To be annoyed by this note pushed through my door - photo

[catgirl1976]

I’ve recently moved to this street.

I know it’s politely written but it’s so passive aggressive.

The “end of the road” in question has a primary school on it. There were no spaces there at 830am when I needed to park. And there was someone in the space outside my house so I parked about two door down from my house in the only possible space.

I also have a blue badge.

AIBU to be annoyed? No house number on it so not sure which neighbour sent it

Definitely apply for a disabled parking bay.

I could not ignore this - not at all
this would enrage me to the point id knock ( loudly at 8.:30 ) on the door and say ( politely) “ ive come to talk about tour note “ and then just head tilt wait and stare and watch her / him squirm

no way id be able not to respond to that note the tone if it is so fucking condescending

Ignoring it is the sensible reaction tho

Urgh, what a prat. Who does that!

What a nasty little comment. You seem weirdly angry with the OP for some unfathomable reason, but there's no need to make such a spiteful remark, especially as OP hasn't mentioned her 'pip payments' at all and that's none of your business. A little compassion for blue badge holders wouldn't go amiss.

Writing smug little anonymous letters with smilies isn’t very neighbourly either….

I agree. It's polite but totally spoilt by the fact it's anonymous. Therefore writer knows she's being "off". The writer should have introduced herself and where she lived and then explained what they try and do. Anonymous notes are rubbish and cowardly.

I would definitely apply for a bay outside your house!

I mean it's a reasonable idea if it works but in this case it didn't!

I wonder if the person outside Op's house also got a "polite note"?

This is undoubtedly an older/ retired curtain twitcher with nothing better to do or worry about

is there a street WhatsApp group?

I suppose whether or not you think the note is passive aggressive depends on how you perceive the tone of it. A few points make it pass-agg for me: reference to 'we all', which suggests a shared culture and 'the done thing' which the OP is falling foul of, reference to being 'neighbourly'; there will be many interpretations of what neighbourly behaviour is but the letter-writer is trying to dictate that their approach is the only way and anyone not falling in line is therefore unneighbourly, and the 'thanks in advance' which basically assumes your cooperation. Perhaps some people genuinely do read this as a polite note but I think it is fairly obviously passive aggressive because of those points; it attempts to present a sweet veneer while making digs and making it clear that should the OP not comply, she will be an outcast. The letter-writer might just as well have put; 'On Wednesdays we wear pink'.

Actually yes.. that's true @guinnessguzzler - I was more annoyed my anonymous aspect of it but those points are what makes it really "off

The writing doesn't look like a retired person's.

Hope you are renting!

Laminated! 😂

Anything that calls itself a 'polite notice' is lying from the off.

'Pass agg' may have been more accurate.

Not a nice note at all, ignore it. Also blue badge space is a good idea.

However I don’t think posting it on an internet forum is great either.

Also the fact of it being a note. Just chap the door if there's a problem!

And the anonymity.

Anonymous letters are horrible.

Ignore. It's my policy to disregard anyone who can't cope with "joined-up writing" (as they used to call it in infant school).

I’d definitely apply for the parking bay to be marked outside your home OP. The note writer can harp on about their unwritten parking arrangements if they like. I wonder if they had a meeting about this or is it just observed behaviour…
I visited a friend once and their neighbour knocked and said that my car was in their parking space. I said ‘no, I’m parked on the road’…apparently it was his space on the road. Whatever! I left them all to their batshit system and went home!

Going to guess this was from the person whose house you parked outside. I’d post it back through their door with a note on the reverse:

‘Not sure if this was from you as I parked outside your house this morning. Just to clarify - you are right, we do not own the road outside our homes and, sadly, when people are unneighbourly enough to park outside my house it means I cannot park there. This makes life doubly difficult for a blue badge holder as there is generally no parking outside the school by 830, either, and it is some distance from my home. Perhaps address your pique elsewhere, as I shall continue to park as close to my house as I am able and will display my badge when doing so.’

Id passively aggressively post it on NextDoor saying how upset you are and as a blue badge holder you just parked as close to your home as you could and are so so upset you upset your neighbours... proper ham it up to show how entitledly cunty they are

At certain times of year, we park outside our neighbours three down rather than our own. This is because there is a tree outside ours that drops sap that is very damaging. We do choose the neighbour with their own off-street parking and a front hedge which means they can't see our car...

Our street has loads of off-street parking (more than houses).

unfortunately they only give you a space if you have the top enhanced PIP benefit, that was my local council anyway. Having a blue badge is not enough sometimes 🙄

This is exactly the response it needs. Someone will be the correct recipient. The other neighbours will all understand the issue in case it happens again and you are forced to park outside their house.

Ah, a note like that tells you so much about its writer. They’ll be the sort of smiley ‘nice’ type who’s a nasty little authoritarian just under the surface.
Quite the little snapshot of a certain type.

I would be worried if I parked in the same place again that my car might be keyed. The author of this letter is entitled and, as the OP says, passive aggressive. Tbey have no right to be laying down the ‘law’.