AIBU for scrolling big penis videos after husband keeps commenting on boobs?

[MelonsVAubergines]

I have pretty small boobs. Not non-existent but certainly not of notable size or the first thing anyone would notice about me.

DH has always loved big boobs. Not a porn addict or anything but all of his social media algorithms are clearly influenced by lots of looking at ample chested women. Fine, whatever. He also has a habit of constantly commenting on boobs in media. We were watching a film just now where a female character is based on a character in a game. The woman in the film had absolutely massive norks. He starts banging on about how the actress's boobs are tiny compared to the game character, finds a pic, starts waving it at me.

I've asked him repeatedly not to bang on about boobs. I accept he likes big boobs despite the fact I don't own a pair, it's probably my own issue that I feel uncomfortable when he's going on about them because I hate mine after 2 x pregnancies and significant weight loss. But tonight is yet another instance of him not being able to keep his big boob loving mouth shut (this happens repeatedly).

So instead of once again reminding him that I'd really rather not discuss giant boobs with him at every opportunity, I've scrolled through videos of gigantic hard cocks while he's still rabbiting in about boobs. He has ED issues and while he's not poorly endowed the monsters I was looking at were significantly larger than his.

He clocked what I was doing and started huffing. I parroted what he says to me when I ask him to shut up about boobs, "but they're not as good as yours" using the same half arsed tone and everything. Funnily enough he wasn't impressed and has stropped off to bed saying it's not the same and I'm being completely ridiculous.

AIBU?

Quid pro quo.

Well played. You need to do this every single time he starts on about boobs. Every single time.

Do you honestly thinl he will change his mind and not like them anymore?

It all sounds childish

He can like them all he wants. However it's really not appropriate to endlessly mention it to his wife, especially as she has asked him to stop. It's disrespectful.

@MelonsVAubergines I would have done the same and everytime he starts up, I'd do it again.

@MelonsVAubergines if he likes them so much, why did he not date then marry someone with his preferred size?

@MelonsVAubergines, you are a bad, bad person.

And so am I because yes, I laughed.

What a great username op 🤣 well done you! This will have more impact then crying to him about your feelings ever could

Yes, I agree!

Yeah but HE started it …🤣🤣

Oh well done. Well played!

Seriously though - eww, how do you put up with this?

This is my question too. If big breasts are his physical type, why did he marry you? Did this never come up during your dating phase? Having a preference is one thing, but he is going over the top and being rude and insensitive with his behaviour. Your response was quite clever and it showed his double standards. I would have a serious conversation about his immaturity and whether you both are actually happy with each other.

And looking up big penises is a smart response?

It is the perfect response!

I hope he has a impressively long list of redeeming features because the way you’ve described him here, he sounds repulsive, and not marriage material.

Exactly. I'd also add in that some of the world's richest men are married to women with smaller breasts and seem perfectly happy with them.

I don't think I could be married to, or even go out with, a man like that.

It's what that man deserved. Nothing wrong with a bit of 'taste of your own medicine', even if it is childish. That man's behaviour is demeaning and damaging his wife's self image. Most decent men make their wives feel beautiful

Omg I don’t do Reddit. This is so funny and exactly how to handle a man like this. My brother is all about big tits and he was very demeaning to me growing up. Sadly the internet and Reddit didn’t exist back then.This would have put him in his place!

Your brother was demeaning about his sister's body? You should have told him he was no male model, and to stop being a creep.

Fair play to you OP.

You could also remind him that an actress is a real woman while a game character is a work of imaginative art with deliberately exaggerated proportions.

It’s not quite the same thing but I’m a tall, broad-shouldered brunette. My ex had a thing for tiny, petite-framed blondes. He also wanged on about it all the time and made me feel very much “less than”. No issue with partners liking a certain thing but there’s absolutely no need to be disrespectful arseholes and constantly broadcast the fact. Hence why he’s now an ex, much to his chagrin.

Don’t let him make you feel inferior because I promise you, you’re not 💐

I really hope it makes him see how cruel he’s been. FWIW, DH would never behave like this.

He's being totally disrespectful, he obviously must know it's an insecurity of yours? , it's hurtful, glad you gave him a taste of his own medicine , it will hopefully make him think twice ?

Well it's never occurred to me you could find porn on reddit 🤣

No Yanbu. Honestly I think he's doing deliberately to hurt your self esteem, or push you into a boob job.

Hmm I suppose it’s technically possible that seeing OP looking at pictures of dicks might lead to a moment of clarity where he suddenly understands the impact of his own remarks, but somehow I doubt it. More likely they’ll just end up in a stupid tit for tat row, OP will lose the moral high ground and end up feeling sad and grim about having spent an evening objectifying men.

OP yanbu to find his behaviour hurtful. I’m not convinced all the “you go girl” posts on this thread have been very well thought through and doubt the people posting them would do this themselves. I think you’d be better off talking to him. If that doesn’t work you may want to reconsider the relationship.

So what would your response have been? OP has tried talking to him and asking him not to, multiple times. Sensible communication obviously doesn't work. Some men are too thick to see how much they're hurting their partners so a little taste of their own medicine doesn't go amiss. OP is married to and has a family with this man, so isn't going to hop straight to LTB.