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AIBU for scrolling big penis videos after husband keeps commenting on boobs?

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MelonsVAubergines · 28/03/2026 22:07

I have pretty small boobs. Not non-existent but certainly not of notable size or the first thing anyone would notice about me.

DH has always loved big boobs. Not a porn addict or anything but all of his social media algorithms are clearly influenced by lots of looking at ample chested women. Fine, whatever. He also has a habit of constantly commenting on boobs in media. We were watching a film just now where a female character is based on a character in a game. The woman in the film had absolutely massive norks. He starts banging on about how the actress's boobs are tiny compared to the game character, finds a pic, starts waving it at me.

I've asked him repeatedly not to bang on about boobs. I accept he likes big boobs despite the fact I don't own a pair, it's probably my own issue that I feel uncomfortable when he's going on about them because I hate mine after 2 x pregnancies and significant weight loss. But tonight is yet another instance of him not being able to keep his big boob loving mouth shut (this happens repeatedly).

So instead of once again reminding him that I'd really rather not discuss giant boobs with him at every opportunity, I've scrolled through videos of gigantic hard cocks while he's still rabbiting in about boobs. He has ED issues and while he's not poorly endowed the monsters I was looking at were significantly larger than his.

He clocked what I was doing and started huffing. I parroted what he says to me when I ask him to shut up about boobs, "but they're not as good as yours" using the same half arsed tone and everything. Funnily enough he wasn't impressed and has stropped off to bed saying it's not the same and I'm being completely ridiculous.

AIBU?

OP posts:
TrashHeap · 30/03/2026 08:42

lxn889121 · 30/03/2026 06:34

Firstly.. yes, he sounds like an arse, and had it coming.

But I am going to slightly push back on the idea that they are the same, and it is a fair comparison. Yes, both are about size, and yes both can relate to a preference...

But there are also differences that make it a bit less fair.

Penises are much more essential to the success of sex. Breasts don't determine whether a man "feels" anything or not, whereas size/shape/ED issues directly impact what a woman feels. Hence why men can get far more depressed about it...

Equally, Women tend to support other women, and there is a societal pushback against shaming women for the size of their chest. Imagine going to a group of women and saying "My husband said a bad comment about my small chest!!" - you will get sympathy (as in this thread) and get told that plenty of men love smaller chests.

But if a man came to a group of men and said "My wife made a bad comment for the size of my small cock!!!" - he will get teased, humiliated and laughed at by the other men (and women) around him. No one will say "hey mate, look its fine, there are plenty of women who love small dicks."

Also, lets be 100% honest, there are plenty of men who like smaller tits... but are there really women who openly declare their love for small cocks? I've known men who are full of admiration for smaller breasts, but I've never met a women who openly goes looking for small cocks...

However, in the other direction. Breasts are far more visable/open, whereas men can "hide" their size in public.. so that would be an area where pensies are actually less sensitive as a topic.


So, yes he had it coming, and yes it was fully deserved.. but no in general, I don't think they are entirely fair comparisons. and the insecurity and worry on both sides is a bit different.

Edited

LOLLLLL

Penises are NOT essential to the success of sex, what on EARTH are you on about?

NancyJoan · 30/03/2026 08:44

HAHAHAHAHA

daisychain01 · 30/03/2026 08:48

Your DH sounds insufferable. It's like men who ogle women walking down the street, they are so tedious and rank.

OP, love your body shape, it's what you have, it works and it doesn't matter what your DH does, don't let him erode your self-esteem or doubt yourself.

dont get into a tit-for-tat about it, dont get dragged down to his level.

why haven't you left him, he clearly doesn't like you and wants to be with large breasted women, so let him head off in that direction. How can you bear it.

toottoot3 · 30/03/2026 09:04

Perfect, keep doing it every. Single. Time
He might start getting nasty if it makes him uncomfortable,but that's all on him, saves you hanging around any longer than need be.
Openly discuss his ED anytime he starst his shite in public too. He only feels better by being stuck with Mrs no titties by passing on his annoyance to you.... Those tits might be small, but they still work!

