My sister keeps criticising me for travelling

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I’m 27, and live alone in a rented flat. I have a decent salary and get by pretty happily on my own.

My sister is 31, and her and her husband have 2 sons under 3. Since the youngest was born, they’ve probably been abroad once a month. A lot of the time, they got out the children. This started when the youngest was about 5 months old.

I was at their house a couple of weeks ago and they asked when I was going to “stop this travelling business” and settle down with a mortgage. I have been abroad once this year and have three more holidays planned.

My sister has now responded to a close friends instagram story I posted with a countdown to my next trip and said it all seems really excessive and I shouldn’t be going away like I am. I pay for it all outright, don’t use delayed payments, pay in three or credit cards etc.

AIBU to snap back and ask why she cares so much when she’s leaving her kids once a month to go abroad? They’re always with my brother in law’s parents when they go, and I’m pretty fed up of the hypocritical criticism from them when they do the same, if not worse!

Why don't you just say, "You can't talk - you go abroad more often than I do!"

I don't understand why you didn't point out the flaw in her logic the first time.

Where is she going monthly?!

Tell her to wind her neck in, if she regrets her life choices thats not your fault.

They go all over Europe, they do a lot of long weekends away

It took me off guard, they have previously been very supportive of me travelling but all of a sudden she’s not

She’s trying to feel better about her own behaviour by having a dig at yours .

Sounds like they want you to stay home as babysitter.

She’s jealous, and a hypocrite.

She’s chosen hum-drum domesticity and being a slave to the bank. She needs you to validate that life choice by doing the same.

How often and where you travel to is simply none of her business.

I'm twice your age and want to go travelling more. Enjoy!

She’s jealous of your freedom!

I don't understand why you dont just say something? You don't need her to be "supportive" of you travelling either, it's your life and your money!

Sounds jealous - I’d snap back. I’d say she was jealous of your freedom but sounds like she goes away more than you!

Make the point about her travelling more, but leave out the bit about leaving the dc

She sounds unhinged

Does she mean you should be spending your money getting on the property ladder?

' how many trips have you been on in the past year sis? More than me 😁 '

Enjoy your travel, but have you ever made a comment about not owning your property etc. as long as you don’t complain later about your decision then fine to do as you please. I say this because I had friends laugh at me buying a flat rather than taking lots of mini breaks yet just 10 years later they were moaning on Facebook about dodgy landlords, rent increases and how they couldn’t afford to buy … I resisted reminding them about them not being bothered about buying or saving in the past

The fact that she's counting down to your next trip online would annoy me more than her, frankly, stupid comment about your travel. She's telling the world when you'll be away from home...

im guessing someone in the family is presuming youll begin a family rather than the travel

Mumsnet seems to have a lot of members with very opinionated family members. I wouldn't try and tell my mum or sister etc what to do. I can't believe people are so rude and don't know when to keep an opinion to themselves or rephrase something as a question that isn't offensive.

I posted it, on my close friends story (so a few select people I know), because I’m excited 😂

This is what she thinks, it seems

I love renting, I am looking to get on the ladder in a year or two but have a pretty clear plan for that

I would never judge a sibling for their life. They are happy, I am happy we are both happy. That should be it