Mother’s Day - AIBU to say ‘let’s keep it in perspective’ on Mumsnet

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AIBU to say to everyone - let’s keep expectations low, keep calm - it’s Mothering Sunday… not your ‘big birthday’ .

a handmade or shop bought card is lovely

a bunch of flowers or a few chocs is lovely.

breakfast in bed is lovely

but so is a hug from your kid… or playing with them…

yes the ‘bits’ are nice but we don’t need them to be appreciated.

you’re appreciated every time they say ‘thanks mum’ when you make the dinner or help them with their homework.

for some, the appreciation might not come until your kids grow up and they become adults and parents - sometimes it is then that the penny drops… gosh mum did so much for me

every Mothering Sunday there is a barrage of posts about how the kids / husband / ex have made no effort into getting things / doing things or have done it wrong as the expectations of Mothering Sunday are really high.

You are blessed to be a mother - many for many reasons never get the chance… don’t get hung up on the trappings and the stuff… no matter how much or how little you receive today it’s just one day and it’s not a true reflection of love and appreciation.

keep it calm, keep it real !

All the things listed, purveyors of plastic tat, continue to exist and grow because people support them! Were the seller to be left with a huge pile of orange plastic rubbish at the start of November they may think twice about stocking it next Halloween. I saw New Years Eve boxes last year, another made up excuse to get money out of the gullible fools.

It’s been quite tame on here for Mother’s Day tantrums this year

Yes, and there's now a massive industry that caters to people who enjoy it, so they're not a minority here.

Look at all the people on this forum, moaning that Mothers Day didn't meet their expectations. It shouldn't be taboo for a person to say that this is contrived crap - and yet it is. Or to say that women who expect fanfare and parades for a simple choice they made, are baffling. Nobody needs a "special day" to do those things. And anybody who hinges all their value and recognition on one single day has bigger problems than Mothers Day.

And anybody who hinges all their value and recognition on one single day has bigger problems than Mothers Day.

Odd take. Nobody is saying this.

Or to say that women who expect fanfare and parades for a simple choice they made, are baffling.

A card and a small gift is hardly expecting a fanfare and parade. You're being very extreme.
You've made it clear you want zero fuss or attention but there is no need to put others down for feeling differently to you.

I'm biting in my replies because you're constantly challenging the mere fact that I disagree. It's cult-like. "Why is it nonsense", "Well it's unkind" -I've explained why it's nonsense to me. Repeatedly.

You don't like my reasons - fine, stop asking. And if someone finds it unkind - deal with it, other people don't live to serve you.

The reason I challenged your posts was because you were telling people that it was nonsense, guff and bizarre. This is the first time you've said this is how you feel rather than telling other women that their views are nonsense etc.

You are absolutely entitled to not want to engage in occasions such as Mother's Day - there were years when I couldn't engage with it at all due to losing my mum in very traumatic circumstances. But I didn't try to make others feel bad for wanting a little bit of a fuss.
That's how your posts came across.

You sound highly strung and are taking things personally which were never targeted at you.