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"Not all men” replies are ridiculous

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GarlicFound · 19/03/2026 21:07

Generalisations exist for a reason. There's no need to point out that there are exceptions. When you want to highlight that your comment's universal, you say "All children", for instance. Generalising to "Children" implies "Children in general, for the most part, usually".

Everybody knows this. So there's no need to specify "NOT ALL MEN" each and every time anyone makes a general observation about men, goddamit!

You don't say "Not all dogs [have four legs]" or "Not all ice-cream [is cold]".

Having a penis doesn't make you especially vulnerable to generalisations. So grow up, please, and accept that YOU or your DH are not "all men" - general comments aren't intended to single you out. And if you feel like they are, you're a bit thick, not to mention narcissistic.

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GarlicFound · 21/03/2026 11:21

Lugol · 21/03/2026 11:11

I had to finish a comment the other day with NAMALT because otherwise I would have be launched at by the NAMALT brigade 🙄 so I had to quantify it in advance.

I honestly didn't realise that so many people can't do the logic.

I know a lot of the replies here - and on any related thread - are vexatious, but more than a couple seem to be serious 🥴

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financialcareerstuff · 21/03/2026 12:30

murasaki · 19/03/2026 21:23

It's a fair few of them. Otherwise there's one very busy arsehole.

I know this is a serious topic but you just gave me my laugh out loud moment for the day - thank you! 🤩

depacked · 21/03/2026 14:29

Swiftie1878 · 21/03/2026 09:19

You are wrong in how you assess your two underlined statements. They are both false generalisations. They are both FACTS, but cannot be generalised.
‘I stubbed my toe on Monday’ may be true, but is a false generalisation because I don’t habitually stub my toe on Mondays.

We’re getting into semantics, but those semantics are important if you want to win an argument, which we do (as women), to retain and reinforce our rights to protection against violent men.

I stubbed my toe on Monday is not a generalization

I Despair! 😩

That sentence is the opposite of a generalisation. It’s specific to that individual person. Can’t get any less general.

how about

woman gain 1-2 lbs of weight during their period

This is a generalization and obvious not all women will gain that amount or even have periods.

but I don’t hear anyone shouting “not all women”

depacked · 21/03/2026 14:51

Passaggressfedup · 20/03/2026 20:35

No. Men as a class are more violent than women. Because of this, the men I work with are more likely to contain a violent individual than the women, so I will risk assess accordingly
So what does risk assessing accordingly means in day to day behaviour?

I was at a networking conference this week representing the company I work for and I had spoken to both men and women during the evening.

It finished late and every attendee arrived on public transport, think busiest central city location with no parking. Near the end of the event a few women asked me which direction I was traveling in and we chose to all leave together. This was for safety reasons. This was intuitive, we didn’t discuss why but no one asked any of the men.

It was done casually and subtly and pretty much on auto pilot.

I may have preferred to carry on networking on the way home with one of the men but I took the precaution of the safest option,

TooBigForMyBoots · 21/03/2026 16:20

NAMALT brigade

That's a good way of describing them, I usually use "dick panderers" or "men".

Castieldeansam · 04/05/2026 11:47

Daniel sloss makes a good point.
if you can’t click on link Google Daniel sloss on rape in short videos https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFF0g_5t_Ma/?igsh=ZW5jdWxvZTIxaXFi

GarlicFound · 04/05/2026 20:31

Thanks, @Castieldeansam. "If you are sick of this narrative about men, feel free to change it, but you have to get involved."

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CurlewKate · 04/05/2026 20:49

If men and their water carriers put as much effort into policing other men as they do into policing women’s language then the world would be a better place!

CurlewKate · 05/05/2026 13:33

Just bumping hoping more people will see Daniel.

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