Hens still havent paid me back?

[MyPurpleHeart]

I'm going away on a hen trip for my cousins wedding. When we booked it I paid for the brides share up front with the agreement the hens would pay me their share back. This was 6 months ago. We are a month out and despite me asking a few times, none of the hens have paid me yet. AIBU to ask for this to be paid within the next week? I have expenses for the trip which I was planning to cover with this that I cant yet. For context its around £400

Send your message and tell them they will be cancelled if they don't pay up by your deadline. Like others have commented NEVER do the same again ever!

Don’t be polite and send individual texts, send it in the group chat and name names.

They are hoping you forget. People do this all the time.

I think just send a message saying that if they don’t pay as agreed, you will be telling the bride that to go on her hen do she has to pay the £400 you are owed to cover her costs..

All the “ladies” nonsense, flowery shite and explaining why she needs the money is likely the reason they’ve zoned out. Probably got the chat on mute hence the complete silence last time she asked 😅

on 2nd thoughts, I’d send individual messages and bin off the group WhatsApp messages as they aren’t working

I’m amending my previous comment. I like this but it’s ’unless I get it back we won’t be covering the bride and I’ll have to tell her she will have to pay her own way because some of her friends refused to.

I opened this thread thinking the OP had ungrateful chickens...... 🤣

Do this! Perfect

What leverage do you have here, OP?

Do you have all the tickets and they are reliant on you?

Could you get the bride to give them a kick up the bum?

Have NONE of them paid? It must be a group decision not to pay.

As a last resort, tell them you will be cancelling one flight and one room for every week that you don’t receive payment.

Say the trip will be cancelled unless everyone sends you their share. Then follow through. Even if you can't get refunds it will be a strong lesson. I myself paid for everything for myself and bridesmaids for every pre wedding event.

Only because it gives a clear deadline and people pleasers feel more comfortable and confident using that line.

Yes, there's nothing wrong with being truthful though, eg "you owe me this money, please pay it" .

They voted in a poll expressing their agreement.

OP paid in advance on that basis.

They have had 6 months to express any concerns.

I dont see how you conclude that OP is “breathing down their necks”?

Hi All, as agreed we’re all paying £X to cover Bride’s costs. Please could I have this amount by Xth March as I need it to pay the final amount, otherwise we can’t go as I don’t have the funds to cover it.”

Send a reminder and attach a list of who is still to pay. Treat them like children.

I'm one of those! I have a hen in a few weeks and I am beyond looking forward to it, It is in a city I love and haven't been to for ages. I will be with loads of my family. We've a lovely looking restaurant booked. And I won't be Mum I will be just ponti for 2 whole day.

@MyPurpleHeart ye all agreed they are being cheeky. And every hen I have been on we have paid for the bride. I hate that side of it. Press them for it.

'Hi all, we agreed when we booked the hen back in October to pay for Sarah, it is £20 each. I paid up front for her which was £400. I cannot afford to pay that alone. If you are unwilling to pay towards Sarah's cost let me know ASAP as I will need to ask her to pay.

Yea because obviously the better thing is to be really shitty with a bunch of women you are going away with. It’s called passive aggressive. You should learn what that means

I suspect because it’s “only” £20 they all think it’s not that big a deal, but of course collectively it is! Start naming and shaming and thanking when people pay

This is the issue when booking something like this for everyone, when i arranged my eldest daughters hen doo i made sure those who were wanting to do the daytime activitys paid upfront for it then booked it all together, if they still wanted to go and hadnt paid they had to book it themselves
You will be lucky if you see any of this money now sadly

I thought it was to do with eggs and chickens not laying!🤣🤣

‘Hi All, this is my fourth time of asking and unfortunately I can’t afford to take the hit of you not paying, please pay by Friday otherwise I’ll have to cancel to get a refund and you’ll have to make your own arrangements’.

I think some aren’t going to pay because they’ve no intention of going now the time drawing close.

This is good!

The best way to not have anyone ‘breathing down your neck’ (which OP isn’t doing!!).. is to pay what you owe straight away, not leave someone out of pocket for 6 months