How long is acceptable to be off work

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After losing a grandparent?

For clarity. I was reacting to this post. It was just a passing comment as I didn’t feel that part of the policy was particularly generous.

I appreciate it’s the internet and people are sometimes rude but I do think we should treat others like we would in real life (hopefully not quite so abrupt). There’s no need for impoliteness when someone hasn’t behaved in that way towards you.

Funeral day only

No wonder the NHS is not fit for purpose.

A couple of days max.

If ur a Mum , who work anyway ?

I was allowed 5 days after my father's suicide. Just madness. It took me about 8 months to be anywhere near competent. I say take what you need.

I suspect it's just a standard return to work interview. 2 days would be reasonable anywhere I've worked.

1 day

My husbands mum died when he was 11 and he wasn't allowed to go to the funeral. I know how much it's affected him and am so sorry you had to go through that.🙁

Have you asked him what was said? When he called them to say he was going to be off as his granddad had died, did his boss say “okay no problem, hope you’re okay, see you Tuesday” or did they say “absolutely not, you must come in immediately.” If it’s the former, he has nothing to worry about. If it’s the latter, then maybe he has a problem. But I doubt it, it’s probably just a return to work meeting, we always have to have them if we’ve been off.

This is all my work would allow for a grandparent. It used to be very lax. They didnt mind and it was very much "as long as you need" then someone took 4 months off for an aunt that they had only met 5 times in their life.

After that they had a policy put in. Immediate family (mum/dad/partner etc) still lax
Anyone else, 1 day for the funeral and then take it as holiday or unpaid leave.

Public sector makes up their own rules

Oh that's so sad. I'm so sorry for him. Thank you for understanding it's a horrible time to lose a parent. Even worse for him if it was his mum. X

If he's on a zero hours contract then surely he can take whatever time he wants off as the employer won't have to pay him. He let them know and didn't just not show up. If they are difficult with him, then he should push for them to give him a proper contract which protects both sides with specific rules. They can't have it both ways though I'm sure they'll try.