AIBU for kissing DP on school run when DD dislikes it?

[Werze]

DD has had yet another massive go at me after school today. I broke up from her father when she was v young. Didn’t date for ages. Met a school run dad (now DP) in September, knew each other for a while then dated and went from there. Obviously we can’t see loads of each other so school run is one of only opportunities in week. Naturally happy to see each other and embrace/kiss as any normal couple would. DD kicking off saying she doesn’t want to see this.

AIBU? She can’t expect me to remain single for ever surely ?

Practically shagging at the school gate

You are being very, very unreasonable and I feel for your daughter. You’ve been dating for 6 months - DC shouldn’t even be meeting boyfriends/girlfriends until minimum 6 months into a relationship (longer is generally advisable, after you’re out of the honeymoon period, for the reasons you demonstrate). He isn’t your ‘partner’, he’s your new boyfriend and DD is having to contend with this huge change in her life and on top of it see her mum snogging on the school run.

Yes, you absolutely can date. But (next time) keep your child out of it until you’ve been together longer, properly know the person, and can keep your hands off each other in front of the kids - above all in public and especially on the school run!

then act like it. And FGS put your DD first. She doesn’t like it( you not only ignored that, you did it on her turf.

Grow up. And reassure your child she comes first.

God, I'm cringing for you and your DP. Kissing and cuddling on the school run is wildly inappropriate. Grow up, get a room and stop embarrassing your poor children.

I’m with your DD. This sounds nauseating. Meet up few minutes earlier and get your canoodling out of the way before the kids come out of school.

You’ve been dating for 6 months - DC shouldn’t even be meeting boyfriends/girlfriends until minimum 6 months

Wait...what? So, OP has met the 6 month threshold, no? And, could you link the rules, please?

This sounds embarrassing behavior. I hated having to explain’s mum’s partner at that age. School is her space.

Don’t be ridiculous. It’s just that most responsible parents don’t involve their new shag in their kids’ lives when they haven’t been together long.

Tell me, how many other parents do you see hugging and kissing each other at the school gates?

Cast your mind back for just a second and imagine this is your mum and someone else's dad on on the school run...it's social suicide for her it will get ooooohhhh kissy kissy comments at best and potentially some more Inappropriate ones. I would have been mortified if my mum.n her shag were acting like a rom com at the gates

Met last weekend at the pub: new shag
dating SIX MONTHS: not new shag
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@Werze oh dear. Are you now cringing yourself or still thinking you did nothing wrong?

Also he’s hardly a partner after 6 months. Get a grip OP and think of your daughter. Can’t actually believe how selfish you’re being.

While I always appreciate a gratuitous Keanu gif, OP said she MET him 6 months ago. THEN dated, THEN went from there. So the relationship is not 6 months old.

Even it was 6 years old, snogging at school would be gross.

And if it makes any difference to OP, yes I've been a single mum who has re-partnered. And I met my new DP through mutual kid stuff. Still think it's gross.

i find this all a bit odd to be honest. I understand you may be excited to see your DP but you really sound like you don’t understand the impact on your DD who is only 11. My DD is 12 and I can see what a difficult age this is as they are so much more self aware and are full of angst and worry about who they are and how to be. The fact you have a DP at all after so long must be terribly hard for your DD who has had you to herself for so long. She must undoubtedly be worried about what this all might mean for her. School is her place, it’s not like being in a restaurant or something. I wish you every happiness but performing your romance in this way at the school gates when you’ve been together such a short time time is really not ok to me. Yes you may both be excited but you have to put your DD first here. Surely you can wait so it’s not all in front of her. I find it strange that this is even a question. It’s not to say don’t enjoy your new relationship, but things need to be centred on limiting negative impact on your DD.

Yes SIX MONTHS - that’s fuck all in the general scheme of things. So still in the dribbling over each other honeymoon phase.

You can’t know whether someone is likely to be long term by then especially as apparently they only really see each other at the school gate.

Of course, bringing new men into your child’s life is apparently okay if you are Katie Price but most normal people put their children first 🤷‍♀️

Perhaps the DD is uncomfortable with her mum acting like at 16 yo at the school gate and also perhaps she is concerned that he will move in? Or perhaps she’s getting a lot of shit at school for it.

So. Gorgeous.

Perhaps. 🤷‍♀️

Also describing your DD as “kicking off” is just so dismissive. She has legitimate feelings here and I’m surprised your focus is on how it’s impacting you rather than her.

It’s op’s daughter that objects to her mother’s behaviour.

And OP who asked the question.

It’s still new in terms of introducing them to your kids.

In all fairness, it doesn't sound like OP introduced him at the gate. 😁

Yes so it is only op to blame for not taking her daughter’s wishes into account and still choosing to have a snog at the school gates.

Obviously the man is a participant but it is indeed op who’s to blame in terms of upsetting her daughter.

What’s your point? 6 months IS early to introduce your new relationship to your kids.