To think XH has outdone himself

[BurnoutGP]

DD1 is 24 DD2 Is 18. The father is not a good man or father. DD1 is estranged through no fault of her own. Paternal grandfather died last year and DD2 was told all grandchildren were left 5K.
Few weeks ago a letter arrived for DD2 asking her to attend solicitor with proof of ID/address etc for inheritance. Nothing for DD1. She is currently travelling abroad so we assumed her father had said he didn't know where she was. She emailed the solicitors and got no response. Very upset thinking she had for some reason been left out the will (no reason she loved him and visiting him more than the other grandchildren including DD2). She requested a copy of the will online and it states 5k to all his grandchildren but not named by name.
I rung solicitors who confirmed that XH when asked for a list of his children did not identify her at all so they were unable to communicate with her until her identify was proved. I have since taken in her birth certificate.

They have been estranged for years since she was a teen. After years of letting her down and gaslighting she decided to leave it to him to make contact and he never did. This has affected her hugely. She is so upset about this.
I am sadly not surprised he is a spiteful abusive little man.
AUBU that this is pretty low even for him.

Can I suggest that anyone who posted about socks1107 comment AFTER 07:31 today filter socks’ comments and read them all?
They have admitted they misread it and apologised!!

Well ex is in for two nasty shocks one with the daughter and one with the secret family.

In my case my aunt got him removed as executor as she could prove he wasn’t executing the will as the deceased intended.

My husband inherited the entirely of his deceased father's estate. They had been estranged since the father walked out and never attempted contact. We saw it as 40 years of back child support and lack of a father in his life.

If the ex is residuary beneficiary, if he'd got away with this he would have increased the amount of his inheritance by taking it away from his daughter. It's attempted fraud.

What a helpful comment 🙄

FFS how many more peeps are going to parrot the same response to socks rmisreading something? I should think after so many repeats she has got the message and reread.
This is why so many threads fill up with banal twaddle instead of being useful and giving productive advice.

Estrangement or not is irrelevant. DD1 is legally entitled to inherit under the terms of the will. The ex lied to cheat her out of that inheritance and profit himself. That is fraud, a serious criminal offence.

in this case there was no estrangement from her GF but that is legally entirely irrelevant.

Did you actually read the op? She wasn’t estranged from the grandfather, the DH just decided to be a dick and not include her in the list of children so the solicitor knew to pay out.

What a knob @BurnoutGP , I’m so sorry.

as I read the OP, DD1 was estranged from only her father, not from her grandfather.

Read the post properly!

Your XH is a nasty piece of work. So pleased your daughter is receiving tbe 5K after all.

RTFT

@socks1107 apologised on page 1 for misreading the OP. There is no need to keep laying into her / him / them!!!

Oh well, he’ll probably contact her when he’s dying and has nobody. Hope she turns around and tells him to get fucked when he does the prick who does that to their own child?

@socks1107 maybe edit your original post as it seems no one gets further than that before replying 🤣

Why are you having a dig at the mum here? This is the usual Mumsnet shite whereby someone always thinks to make some nasty comment.

Not fair.

She was NOT estranged from her Grandfather who left her the money.

Her father was dishonest in the distribution of a legal will.

Unfortunately it was too late for that poster to edit their post when they realised their mistake. They have graciously accepted they misread the post but it's proving amusing the amount of posters who seem to have only read their first reply before jumping in to complain they should read properly, the irony is probably lost on them.

I really hope the process is quick OP and that your daughter can use some of this money for some therapy to explore her mess of a father.

The correction isn't much of a correction.. It makes no difference if she were estranged. The bequest was to grandchildren., not the deserving grandchildren.

Oh FFS! 🤦‍♀️

What a vile excuse for a man.

Let me guess, the eldest is strong and stands up for herself which abusive men hate.

I am so glad that you’ve all had such a lucky escape from him.

I read it as estranged from the father not the Grandfather. The father has deliberately left her name off a list - very immoral. Grandad should have named them in the will though, really not difficult. Men.

Come on now, a bit of common sense can’t be that difficult to muster up.

This reminds me of my ex. They’re so petty it’s unreal.

Well done to you and your Dd for pursuing this.
At least your Dd knows now that her Dgf did not leave her out of the Will. Living with that upset would have been horrible.