Horses7 · 30/03/2026 18:03

Brilliant - do it every time he starts again!

Sleepingwiththelightson · 30/03/2026 18:06

MelonsVAubergines · 29/03/2026 09:55

Thank you for all your responses, especially the men in grey joggers tip.

Also, yes I am immature, and I don't care.

Finally please don't fight on a thread about willies.

I think I’ve found a new username: please don't fight on a thread about willies.

Snakebite61 · 30/03/2026 18:08

MelonsVAubergines · 28/03/2026 22:07

I have pretty small boobs. Not non-existent but certainly not of notable size or the first thing anyone would notice about me.

DH has always loved big boobs. Not a porn addict or anything but all of his social media algorithms are clearly influenced by lots of looking at ample chested women. Fine, whatever. He also has a habit of constantly commenting on boobs in media. We were watching a film just now where a female character is based on a character in a game. The woman in the film had absolutely massive norks. He starts banging on about how the actress's boobs are tiny compared to the game character, finds a pic, starts waving it at me.

I've asked him repeatedly not to bang on about boobs. I accept he likes big boobs despite the fact I don't own a pair, it's probably my own issue that I feel uncomfortable when he's going on about them because I hate mine after 2 x pregnancies and significant weight loss. But tonight is yet another instance of him not being able to keep his big boob loving mouth shut (this happens repeatedly).

So instead of once again reminding him that I'd really rather not discuss giant boobs with him at every opportunity, I've scrolled through videos of gigantic hard cocks while he's still rabbiting in about boobs. He has ED issues and while he's not poorly endowed the monsters I was looking at were significantly larger than his.

He clocked what I was doing and started huffing. I parroted what he says to me when I ask him to shut up about boobs, "but they're not as good as yours" using the same half arsed tone and everything. Funnily enough he wasn't impressed and has stropped off to bed saying it's not the same and I'm being completely ridiculous.

AIBU?

If it was vaginas you would be justified. But boobs? Aren't all men fixated on them?

aquitodavia · 30/03/2026 18:11

PollyBell · 29/03/2026 02:53

And looking up big penises is a smart response?

It's a pretty perfect way of showing him how it feels, yes.

RS1987 · 30/03/2026 18:28

Fantastic response op, keep it up. So to speak.

wellstopdoingitthen · 30/03/2026 18:30

@sharkstale I had teasing from my parents about my small boobs too when I was younger. My dad would announce (in company) that he recommended using baby bio on my ‘scratched gnat bites ‘. It was awful and my mum just laughed along (as did the guests). I guess it was the 1970’s idea of humour. It didn’t help that my older sister had huge boobs.
Two babies and a few decades later they are a dd cup.

Pinkissmart · 30/03/2026 18:39

Your husband sounds gross.

CocoaTea · 30/03/2026 18:43

BlueDressingGowns · 29/03/2026 07:13

Hmm I suppose it’s technically possible that seeing OP looking at pictures of dicks might lead to a moment of clarity where he suddenly understands the impact of his own remarks, but somehow I doubt it. More likely they’ll just end up in a stupid tit for tat row, OP will lose the moral high ground and end up feeling sad and grim about having spent an evening objectifying men.

OP yanbu to find his behaviour hurtful. I’m not convinced all the “you go girl” posts on this thread have been very well thought through and doubt the people posting them would do this themselves. I think you’d be better off talking to him. If that doesn’t work you may want to reconsider the relationship.

It says in OP’s post that she has tried to talk to him, on more than one occasion.

MMUmum · 30/03/2026 18:49

Netcurtainnelly · 28/03/2026 22:15

How immature it all sounds.

My thoughts too ! Is he stuck at 14 yrs old🤔

DilemmaDelilah · 30/03/2026 19:25

I quite understand why you would do that. I just don't understand why you would want to!

I'm straight, I like men, I like what they do with their penises, I just don't think they are very attractive to look at!

