AIBU to think primary schools should not audition children for choirs?

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Dd is 9 and loves singing. She goes to her school choir after school group and goes to signing lessons outside of school. She has competed (and won) at the Eisteddfod.

Yesterday she came home from school very upset, unbeknownst to us she had auditioned for a place in her choirs Christmas show which will be on tv. She didn’t get in. There were 3 children in her year that didn’t get in. DD was devastated and very upset about it.

Today she came home upset because the teachers had taken the new choir group to practice and DD had no one in her usual friendship group to eat with. She ended up eating with another girl in her class who hasn’t been very nice to her recently.

I feel really upset for DD, she sings all the time and will tell anyone who listens how she wants to work in the theatre when she is older. I am aware that the school probably had a limited number of places but I feel like they should have given places to all year 6 and year 5 pupils rather than what they did which was allow year 6 and pick selectively between year 5 and 4.

AIBU to think that schools shouldn’t have auditions for choirs at primary school level.

it not a small handful, we dont know how many year 5s got chosen and about half of year 4 got to go.
Nobody knows what the children were told. OP is upset because her dd is upset, nobody knows how long the practise is going on for, when the actually event is, why they chose the children they chose,

You'll get nothing but criticism from some people on here OP.
It's no bloody wonder there's a mental health crisis, schools can be brutal and damaging places. Parents are cottoning on to this and home schooling is reportedly on the rise.
I feel for your DD. How cruel.
My DS was refused a place in the school choir because he's a boy and boys "just mess about".
Luckily they got a new music teacher who welcomed and encouraged lads and he sings in a band now.

If your daughter has won at the Eisteddfod , but didn’t make the school choir, the standard at the school must be phenomenally high (which is unusual). Either that or something else is at play.

@MimiGC , I read it as OP's DD is in a choir and that choir won at the Eisteddfod yr Urdd, not that she won there.
I also read it as all of year 6 are in the choir, and the remainder from year 5 and 4.

@PlaygroundSusie , why can't they still practice with the choir as understudies or something? Choir practisce is not fun, it's repetitive and if you'd been practising for weeks on end, being left out of the actual event would be pretty bad.

I think that the OP's account is not the whole story.

When the lists of participants are published it should also say 'There will be no further discussion', parents should be ignored if they're so argumentative on their child's behalf. It seems that parents have the stupid idea that they are able to dictate to the schools, they should not have such easy access, and certainly not to individual teachers, if they perceive a 'problem' they should make an appointment, just like they do to see other professionals.

OP hasn't been argumentative.

But she has sent a few emails.

She sent one to the school and when they didn't reply her Dd's class teacher suggested she e mail the choir teachers.

Being effectively selected as 'one of the few worst' is totally different from 'you weren't the best', and would be much harder to shrug off.

Its also the fact that the whole situating is having a massive knock on to her entire experience of school and will do for some time to come is significant.

Its not an after school thing that she can just forget about not being involved in.

Would have made a lot more sense for the school to say all Y5 and 6 and none of Y4, then no one specifically gets left out.

If the tv company had a problem with that, the school should be advocating for their pupils welfare and explaining why leaving out just a few isn't going to happen.

Nobody knows what was said,how many were actually needed. A few days of not having anyone to play will be forgotten in a years timex

How have things been since you posted OP?