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To ask Trump supporters if they support the attack on Iran or if they feel Trump has wrongly gone back on his 'no more foreign wars' promise?

150 replies

Carla786 · 03/03/2026 04:39

YABU = Yes, I support the attack on Iran
YANBU = No,he wrongly went back on his 'no more foreign wars' promise

Personally, I can see both sides. I don't personally support Trump, but I can see why some might support the attack. Khameini and is regime are certainly loathsome and Iranians and the rest of us would be much better off without them. They certainly pose danger to Israel, US etc too.

Otoh, is there a credible political opposition who could take over? The prince could, but only as a figurehead. The Iraq war, the Libya invasion and the Afghanistan war did not end very well- how do we know this one will end any better?

My understanding was that quite a few Trump supporters saw him as a welcome change from the neocons of the Bush era who led the US into ME wars. I could be wrong about this though.

Interested to hear replies!

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:06

BeAvidHiker · 03/03/2026 07:44

I believe in reality. Not fantasy. Are you going to go and hit him over the head with your moral grandstanding? And he’ll go ‘oh yeah, I’ll stop this war now’.

Pp wasn't asking whether morality can stop him, but whether what he is doing is moral. 'I'm rich and powerful so I can do what I like' isn't a coherent moral argument.

That was pp's question though. I personally think there IS a moral case for the attack, I just wonder whether it will actually have the results wanted.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:09

BeAvidHiker · 03/03/2026 07:51

Yeah, you’re right, nothing this country can do. pathetically carping from the sidelines is what people in weak countries do. Strong countries influence and shape direction of others. But hey, who needs influence and leverage when you can take a moral stance.

Do you accept that morality still objectively matters when you're a strong country who can direct others?

I personally think there IS a moral case for what he's done, but you seem to discount morality importance entirely.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:10

LadyVioletBridgerton · 03/03/2026 07:52

Yes, I support the attack on Iran. The people of Iran have had to live under an extremely oppressive regime for far too long and this needed to happen. Donald Trump has taken decisive action and, if I was American, I’d vote for him given the chance. He’s much better than our weak willed excuse of a PM.

I agree the regime needed to go, the question is whether an air attack alone can dislodge. There is no precedent for that, the land invasion precedents of Iraq, Afghanistan etc did not go well, & there's no credible political opposition who can take over. I hope it will work, the future is murky.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:11

Screamingabdabz · 03/03/2026 07:52

Everyone whines about western military power until they are in the shit. Do you really want murderous oppressive regimes like Iran prospering in the world? America isn’t perfect but jeez, I know which side I’m rooting for.

I agree the regime needed to go, the question is whether an air attack alone can dislodge. There is no precedent for that, the land invasion precedents of Iraq, Afghanistan etc did not go well, & there's no credible political opposition who can take over. I hope it will work, the future is murky.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:13

BeAvidHiker · 03/03/2026 08:14

It’s called realpolitik. You should look it up and learn about it.

Yes, noted exponents of realpolitik include the famously moral Henry Kisssinger...

Politics has to include realpolitik but morality is crucial too. I think a moral case can be made for Trump' intervention, you discount morality entirely.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:15

LemonyCurd · 03/03/2026 08:45

About time someone did something. I hope the Iranian people can now get their freedom.

The question is whether it will work.

I agree the regime needed to go, the question is whether an air attack alone can dislodge. There is no precedent for that, the land invasion precedents of Iraq, Afghanistan etc did not go well, & there's no credible political opposition who can take over. I hope it will work, the future is murky.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:17

EasternStandard · 03/03/2026 10:38

BlueSky is probably better if you don’t want to hear anyone answer the op’s question.

I do want to hear what the pp has to say and others who are voting yabu. They should ignore your demands to fuck off and keep posting.

I personally didn't think the pp was really engaging with my question. They haven't really engaged with the practical points about whether regime change will work, despite their claim to be focused on 'realpolitik'. They can carry on posting but they need to contribute better imo.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:18

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 03/03/2026 10:17

The pp can indeed post. And others are free to tell the pp that their contributions are not welcome. After all, it's a chat forum with a range of views.

They can post. Their posts haven't really focused on the practical chances of regime change,,that's my issue

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:19

ButterfliesnWaterfalls · 03/03/2026 08:33

Oil.

Libya. Iraq. Syria. Iran.

Who will it be next?

Women’s rights - let’s bomb a girls school. That will really give them women’s rights.

Re the girls' school that's unfair. The school was near military targets. It's awful but the school was not the direct target

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:19

notabingthing · 03/03/2026 10:30

I don’t like trump but I also don’t like extremists. The regime needs to change. How other way would it happen ? How else should terrorists he dealt with ?
Starmer says he don’t believe in regime change from the skies, i imagine he would like to sort it out over a cup of tea ? Absolute wetter.

