Funeral directors share our private road - AIBU about what I saw yesterday?

[Habbyhadno]

This is such a random post but…

I live at the top of a private road just off a main road in a small town. At the main road end we have a funeral directors that faces the street, the building is tiny and it’s a branch of another directors in a neighbouring town where the directors is very much a shop front.

I thought this one would be the same, but they do seem to store bodies in there. We’ve had a fair few hearses park on our road as we turn into it (at the side of the shop), I literally have to squeeze my car up the road as obviously hearses take up a lot of space and the road isn’t wide at all, it’s a bit of an inconvenience but whatever.

However, last night me and my three kids 6,8 and 12 were heading out and we were all walking down the road and I spy a private ambulance with the back door open and clearly two bodies were in black bags in the back of the van.

There were two people out there about to start manoeuvring the bodies into the building, but I’m a bit icked out by it all, I don’t really think the kids need to see that and I felt a bit weird about seeing it (there’s not any other way we could have gone as the road is small and there was no getting away from it).

Do you think I should pop in and speak to them about being aware of who is around when they are unloading bodies or AIBU? I just feel like they could make the operation a bit more concealed rather than hoiking them out literally in the street, it seems a bit disrespectful and it’s been playing on my mind. What do I do?

I would more be of the point of a gate for respect and privacy to those and their families. If it were my loved ones I would be quite aggrieved and upset to see something like this (let’s face it probably local people’s loved ones there).

I would more be of the point of a gate for respect and privacy to those and their families. If it were my loved ones I would be quite aggrieved and upset to see something like this (let’s face it probably local people’s loved ones there).

I would more be of the point of a gate for respect and privacy to those and their families. If it were my loved ones I would be quite aggrieved and upset to see something like this (let’s face it probably local people’s loved ones there).

I would more be of the point of a gate for respect and privacy to those and their families. If it were my loved ones I would be quite aggrieved and upset to see something like this (let’s face it probably local people’s loved ones there).

People die, thats life. You live near to a funeral directors so it's really just something you'll have to deal with. Conversely we live nowehere near a funeral directors but walked past a house on our way back from school with a private ambulance outside and they were bringing out the body just as we walked by. I expained to the kids 7 & 9 what we'd seen once we were far away enough and they weren't horribly traumatised or anything.

I'm sure i have seen this post a few years ago

I’m presuming the funeral directors didn’t move in after yourselves? It’s a business , and a v important one at that. You can’t then be precious about the hearses if the bodies - any more than moving in next to a fish and chip shop and complaining about the smell of frying!! As others have said, absolutely no different to a coffin. People die, they have to be transported- as long as they weren’t being dragged along or treated badly - I’m sure they were on wheeled trollies - I don’t know what the issue is?

Could it be that the family wanted to see them in the "chapel of rest"? When my mum died last year i viewed her body in the coffin before burial and that was at the funeral directors, not the coroners office/mortuary. It was a small room with flowers, etc, not somewhere they would store bodies long term.

Or even I don’t know… perhaps start healthy conversations about the only thing in life we can be certain about. Death.

Yes, someone posted something kind of similar but it wasn’t me. Seems there are a lot of funereal dilemmas around 🥴

I don't think she is. This Funeral Company is not acting responsibly or professionally.

You know such a think as having respect for the dead?

People die and are buried - deal with it. I am sure your kids will be fine

It wouldn't bother me and I HNRTFT, but have read your updates @Habbyhadno but I don't think you confirm if it is possible for the private ambulance to back up to the doors of their building so they can take the deceased into their building. If not, then it doesn't sound like they have much choice. They probably choose quiet times of the day to take the deceased inside but perhaps there was no choice on this occasion.
The funeral directors will have needed the deceased on the premises for a particular reason. Perhaps the families wanted to view their relatives or Perhaps it was time for them to be prepared for their funeral.

Is this Funeral Director trying to run his business on the cheap? Talk about a cut price funeral. Dear Me

I think it is deplorable the way they are acting. Keep a diary and take some. photos. Then get in touch with your local council.

Good Luck

You would be aggrieved and upset at seeing your loved one being brought into a funeral home? In what way?
How would you know it was them?

Surely a huge number of people see their loved one get carried out of their home?

Oh my goodness this is ridiculous what are they doing that is so deplorable?? What is the OP reporting them for?? looking after the deceased in their care?

Genuinely wouldn't bother me. I see no difference to a coffin.

People die it’s inevitable, was the funeral directors there when you purchased the house ? If so YABU . I was coming home in the summer and as I turned the corner my neighbour was being brought out his house in a body bag out the front door onto the street . I knew he was terribly poorly and yes I was shocked but I just stopped and stood quietly until they did what they had to do. As long as they’re doing it properly and respectfully I dont think you can say anything at all . Maybe move house if it’s a problem but I don’t think you can approach them .

Seriously!!! Report them for what exactly.

are you this precious over death that happens to us all in the end.

I think the funeral directors aren’t treating the deceased with very much dignity. I wouldn’t want to think that one of my loved ones could be seen like that. With that in mind, I think they should wait until there’s no-one around before moving any bodies.

Its bit of a shock but its where we all end up. Id leave it.

if that’s the case they wouldn’t get fuck all done if waiting for the coast to be clear in case some sees a body bag.

Maybe you could email the business owners and tell them that people are finding transportation in body bags inappropriate so close to their home
there are such things as disposable-cardboard coffins ( used for natural -burials which would be an option what would your ideal solution be if you want the company to relocate contact your M.P /local council/planning department otherwise you just have to be tolerant I can think of many worse potential neighbours !

It's an established business - why should it change its practices because OP moved in nearby and doesn't like it?

They haven't done anything wrong.

Indeed, and it would be nice if the op could deal with it with a bit more respect rather than getting the "ick". You should treat the deceased with the same respect as the living. There's nothing distateful or icky about someone because they died.