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The selfish people show themselves

Bang. Bang. Bang. Footballs against the fence.

Parent. Your. Children.

Its unacceptable

Just take them to the park ffs

What is not parenting about children playing in the garden with a ball?
It is much better for them than sitting on the sofa with a phone.
How do you see it as unacceptable?

Do you never mow the lawn? Use the strimmer? Have a barbecue?

I live in the row of terraced cottages in a cul-de-sac. There's a big grassy area in front of the houses, and the kids all come out in summer, with footballs and rugby balls (boys and girls, these days), and some little girls bring out a table and chairs and some have some kind of teddy-bears picnic, and I think that's lovely. Even when a boy broke my bedroom window with a ball a while back, but it all got sorted out amicably enough. It's great to see kids out in the open air, having fun.

OP says they are repeatedly hitting her garden fence. Would you allow your own children to do that?
I have a very small garden. My children went to the park to kick their ball about.
Of course these days kids have to contend with dogs off the lead who 'just want to play' puncturing their ball, but that's a whole other thread.

Exactly. People are deliberately ignoring that part or are outright saying it’s okay to bounce a ball against someone’s wall/fence repeatedly.

Either they just want to pile on the Op or they are the kind of selfish adults who allow the kids in their care to be like that.

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They can scream inside around their parents-you know, the people who wanted kids. Why should parents get a break from screaming and everyone else has to put up with it instead?

lota of posts on this about children screaming - that’s not what the OP said. She said kicking a ball.

If you don’t want to hear children after school before dinner being outside on a sunny afternoon, move somewhere isolated or not family friendly (like a flat in a development aimed at professionals), or you know, don’t be at home in the afternoons. If you choose to WFH in a family friendly area having moved into a house with adjoining garden, you’ll probably hear kids from 3:30-5:30 playing.

It is perfectly possible to arrange your life in a way that you don’t have to be exposed to young family noise. You just have to be prepared to make an effort to think things through.

Children should not be stopped from playing with a ball in their own garden because another adult is too lazy or stupid to make changes to their own life.

I love the sound of children playing , having fun outside .
The wee one next door to me on one side is wandering about playing, chatting to his mum , dad and the dog .
It is very cute .
Sometimes they have people over and I hear them chatting while the children play .
The other side ..seems they can’t play without screaming like bloody murder and kicking balls against the fence .
I often feel like the parents just can’t be bothered to go out and quieten them down AND it’s not just a couple of hours .
It goes on in the summer till late
And no , none of the kids are ND or have any learning disabilities.
She isn’t a poor frazzled mum , has loads of help , kids are all school age too .
Really annoys me .

Kids are allowed to play in their gardens.
Move to the middle of nowhere in a detached house if you don’t want to be disturbed by other people just living their lives.

Do you include kicking a ball on a shared fence as considerate playing?

Not purposely, no, but kids playing football in their garden, yes. If the ball hits the fence as a part of that play, I think that’s normal and acceptable.

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Right, well that’s not what OP is complaining about is she.
So many people have twisted what OP has said to make her out to be a child hater.

It's not acceptable for the ball to keep bouncing against a garden fence that is shared with other homes...

HTH.

I get you, I have misophonia too, summer kills me! The boys next door kick balls constantly and the park is literally at the bottom of the garden, and they are 16 and 9. Old enough to bugger off!

I have understood the OP’s post to be hyperbole! Kids kicking a ball deliberately against a fence would drive parents mad too.

No. The people with children who love to scream and screech and bang bang bang their footballs against the garden fence (or garage door!) can move into the middle of nowhere in a detached house. THEY are the ones causing a nuisance, and causing people stress! Why should childrens need to be screaming, and constantly kicking footballs against the fence, always trump the desire of people who want peace and quiet - and to not being driven mad by the noise?

Everyone has a right to quiet enjoyment in their own home and garden!!!

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I don’t know why you assume hyperbole, she sounds frustrated and upset.

I guess it was her suggestion that the kids be taken to the park. She doesn’t like kids playing in their garden.

You, like many on this thread, have obviously never had the joy of your wall being used for football or tennis practice!

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Allowed to play, yes. But do you think it's fine and dandy for kids to scream their heads off in the garden for no reason?

And it's breathtakingly entitled to suggest those who mind should 'move to the middle of nowhere'. I'd say it's the parents who can't be arsed parenting who need to do that.

If the noise is bothering you or is too early then talk to their parents, but you're unlikely to get much sympathy complaining about children's noise on mumsnet.

Children are allowed to play in their gardens.

Huh? OP didn't say they are screaming their heads off.

They're kicking a ball against a fence. Annoying perhaps, but it's hard to know what the actual noise is like from the post.

Kids kicking a ball around their own garden is normal and doesn't in itself mean parents are doing a bad job, as OP is implying.

If my DC was banging a ball against a fence or a neighbour’s wall/a wall adjacent to the neighbours then I’d have some VERY stern words and it would stop the very second I became aware of it. I’d then lecture my DC re: having respect for others around you! It’s basic decency. Treat others how you would expect to be treated yourself for goodness sake.

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