Didimag48 · 30/03/2026 19:58

That[s HILARIOUS!!!!

BlueDressingGowns · 30/03/2026 21:02

CocoaTea · 30/03/2026 18:43

It says in OP’s post that she has tried to talk to him, on more than one occasion.

I know but I’d try it again before ending it. Then for me it would be over. I wouldn’t be getting into some silly arms race of looking at porn.

WhatMyNameis · 30/03/2026 21:03

HAHAHAHA YOU FUCKING LEGEND 👏👏👏👏👏🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍👍👍👍

whynot90 · 30/03/2026 22:42

Good for you OP! it was a great response. It really sets the scene for quite a conversation.
Like the one I had with the rector at my school in the late 70’s - having got fed up with the centre page pics being put up in our sixth form common room (and tolerated) I got my sister to get me a male pic - the guy was enormous and erect (🤢). It caused mayhem and almost resulted in the termination of my education. The lady pics were subsequently banned (even in the janitors’ rooms - only in the 70’s, eh?).

BeenThere2Often · 30/03/2026 23:03

Laughing my head off!
Good on you Girl. 🥇 🥂

AnonDadUK · 31/03/2026 12:00

This is gold, from a male, well done you!😂

Ironfist · 31/03/2026 12:05

Hahaha 😂 you're brilliant 👏

Paveparadiseputupaparkinglot · 31/03/2026 12:07

I had to reply to this!
What a prick he is!
I have small boobs and have always been jealous of women with big boobs. My mum was the same when I was growing up so she hasn’t helped my insecurities!

My husband never comments on boobs but I couldn’t watch stuff with women with big boobs as it gave me the rage! Why your husband feels the need to comment is totally beyond me, what a selfish prick!

I have become more secure and actually agree that big boobs are appealing (I am bisexual also!) so the tv stuff isn’t a thing for me anymore but if my husband commented it totally would be!

when we first got together, his mates would always call a friend of theirs ‘Katie big tits’ and I hated her (didn’t know her but I was jealous) and I said oh how would you feel if I had a friend called Johnny big dick and he said well I wouldn’t care but am sure he would!

total double standards and your DH sounds unbearable!

ForNoisyCat · 02/04/2026 13:12

MelonsVAubergines · 28/03/2026 22:07

I have pretty small boobs. Not non-existent but certainly not of notable size or the first thing anyone would notice about me.

DH has always loved big boobs. Not a porn addict or anything but all of his social media algorithms are clearly influenced by lots of looking at ample chested women. Fine, whatever. He also has a habit of constantly commenting on boobs in media. We were watching a film just now where a female character is based on a character in a game. The woman in the film had absolutely massive norks. He starts banging on about how the actress's boobs are tiny compared to the game character, finds a pic, starts waving it at me.

I've asked him repeatedly not to bang on about boobs. I accept he likes big boobs despite the fact I don't own a pair, it's probably my own issue that I feel uncomfortable when he's going on about them because I hate mine after 2 x pregnancies and significant weight loss. But tonight is yet another instance of him not being able to keep his big boob loving mouth shut (this happens repeatedly).

So instead of once again reminding him that I'd really rather not discuss giant boobs with him at every opportunity, I've scrolled through videos of gigantic hard cocks while he's still rabbiting in about boobs. He has ED issues and while he's not poorly endowed the monsters I was looking at were significantly larger than his.

He clocked what I was doing and started huffing. I parroted what he says to me when I ask him to shut up about boobs, "but they're not as good as yours" using the same half arsed tone and everything. Funnily enough he wasn't impressed and has stropped off to bed saying it's not the same and I'm being completely ridiculous.

AIBU?

Ha ha. I love that you’ve out played him st his own game. Well done 👍

Jillybloop393 · 03/04/2026 04:30

Yanbu one little bit! He's an insensitive twat, and I love how you handled the situation. Do it every time he harps on about big boobs - I bet he gets the message pretty quickly!

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