To be puzzled by workplace affairs/relationships?

[Linlin24]

It seems so common these days (both from on here and elsewhere) that colleagues become romantically involved.

Is it just me, or I struggle to see how this happens? Everywhere I’ve worked has been professional and barely any time to discuss non work matters!!

I thought you meant you still had the same pair of knickers on the couch 😬🤣

Haha! That’s me! 🤣

Perhaps I have! What of it?!!

Well i'm very glad it worked out for you
it's always very heartwarming to have a post about a happy relationship on MN .

Met my husband at work. So did lots of people I know. I think it’ll happen a lot a loss less now people wfh more and there is less Friday socialising after work. In my industry no one goes to the office on a Friday anymore!

Hospitality....happens all the time!

I agree but no one knows how the other person is going to act if you break up.

You may know that you’re the type of person who can be cheated on or left for an OW etc and still be able to maintain a professional stance but what if it doesn’t work out and the other person is unprofessional and makes things difficult.

Surely it’s not even worth taking the risk.

Also if it doesn’t work out then you can’t then get with another colleague else you could end up getting with half the team.

Oh bore off.

Might be time to peel them off! 😁

Try nursing!

We know everyone plays Doctors and Nurses 😉

You are clearly the issue here!

Loosen those knickers @Linlin24 and have yourself a quick shag.

Do you the world of good.

My company is about 30 years old and has 250 people working for it. There are at least 20 married couples who met through work there now, including me and my husband. There has never been any question about anybody's professionalism. Surely it's a good thing that people get to know their colleagues?

Hahaha, yep, still dropping my knickers for mine too 😂

Two bosses have made a play for me when I was very young and they were much older, gross and nothing happened

Had an 18 month relationship with someone at work

Met a BF at a work conference

Met DH at work and together for 30 years

It's what I miss most about being unemployed now. It does happen of course. Twice I had to suffer because of it . A work colleague asked me to tell my DH that no spouses were going to Xmas party .Her DH was a mate of my DH. Didn't want him there as she very brazenly made her affair with our boss known to all. Then the bloke who I used to get a lift with cheated on his live in girlfriend who I also knew with a new staff member. It was excruciating as I could see that he and this woman were falling for each other . He did split up and his girlfriend was heartbroken. Eventually married the OW .

How old are you?

We had more youth employed 20 years ago and people me in person and went out out in the evening. In my 40s now and out out has long passed.

We’re all different. You don’t have to take the risk because you don’t think it’s worth it, but surely you can see that for someone else, that risk wouldn’t be as big a deal.

You also said in your previous post ‘there are lots of men in my job who are nice and good looking so how would I know which one to choose.’ I mean… I personally need more than just ‘nice’ and ‘good looking’ to consider someone a relationship prospect. I’d need a rapport with them way beyond that, and it’s very rare that I have that kind of rapport with anyone. So it’s not like I’d just be picking from a line-up. I’ve worked with plenty of nice and good-looking men in my life (and still do) but my DP was the only one I would ever have wanted a relationship with.

Yes I understand that but I just find it odd that someone would choose to go for someone they work with over the thousands of single men who aren’t connected to their work.

I guess it was more common back in the day as people didn’t have as much access to dating and it was taking more of a risk by putting ads in the paper etc but nowadays there are dating sites where you can speak to them and build a connection but not have it invade other areas of your life like work.

But I am someone who also wouldn’t date a friends ex or family member, as I think that can cause issues but I know many people who do.

Oh you’re just better than most of us with your list of who you wouldn’t and wouldn’t date.

I’d never use dating sites

Other than education or through family or friends, work has always been one of the main places people meet. Some of my closest friends through the years I’ve met at work. I’ve dated several men I’ve met at work. Not like literally during working hours, but we made plans to meet up after work. I met Dh not at work, but at after work drinks with work colleagues (he worked for an organisation we had links with). There was a time when Tinder didn’t exist and people actually met people in the real world and, of course, work is where people spend the bulk of their week.

I wouldn’t go on a dating site. Too many fakes and marrieds.

Ah. I missed the deleted post. What's wrong - was the OP expressing jealousy disguised as disdain?

Has the OP missed the fact that workplaces have staffrooms and breaks?

So many teachers of my acquaintance met their spouse at work - no time to socialise outside work! We certainly weren't snogging in the classroom!

I was married 27 years - it worked for us.

People do have work place affairs
All the time..They just dont tell you 🤣

Thinking back to my own days at high school - in the '70s - I can think of 5 sets of married couples: the HT and his wife (in the Maths Dept); two music teachers, a maths teacher married to a music teacher: a maths teacher married to a PE teacher; a science teacher married to an HE teacher.