AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

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DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this.

AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

Well if you’re adults you should be able to control yourselves around children at the school gates, especially your child who has asked you not to because it makes her feel uncomfortable.

This is pretty hideous behaviour from adults around their own and other children. No problems seeing adults in their household being affectionate to each other, but this sort of performative bollocks at a very early stage in a new relationship, which will be a difficult time for the children anyway, is awful.

OP hasn't said if dd has met her bf yet or not, has she? Just that she was update with the OTT PDA. My point, in all my posts, is that kids will always be embarrassed by their parents and despite it being a bit movie-ish, it was just a kiss. Rather that than misery, no?

Obviously the daughter has met the new man if she’s with her when they’re kissing in the playground.

Now normally I am 100% behind the theory that men get an easier ride and they are usually the most to blame.

However here it is the OP’s daughter who is distressed by the “displays” and the OP is the only parent responsible.

I’m not doubting the “partner” is a prize bellend though….

Well I’m guessing she knows who he is anyway. Movie-ish implies something romantic - this sounds anything but

Fucking act like one then. Noone 'fondles' one of the other kids dads in the school playground in front of all the kids. Your dd is probably getting the piss taken out of her every day. She is repeatedly asking you to stop. You are embarrassing her and yourself.

Why would you want to “fondle” outside of a school infront of children you utter weirdo?

Good Lord, grow up!

It would be considerate of other people and your child, and it would be the adult way to behave.

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Wait till the kids have gone in, then do the "Dirty Dancing Lift" 💃 🕺

Urgh this is awful, your poor daughter. Even if it was her father you were kissing it would still be highly embarrassing for a young child to witness at the school gates!! Please do grow up.

It is though. 6 months isn’t that long when it comes to having someone around your children. It’s not long enough to fully assess any potential red flags. That’s why responsible parents wait considerably longer.

Fascinating- so many questions that I usually ask on politics threads! (edited to add - not these specific questions on the political threads!)

Where is your partner’s ex, his child’s mum, and how do you get on when she does school runs?

Does your child’s Dad ever do the run? If so how does that pan out with your new man, or his ex?

Is this before/after school - or both?

Is it on the way or at the gates, or in the playground? Last time I did a pick up we were herded at a gate then allowed to outsideish the classroom as they came out. Similar going in so do you get there nice and early for ‘couple time’? And/or are you still dirty dancing in front of the teachers when the kids are lining up?

Can you not even have 10 minutes after drop off/before pick up to perform or can you just not keep your hands off each other ever?

Do you actually only see him at school?

I think maybe you’re the kid whose mum kicked off at you getting it on with your boyfriend in the playground- he wasn’t there last week as he was suspended for gross behaviour and your mum doesn’t want you to be next.

I have seen many things in the school playground- and seen affairs play out - but never this - I feel like it’s something the school will be writing to you about whether as the miscreant yourself, or as the Mum of the miscreant, but do keep us updated on that.

Oh gawd the dramatics are killing me. 🤣🤣🤣

No child of any age wants to see its mother running up to a bloke at the school gate, leaping into his arms for an open gob pash, with her legs wrapped around him and steam coming out of her arse.

What's wrong with a quick smile and a wave?

It would be quite impressive, though.

Agree, agree, agree.

What must make 100 times worse for your daughter is the fact that you are screwing a fellow school parent! Bad enough that you are unable to keep your hands and tongues off each other for a few minutes - I imagine everyone witnessing that feels the get a room ick at your inappropriate playground pda - but she is having to deal with the fact that every single child in her class, every single child in his class and every single teacher and TA in the whole school knows the story behind your big romance .

Then act like adults fgs.

Oh no op. This is so inappropriate. How many other adults do you see kissing and fondling at school? I have never seen any. I would never do it because it would mortifying my dc. I suspect everyone else is the same, which is why we are not all getting it on at the school gate. Harmless fondling? No such thing to a child experiencing this from a parent. She is asking you to stop, it is a negative experience for her. That is not Harmless!

The op is the one on the thread and the one who should be considerate of her child. Thats part of the point, this near stranger random man who’s been in a relationship with the op for about 10 minutes has no responsibility towards her daughter. Behaving suitably as a parent is all on the op. Who claims to be an adult although nothing she’s said sounds like it.

It isn’t just about OP’s DD. The stuff OP describes is inappropriate near a school. The “random man” is also a dad of a child at the school really should be more responsible in his behaviour and may well be upsetting his own son equally (though a boy is less likely to say, as is any child to their dad).

Stop being so dramatic and manipulative. She's not asking you to stay single forever, she's just asking you not to act like a hormonal teenager in the playground. Hardly a big ask. Stop embarrassing her.

Why would you choose to have your reunion at school gates? Bizarre