I agree the regime needed to go, the question is whether an air attack alone can dislodge. There is no precedent for that, the land invasion precedents of Iraq, Afghanistan etc did not go well, & there's no credible political opposition who can take over. I hope it will work, the future is murky.

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InterestedDad37 · 03/03/2026 18:21

Having claimed to have "obliterated" Iran's nuclear capability previously, Trump (Chump) is now trying to hit Iran's nuclear capabilities. Big orange tosser.

Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:21

KTheGrey · 03/03/2026 10:24

Gaza death toll at circa 75k in 2 years works out about 3100 a month - the comparison here demonstrates that the Iranians are killing their own people at over 3 times the rate of deaths in Gaza.

The comparison that really stands up is that Hamas instigated a war - October 7th, baby strangling, you remember - after spending millions in foreign aid on tunnels and basing their military centres in hospitals - and leaders like Yahya Sinwar said clearly that the deaths of Palestinian (civilians) were “necessary sacrifices”. These are the actions of a group who are deliberating sacrificing their own people.

There is a similarity with Iran, where a theocratic dictatorship has killed its own people for being raped, being gay, being on the streets, not wearing the hijab. Amongst other things.

Think there’s a link? Me too.

Did something have to be done - meh, probably not. It’s amazing what you can turn a blind eye to when it’s not on your front lawn.

But is this historically typical American behaviour? Yes it is. They are a global power. It’s global politics. Iran has stuff to export globally and Palestine has tunnels and war with the neighbour it sends 80% of its exports to.

I agree mainly with this.

Otoh the question is whether an air attack alone can dislodge. There is no precedent for that, the land invasion precedents of Iraq, Afghanistan etc did not go well, & there's no credible political opposition who can take over. I hope it will work, the future is murky.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:22

TheWonderhorse · 03/03/2026 10:39

Do you really think this action is because he thinks it's best for you though? You are the ones being humiliated. You've given him the reins and don't care what direction he takes you in. He's not paying any attention to the limitations Americans have put on his power. You're the weakest in this situation, because he doesn't care what you think either. You're not in charge.

I'm not sure if pp is American...

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:23

TheBoldOtter · 03/03/2026 10:42

What happened on October 7th was horrific and abhorrent, but you need to learn about history if you believed that is what instigated this “war”. This genocide has been going on for far longer than that. Tired of the rhetoric that October 7th started this and it came out of no where. It was wrong, very wrong, I deplore Hamas, but equally I deplore the IDF and Isreal’s behaviour for a very, very, very long time.

Please can we not derail this into a debate about Israel & Palestine. I'm sorry but I can see this taking over the thread & I didn't start the thread to discuss that.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:24

UncannyFanny · 03/03/2026 10:58

You forgot Venezuela. The whole precursor to the attack on Iran. The reason Trump took control of Venezuelas oil reserves in the first place was only because he was going to destabilise global oil markets in the Middle East a few weeks later. That reminds, where is the Venezuelan president and his wife now? They seem to have vanished from the headlines. And Charlie Kirk’s killer? Vanished. And Trumps regrowing ear lobe shooter? Vanished. Mar a Largo? Wonder what really happened there….

Can we please not have conspiracy theories on the thread. Regrowing earlobe?

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:25

dottiehens · 03/03/2026 12:56

The regime killed thousands a few weeks ago and no one did anything. I welcome this invasion and hope he goes for Cuba next. Freedom for those tyrants at last.

I agree the regime needed to go, the question is whether an air attack alone can dislodge. There is no precedent for that, the land invasion precedents of Iraq, Afghanistan etc did not go well, & there's no credible political opposition who can take over. I hope it will work, the future is murky.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:26

TheBoldOtter · 03/03/2026 13:10

No, it didn’t start the current conflict. That started back in 2022 when Netanyahu began killing Palestinians again. October 7th was a retaliation based upon what had already been happening for several years. Go and do the research, this did not come out of no where, The IDF had killed multiple Palestinians, then they went and harmed over 100 Palestinian people. October 7th was awful but it’s disingenuous to say it reignited this situation, Netanyahu did that.

And don’t try and put words in my mouth, I repeatedly said I abhore Hamas’ actions, but they did not restart this conflict. We need to deal with facts when discussing these issues, which you are not when you say October 7th was the catalyst for the current situation

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Please can we stay off this topic. I suppprt the rights of Palestinians to a safe & free life but your post seems anti Semitic to me, worryingly so.

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Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:27

TheBoldOtter · 03/03/2026 13:08

But it doesn’t result in freedom, that is the issue. We have seen this time and time again. New regimes move in and things go back to being as they were, except America has lined its pockets and caused dmultipl deaths. These wars do. It equate to freedom for the people. Look at Afghanistan, it is in a worse state than ever.

I agree with you on that.

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TheBoldOtter · 03/03/2026 18:29

Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:26

Please can we stay off this topic. I suppprt the rights of Palestinians to a safe & free life but your post seems anti Semitic to me, worryingly so.

