AIBU for scrolling big penis videos after husband keeps commenting on boobs?

[MelonsVAubergines]

I have pretty small boobs. Not non-existent but certainly not of notable size or the first thing anyone would notice about me.

DH has always loved big boobs. Not a porn addict or anything but all of his social media algorithms are clearly influenced by lots of looking at ample chested women. Fine, whatever. He also has a habit of constantly commenting on boobs in media. We were watching a film just now where a female character is based on a character in a game. The woman in the film had absolutely massive norks. He starts banging on about how the actress's boobs are tiny compared to the game character, finds a pic, starts waving it at me.

I've asked him repeatedly not to bang on about boobs. I accept he likes big boobs despite the fact I don't own a pair, it's probably my own issue that I feel uncomfortable when he's going on about them because I hate mine after 2 x pregnancies and significant weight loss. But tonight is yet another instance of him not being able to keep his big boob loving mouth shut (this happens repeatedly).

So instead of once again reminding him that I'd really rather not discuss giant boobs with him at every opportunity, I've scrolled through videos of gigantic hard cocks while he's still rabbiting in about boobs. He has ED issues and while he's not poorly endowed the monsters I was looking at were significantly larger than his.

He clocked what I was doing and started huffing. I parroted what he says to me when I ask him to shut up about boobs, "but they're not as good as yours" using the same half arsed tone and everything. Funnily enough he wasn't impressed and has stropped off to bed saying it's not the same and I'm being completely ridiculous.

AIBU?

He sounds…basic.

Sometimes a taste of their own medicine is the most effective way to make people realise how it feels. Keep on doing it if he continues!

You tried talking to him, it didn't work. Your new tactic is genius! 😂

That's nothing, my DAD ripped me for my flat chest all my life. Until I got a boob job 🙄

This is true .
It doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship.
I’m separated now , I wouldn’t have liked or tolerated if my husband behaved like this .
To be honest it’s just weird anyway .

Absolutely brilliant. Hopefully that’s shut him up
for good.

Great idea, I’d look at some well-fit bodies w six packs and great pecs. More attractive than massive dicks ;unless dh is a gym bro!

Im so sorry op this is incredibly hurtful you deserve a lot more.

Can I ask op why you don't think he could be a porn addict?
You named at least three things that would track with being a porn addict/sex addict. Obviously no one can say he is over the Internet. But actually if you don't want to leave the relationship but you want to explore options to improve the situation then actually elements of recovery for porn/sex addicts would be the way to go. Things like therapy for entitlement and learning empathy. (Essentially therapy to emotionally mature)

Whilst it feels incredibly personal op he likely would be the same if he was with someone who had giant boobs too. I've counselled women with similar partners who started off being their partners 'ideal fantasy' untill they wasn't because they became comfortable and not new anymore. The novelty wore off.Some of those women were dancers and cam girls that fit a certain look the men were after, for a time.

I like it the pettiness loving it. It serves him right. You’ve asked him multiple times to stop banging on about big boobs but the chaps clearly got a one track mind.

For anyone else you don’t need to verify on Reddit just use a vpn. For those who don’t want to scan Id documents or even a ageing photo.

Your brother shouldn’t have been commenting on his sister’s tits. Very odd and inappropriate.

I can’t imagine an appropriate setting where it would be acceptable to show him big hard cocks in return.

My brother was also a huge bully and would make comments about my body, and when I was a teenager would ask inappropriate and invasive questions about whether I was sexually active. It’s all fair game to a bully. I stopped having a relationship with him when I was 17.

As for the point of the thread, perfect response, well played!

Yeah, sidenote on the comments, why is a brother and a father commenting on their sisters/daughters boobs?! That's not normal... Surely...?! And to think retaliation to a brother using big dick pics would be normal? If any of my male relatives mentioned mine, I'd want to know why they're sexualising their family members 🤢 very weird, imo.

It is immature and petty OP but while you're at it, make sure he sees you googling 'men in grey joggers'. Every time he sees a man in grey joggers, he'll be wondering if you're eyeing them up like he likely makes you feel when a cleavage catches his eye. But on a serious note, how the hell do you find him attractive?? I couldn't bear to listen to his shit and constant boob obsession.

The "if you can't beat them join them" mentality rarely works in this situation. It's assuming the ops partner has the same emotional intelligence to even register it could be hurtful. This won't stop him behaving this way he already very clearly sees this as acceptable behaviour it wont effect him in the same way at all. In some cases it's free reign and approval to see what I'm doing is normal because she's also "looking at what she likes" doesn't hurt me so shouldn't hurt her.

The worst case it becomes a fantasy in itself. Many couples where a partner wanted to make her partner jealous to show him how it felt. He then just became obsessed with her looking talking and being sexual with other men.

Fair enough. Tit for tat, as it were.

When you go anywhere, point out EVERY man in grey jogging bottoms with that thing swangin' as it does so visibly in grey joggers, or lycra lad cyclists or whatever, and drool over their clearly visible cock and balls, out loud to him.

And then, when he's good and upset and flinching every time he sees a man in grey jogging bottoms, and doubting his very self worth and whether you even care or find him and his semi-useless cock attractive at all... Then and only then become single. He's gross. Your boobs are great, don't waste them on a porn-addled troglodyte who gleefully and purposefully makes you feel shit every fucking day.

Let’s not make it a competition. My dad died when I was 16. None of what my brother did and said to me was nothing. You don’t have any idea.

Good on you!

Fight fire with fire.

I wasn't 👍

I won’t comment further on that. Let’s just say some boys are terribly immature and fantasy about what I might have done to put him in his place and the reality are going to be somewhat different.

Then please think of the impact of what you are saying before calling another person’s life experiences nothing.

Go online and order the most obscenely long and girthy dildo you can find. Comically large.

Display it prominently.

After a week or so, leave it next to the bin. Casually mention that you're getting rid as it's not quite doing the trick, and you have a bigger one on order.

It wasn't meant so seriously 🙄 it was light hearted. Obviously my experience wasn't great either or I wouldn't have gotten into 6k of debt to have surgery.

Is it Easter hols! You know silly stories from teens.if not this is beyond parody..you both need to grow up already!

Thank you for all your responses, especially the men in grey joggers tip.

Also, yes I am immature, and I don't care.

Finally please don't fight on a thread about willies.

He sounds like his is still a fifteen year old boy in his head. He deserves a taste of his own medicine, silly sod!

If you are on TikTok you’ll find a load of big willie under joggers / shorts thirst traps. To add to the petty fuel.