AIBU over chair?

[Undertheviaduct]

Hi, grateful for any perspectives. Son is home from Uni, and wants to sit in his 'usual' chair in the living room. This is the one he has always tended to sit in. However, since he went to Uni, husband has taken to sitting in that chair. Husband wants me to support that it is now 'his' chair, and is angry that I'm not supporting him in that. Son is in halls with only a desk chair and I want him to feel comfortable and welcomed for the short time he is back. Husband says this particular chair has better view of TV etc. I have offered him the chair where I usually sit, with good view of the TV etc, but that didn't help. Husband feels that I am not prioritising him. AIBU to think son should be able to sit in his usual chair when he is back?

Or someone should take the 'essence' of the chair (ie cushions) while going commando...

Friends s3 ep2 (I think)

Blindfold the pair of them, spin them round and round, play some music and go to the pub.

I'll tell you something @Undertheviaduct. My fanjo would be clamped shut for the next decade or 6 if I were married to that babyman

Just ignore them both - I could not be arsed in engaging with such an embarrassingly petty issue.

Why should you prioritise him over your son?
Son should always come first.
But, this is a blood chair. Whoever gets there first can sit on it.
Your husband sounds like an arsehole

They should both grow up!

I would sit in the chair myself or throw the thing outside - what a deeply unattractive trait for your dh to have

My DH has his own chair - recliner with best view of the telly. Kids each have a lower ranking chair/tv position. That’s because he pays for every damn thing and they pay for eff all. Seems fair.

A showdown at dawn might be a good way of
sorting it out. Alternatively knock their stubborn skulls together.

Son does not sound mature enough for university, maybe he should go back to kindergarten.

Move the chair so that it doesn’t have the best view of the TV.
Is your husband your son’s father? That may be the problem.

This. Uni son makes way for those who work, pay bills and support everyone’s lifestyle. Imagine if DS went in the uni bar and started bitching because he didn’t like the seat he ended up in. Teenagers sit on the floor of the train station and are perfectly happy. Support your DH.

As your husband is presumably there more often than your son, your son is going to have to suck it up and find another chair. Although it’s clear from your OP that you would rather your son had it

And does your son pay enough keep so that you aren’t out of pocket when he does come home? I’m guessing probably not, so why would he get priority?

I would be inclined to make the son feel welcome when he's home, especially if he's only visiting a short time, and offer him the favoured chair. Depends on personality dynamics though. If the father is a rather authoritative type (I have personally known such types who exude calm authority and everyone just naturally follows them), then probably father gets the chair 🙂. Either way, stay out of it!!! Don't get taken into such trivia.

Presumably he’s not being forced to sit in the garden!

There is no need to ‘hail the conquering hero’ either. If he doesn’t pay his way then he gets what he gets

@Undertheviaduct solve the problem and sit in it yourself.

First come first served.

It's a chair FFS!

Is your husband his dad? I'm guessing not. He sounds like a massive man child bellend. He'll be marking his territory next and the chair will stink of piss.

Team DH. Since when did kids get to decide who sits where?

I put yabu because you shouldn't be entertaining this shit. Tell them to sort it out themselves!
Other than that I think you could:
A) sit on the chair yourself and tell them both to fuck off
B) cage fight (as suggested above) winner gets the chair
C) burn the chair in the garden and dance naked around it.

Is your DH your DS's dad @Undertheviaduct ?

If not how long has he been around?

Sounds like they are having a pissing contest about who is "Alpha" - which is just tiresome.

Is dh, ds dad?

This was my first thought, is DH your son's dad?

How do these men navigate life if they behave like this over a chair?

I could not be married to a man like that honestly and I'd be ashamed of my son too if he were carrying on like that. Ugh