Couple brags

[DallazMajor]

I may be just miserable and bitter but here goes.

it boils my piss when people refer to their OH as their “rock” and that they wouldn’t have got through “XYZ” without them.

A). Yes you would
B). How do you think it makes people who don’t have a partner feel.

Am I BU?

I was married to a man who went out of his way to make me miserable. I never begrudged anyone who had found their rock. Why would you? It’s a really odd attitude.

I don’t have a problem with them thanking their partner etc - I usually think ‘fair play, you do you’. I can’t relate to the OP’s issue at all because she admits she resents couples as she isn’t happy being single

Surely this post has to be rage bait.

You clearly don't know the difference having a support by your side can make, especially when experiencing some horrendous things in life. I'm quite sure there are plenty people out there who literally couldn't have got through 'XY and Z' without their partner. Me and DH have been through some tough times together but last year I experienced something extremely traumatic and without my partner I wouldn't be here today. Did you think how YOU would make other people feel when you posted that? Minimising people's experiences of situations THEY have been through, not you?

To be honest you sound like you are full of jealously because other people clearly have what you must so desperately want.

Since when did it become people's responsibility to not share their experience or praise their partner for fear of what a single person might feel..... Ridiculous!!!

So are people not supposed to talk about any positive aspect of their lives for fear of offending or upsetting others? Boasting is one thing, but normal conversation about a supportive partner? You are being too sensitive.

I'm so sorry about your mum, losing your mum is hard and no wonder you're feeling alone. Nothing will make it better but wanted to offer a hug xx

I find people praising their partners in hyperbolic terms on social media a little bit cringeworthy, but I think you’re unreasonable to suggest no-one can praise their partner because it might upset someone who’s single. It’s also massively patronising to suggest that single people give a fuck that someone else is in a relationship.

It’s also massively patronising to suggest that single people give a fuck that someone else is in a relationship

Yes this is a good point. It’s never crossed my mind to patronisingly think oh my poor feeble lonely single friends will simply burst into tears the moment I mention my DH! That’s because all my single female friends are capable, confident adults who arent going to mentally collapse the moment they notice a couple out in public 🙄

If I was worried about that outcome then I would suggest they get some mental health support

You sound bitter. Maybe get yourself out there.

Sorry but this is just silly. Are you against people calling friends and family “rocks” as well. I mean for me several people in my life have helped me get through tough times and I would have been in an awful place without their support . What’s wrong with that ?

This . The big long soppy posts on social media I’ve seen from people saying how much they love their OH are just stupid and fake . I remember a woman I knew posting one such post on Facebook years ago on her boyfriend’s birthday and confessing her undying love for the world to see. They broke up a month or two later .
Mentioning in passing that your OH has helped you and supported you through tough times I don’t see the issue with .

My ex-husband referred to me as "his rock" he still cheated on me at every opportunity over a 20 year period. So whilst everything may look rosy from the outside, it doesn't mean that is reality.

I get it. I know a couple who post that kind of bs on their social media profiles all the time but are horrible to each other in person. It's like what's the point? I swear they're only together because they both know how to swindle people so they don't pay for anything themselves. There's nothing wrong with genuinely loving your partner and sharing it, it's the over the top, over compensating stuff I can't stand!

My husband is bloody amazing, helped me through some serious health issues. He is the constant in my life and no I couldn't have done it without him. He is my rock.
No not bragging I know I am so so.lucky but so is he because as a couple we are a great team. Lesson from this is never accept 2nd best. There are amazing men out there

I don't get it either tbh. Just highlights how reliant they are. Someone who doesn't have a partner should feel relieved that they don't need other people to survive!

One expression I don't like is "my other half". I'm in a very happy relationship but I'm still my whole self on my own, I was before him and should something happen I will continue to be so. No one should need someone else to "complete" them as it were. That's just my opinion though and wouldn't expect everyone else to share it.

It also makes me feel a bit nervous for them. I got through the worst periods of my life alone and being resilient self reliant is very important to me.

What a nasty little post.

You wouldn’t be able to talk about anything if you were worried about upsetting people because they aren’t in the same position. I mean is it unreasonable to talk about my children in case I upset people who can’t have children? So on and so forth.
Who are you surrounded by? Maybe we should swap, most people I know in long term relationships are miserable and it makes me so glad I am single. I do know a few people who are in very happy long term relationships and I think it is lovely, sort of restores my faith in relationships a little bit. I love seeing other people happy.

The same could be said about many things surely?

What about infertile people constantly hearing about how children are the only thing that matters. How in some situations people wouldn’t want to live if it wasn’t for their children. Their children give them purpose. That you never know real love unless you have children.

I’m also sure a very poor person doesn’t need to hear about how sad a rich person is and that money doesn’t buy happiness.

Yes, I would’ve got through hard times alone and would still be here to tell the tale. However my DH has made life’s rollercoasters bearable and has helped me carry the weight. For example, when my mum died my DH helped clear her house. He truly is my rock and I can’t imagine life without him.

Life is too short to be bitter.

Better to be grateful for what you DO have.

I voted YABU, but when personal circumstances aren't as hoped for, it can take the patience of a saint to not feel at least a twinge of irritation. Don't go into a compare and despair loop though, as it's pointless and draining.

Part of me thinks they arnt quite telling the truth if im honest (just the ones who brag all the time) but ive met some couples who go on and on oooh I couldn't have done x without y by my side if they hadn't been there i dont know WHAT I would have done

All my friends hate their husbands haha. They usually say they’re wastes of space and expect them to do everybring and they don’t know how they’d manage if they became single fathers.

i would roll my eyes at it a bit as a newly divorced person but it doesn’t offend me. Most men are about as useful as a rock (hahahah)

hopefully now when you hear it you’ll remember me comparing men to rocks and snigger a bit 🙈😂