Entitled school mum parking (with diagram)

[OneGreyBiscuit]

I will probably get flack for this but this is the second time this has happened in as many days. I get to school pick up early, parked my car noone in front and another car few metres behind. Another car comes and parks a few metres ahead. Another one comes and parks in between me and car ahead. Plenty of room to leave her car also bang in middle of both, but no she has to move her car as near to my bumper as possible. I move car back and she moves her car forward again right on top of my bumper. I beep my horn, she gets out of car asking why I did that, I said cos you've parked as near to me as possible, she says there's a load of room behind you, I said what if someone parks the same behind, then I'll move back she said (bear in mind she was leaving her car) and everyone's happy except you, i told her to sod off. And she parked over a dropped kerb. Aibu to think she could've just parked between the two cars leaving enough room both ways

Forgot diagram

Parking over the dropped kerb is more of an issue as once she's gone no one else will park there on account of it not being a parking spot and you'll be able to move.

When you see her pull up, move forward, then when she parks and gets out move back.

The only argument that’s valid here is that she was parking across a dropped kerb. The rest of it I would just shrug off.

She was unreasonable for parking over a dropped kerb.
But why didn’t you just park yourself a small distance from one of the other cars, rather than relying on others to leave space for you? If it’s a street where school parking is busy and spaces fill up, don’t leave big gaps - just park neatly next to another car, leaving just enough room to allow yourself to get out of the space if someone parks up in front of you.

What annoyed me was the fact that she pulled right up as near as possible to me when there was plenty of space between me and the car behind her to park in the middle of both leaving enough room for everyone

And when I moved my car back after she first done it she moved it forward again

But... she didn't have space to park bang in the middle of you and the other car because of the dropped kerb! Was she trying to leave enough space for the owner of the driveway to get on/off it?

In a place that you know is going to be busy for parking (school pick up general is), why would you choose to park in such an inconsiderate manner yourself? You've said that there was a car parked, and you've left a massive gap between them and you, rather than park up to the car already there, therefore forcing the next drivers to parallel park around you. Perhaps the other driver was making the point that you've parked inconsiderately? They shouldn't have parked on the dropped kerb, but you definitely aren't in the right with the rest of it.

I would assume she was moving out of the way as much as possible from the drop curb? And that’s why she was trying to get as close as possible to you.

other than that she sounds like she’s looking for an argument. Best not interact with people like that.

For me, this wouldn’t have been worth falling out with another parent. Life is too short and it’s more beneficial to be a friendly face with other parents.

She was parked over the dropped kerb regardless of whether she stopped in the middle or was hanging off my bumper so it made no difference

Speaking as someone who lives near a school, I’m used to inconsiderate parking but people beeping their horns for anything other than safety reasons are really annoying.

Because I parked behind the dropped kerb and there was another dropped kerb not far behind my car, if I'm parked behind the dropped kerb what's the problem? And where I parked is a five minute walk to the school as I was hoping not to have to deal with this sort of situation. If I'm there first why can I not park where I want? There shouldn't be anyone in front of me and there's room behind.

Why did you leave such a big gap between you and the car behind you? That was also inconsiderate. Surely if you know it’s going to be busy you park within no more than a foot of the other cars to make sure you’re not hogging space?

Please read my quote above, it's not even near the school

Why not park further away from school

Yeah I don’t really get this one. If you had space behind then I don’t really understand what the problem is. Surely you can’t expect people to not park in front or behind you on the possibility that someone else might appear later and block you in?!

Also, if you’re sat in the car, if another one appears behind and parks up your arse surely you just poke your head out and tell them you don’t have much room at the front and would appreciate them moving back a bit? Alternatively if she was leaving her car why didn’t you just reverse back once she got out?

But if you parked say, a foot off the car behind you would have space to get out however close she parked? And no-one could squeeze in behind?

Why are you so determined to leave all that space behind you? That could be seen as inconsiderate in a busy area.

I tend to agree with you usually I'm afraid but I was annoyed so there you go

Well obviously it is near the school given that you and her parked there to do the school run. She may have been rude, but you were both rude (beeping horn) AND inefficient (taking up two potential spaces).

So you parked up to the drop kerb? So no she shouldn’t have parked across the dropped kerb. However parking close to your car in a busy area is normal. It used to frustrate me when I was looking for a space and if people had parked a bit closer there would have been one but because they all left such big gaps there was no space

I don't think sod off was called for.

As I've already said there is another dropped kerb between my car and behind, I park as far away from the school as possible, don't park over dropped kerb, don't park an inch from someone's bumper but I'm the inconsiderate one?

Beeping horns and telling her to sod off was not a good escalation. YABU