To be annoyed by this note pushed through my door - photo

[catgirl1976]

I’ve recently moved to this street.

I know it’s politely written but it’s so passive aggressive.

The “end of the road” in question has a primary school on it. There were no spaces there at 830am when I needed to park. And there was someone in the space outside my house so I parked about two door down from my house in the only possible space.

I also have a blue badge.

AIBU to be annoyed? No house number on it so not sure which neighbour sent it

This. We live in terraced houses and quite a few people have put in drives so spaces are a bit limited. Some houses have three cars so there's just no way be m could park outside their house even if they wanted to.

Sounds like they have too much time on their hands! Also if the 'rule' is you're supposed to park at the end of the road, then what about the people who live in those houses, or is it ok to inconvenience them?

My neighbour has 'no parking' painted on her garden wall. She has a driveway, so it's not even as though she needs the space. She told me she just doesn't like to see someone else's car when she looks out of her window! I always smile to myself when I walk past and someone is parked there, I can imagine her twitching at the curtains fuming!

Why was his height relevant?

I'd post it on the local Facebook page with the caption "As you've no doubt noticed, my car has a blue badge, therefore I always try to park outside my own house.
Thankyou in anticipation of your understanding."

Then again I can be very petty.

I really need to understand why people are bothered when someone else parks outside their house.

We have a driveway but really only functions for one car, although you can squeeze two on if absolutely necessary. DH uses the drive. I park outside our house. Sometimes, I get home and the neighbour had a visitor or her daughter staying for the weekend and I just, "oh there's no space there. Where is there a space? Oh here's one across the road. I'll go there instead." And then I go in my house and give it precisely zero thought until I come out of my house and forget my car is over the road and have to pretend I wasn't about to get in the neighbour's car!

We have neighbours though in our what's app group who moan about people parking outside their house. Or a neighbour who has a massive driveway but sometimes parks on the road outside their house, I assume so no one else can. And then our neighbour on the other side gets panicky if he gets home and someone is in his space. He has asked my mum to move before now so the space is free for when his wife gets home. My mum had only called in for a quick drink. (Also, for context, our road isn't one of those where it is bumper to bumper parked cars. There is always a space one or two houses along or opposite. It's not like you have to park in a different street or miles up the road if you can't park outside your house).

I just don't get it. Why does it upset someone that there is another car outside their house? Please can someone explain the stress it causes
(I understand if you have a disability, that is different but in that case you should have a disabled marked space outside your house).

Is it just me who can see the point of the note though, if there’s plenty of parking ‘at the end of the road’ and it’s not too far to walk I suppose it makes sense as you could park there and move your car when your space is free.
Admittedly it’s a bit of a faff but it does make some sense and could work well.
I would just find it difficult to be so outraged at a nicely written note 🤷‍♀️
Just noticed you have a blue badge, in that case I think you can have a space marked outside your own house.

It’s not nicely written - it’s passive aggressive.

I always think if these people want to park outside their house that much they should move somewhere with a driveway

I thought OP said that didn't always work because of a school being there... But I really meant there needs to be a proper conversation not a one-way note!

Missing the point entirely, but why do so many adults have such bad handwriting and write in such a basic, childish print? Were they not taught cursive?

Anyway, ignore this mimsy little note. Park wherever there is a space and leave the small-minded twits to curtain twitch.

Why?
Do you know what passive aggressive means?
The note its not threatening in any way, its simply suggesting and very politely in my opinion the words passive aggressive are totally overused and misunderstood.

Oh my goodness, how bored must she be if she has time to laminate the letters 😂

The OP clearly states that when she arrived home, there were no spaces at the end of the street.

The anonymous neighbour could have knocked on OP's door to talk about parking or signed their name/put their door number on the note.

Putting a smiley face at the end and calling it a 'polite notice' does not make it a 'nicely written note'.

No I don’t believe anyone under the age of 40 was to be fair.

Do you understand what 'patronising' means?

It's not a unreasonable request. Ultimately, it works for everyone or against everyone. If every neighbour has agreed, it makes a mess of the system when one new comer decide it doesn't apply to them.

There's no right or wrong. Everyone understands it's only a neighbourhood agreement not a legal right. However, there are many other legal ways for them to make life harder for you too if you do go with it. Is it worth it? Conflict can escalate so quickly and easily. Deascalating it is much harder if even possible to do.

It's not PA, it is polite though. It would have carried more weight if the sender signed it. They did acknowledge that you don't have to do anything about it.

Just ignore if that's the way you feel.

Hang on a minute, if the space outside OP's home were free she would have parked in it. Which means one of the long term residents has broken the 'rule'. Why is it OK for them to break the rule but not Op? Surely the more neighbourly thing for the note writer to do would be to remind the other neighbours of the 'rule' now OP's house is occupied. Instead they chose to pick on the new person.

Honestly OP in your situation I would apply for a BB space outside your house.

My sons are early 20s and both have lovely, cursive writing. They went to state schools. I’m 53 and I notice several of my friends around this age also have this blobby, childish print. Luck of the draw, I guess.

I expect you will have to wait until Christmas to find out who has written it 😁

I can’t believe anyone so precious about parking lives on a road with a Primary school on it.

I think your upset is because they have given you no right to reply. The note isn’t rude, but it is passive aggressive and I sssume theyve been watching your movements to know it’s your car and know what house to put the note through.

Personally i would find the local residents group, post that along with whatever you feel like saying, and get your right of reply.

Yes and it’s the word that you should have used, not passive aggressive.

I haven't used the words passive aggressive

so...its must be the occupier of the house you parked in front of then...go knock and explain...