Anyisemitic? Honestly, sod off. I am extremely far from being antisemitic, I have reported antisemitism on this very board and complained to MN about antisemitism on here. I would never be antisemitic. I don’t see how saying I find Hamas abhorrent is antisemitism? Saying that October 7th - which I REPEATEDLY said I thought was disgusting - wasn’t what reignited this war is not antisemitic either.

Don’t throw around dangerous accusations like that so fucking casually, what a terrible thing to do.

Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:30

Brassknucks · 03/03/2026 15:32

What’s terribly sad when reading posts like this is how many civilians across the world are dying. I have to be honest there are so many places in crisis I can’t even unravel it in my brain and I don’t think I’m a particularly stupid woman, I just struggle to process it all. I’ve seen so many horrific images from the world over the last 15 years, every bit as shocking as footage from the holocaust. Just innocent people from all over the world who are suffering/dying. And you feel almost backed into a corner to choose a country to align with and allow your sympathies and support, also to be as educated as possible on, but then you realise how many people are suffering from war/oppression.
I don’t want to pick one place to give my compassion and concern to, I just want the world around us to be safe for every single person on it. But what can you do? Nothing. I can simply feel sad and angry and often engulfed those emotions but that affects nobody but my family. So selfishly I don’t consume more information than I can cope with. I feel division is at an all time high and the sad thing is most people regardless of how they identify themselves politically will want the same outcome, safety for civilians regardless of their residence. Access to clean water, food, homes, medical care and education without the threat of being killed. I don’t know anyone who has ever voiced “actually I’d like insert country here blown to smithereens” and genuinely meant it and it not been a stupid joke regarding a football team or something.
I mentioned the holocaust earlier and maybe like myself you can think back to seeing the images for the first time in a history class and feeling sick at the grainy images of emaciated bodies when you’re young yourself? Now we live in a time our children have seen videos of people executed or beheaded on their phones in the school yards, we see videos of babies shaking with shell shock or toddler amputees daily. I don’t know if we are so used to seeing the horror around the world in so much that we almost have to block it out to an extent or you’d make yourself mentally unwell.

I agree with you. I think too much exposure to pain & grief of war on screens can make people less compassionate not more, because it's just too much.

I see what you mean about not knowing who to side with in wars over the last years. Sides are often murky in a lot of wars. Still, I'd say Putin, Xi, Kim Jong-Un and Islamist extremist leaders are the main causes of suffering of our age.

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JasmineMac · 03/03/2026 18:32

People are biased by their personal hatred of Trump.

It's something which puzzles me, because he's a foreign leader. I couldn't really care less about him, or what goes on in America; the impact to the UK by what goes on in America is largely incidental. It's exaggerated.

I certainly won't lose any sleep over the dismantling of a truly horrific regime.

IncessantNameChanger · 03/03/2026 18:36

How many voting Americans are on MN? Living and voting in America? It doesn't really matter what anyone thinks unless they have the right to vote for him.

There's lots of things worldwide we don't like but the people living under it do.

I do think it's interesting how unlike the US we really are dispite all bring the "West".

We don't need to like it. We need to accept that Americans in the main do like it as he was voted in. Surely that means the majority of Americans love him? Like we voted for Labour. I might not have voted for Labour, neither might you but logic says the majority did. So here we are. A lot of people thought it was a good idea at the time. Repeatedly

EasternStandard · 03/03/2026 18:39

Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:17

I personally didn't think the pp was really engaging with my question. They haven't really engaged with the practical points about whether regime change will work, despite their claim to be focused on 'realpolitik'. They can carry on posting but they need to contribute better imo.

@Carla786I appreciate your moderate tone but it’s mn people post whatever really, within guidelines.

I don’t want just the Labour left saying fuck off to everyone else. I do actually want to hear different views.

BeAvidHiker · 03/03/2026 18:48

Carla786 · 03/03/2026 18:09

Do you accept that morality still objectively matters when you're a strong country who can direct others?

I personally think there IS a moral case for what he's done, but you seem to discount morality importance entirely.

What do you mean by does morality matter? Matter in what sense? To make you feel good? To have nice big talking shops? Like I say, to carp on the sidelines?

Sure, if that’s what morality matters means, then yes you can feel all moral and superior by thinking and having a talking shop on whatever you want.

In the end what really matters is what happens. What actually unfolds. And to influence what actually happens, you can’t bash the opponent over the head with morality. They just laugh at you. To influence powerful people to do what matters, you have to have leverage. Usually rooted in economic power. So no having a talking shop to feel all moral and superior makes no difference.

BeAvidHiker · 03/03/2026 18:49

EasternStandard · 03/03/2026 18:39

@Carla786I appreciate your moderate tone but it’s mn people post whatever really, within guidelines.

I don’t want just the Labour left saying fuck off to everyone else. I do actually want to hear different views.

It’s how they operate. Never happier than when in an echo chamber.