty, there is less than zero percent chance I would be getting involved with their ridiculous bickering. Embarrassed for two grown men arguing over a chair and involving mummy to sort it out 🙃

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Perhaps this gentleman has the answer. (Southwark Cathedral, and he has been known to sit on the bishop’s throne).

😂oh my god OP, this is ridiculous. Shut them both in the living room and tell them to sort it out/ fight to the death over the chair. Or remove all chairs. Or claim the chair for yourself.

Whoever gets there first gets to sit in it , seriously this is the sort of thing you expect from small children . Our son was visiting at the weekend and sat where I normally sit so I sat somewhere else which is the normal way to behave .

Give them the death stare and tell them they are not toddlers they can figure it out together

Not your monkey not your circus

Christ, what a dysfunctional bunch.

Definitely get a dog. Our dog sits in whichever chair she wants and we move round accordingly. I blame OH, he moved the dog's other chair in to the dining room. Now all chairs are fair game.

Cage match!

Winner gets the chair.

Of all the fucking stupid shit to fight over.🙄