To hate "outdoor clothes" in the bed?

[Clover96]

Bit of a silly one really but please help settle a domestic disagreement 😅

Am I being unreasonable to not want my partner wearing the clothes he's worn out and about all day, in or even laying on the bed? He showered in the morning, went to work, hasn't changed his clothes since coming home and lay in the bed. He thinks I'm being dramatic / naggy to want him to change his clothes.

We only changed the bedding last night and I never wear the clothes I've worn out in the bed, he doesn't really see the issue.

If you’re out all day, sitting on seats in public, your clothes will get worn and make the clean bed feel grimy. If you’ve literally just walked outside then it’s fine, obviously.

It’s disgusting. I also think it’s gross to get into bed if you haven’t had an evening shower.

Gosh, most of you are absolutely crackers. In real life I don’t know a single person getting changed multiple times a day.

Getting comfy clothes or pyjamas on in the evening I totally get because you aren’t going back out. But in and out of clothes all day? Mental. And such fear of all this invisible “grime”.
What a sad way to live.

Meanwhile I slept in the t shirt I wore ALL DAY yesterday because I couldn’t be arsed to get a pyjama top out. And guess what? I am alive! And there is not a trail of filth in my wake. Just cat hair because one of the cats slept on me
all evening.

I don't do this or allow this either. DD tried it after a day of college, grubby buses, canteens, classrooms, library etc, absolutely not!

Let me guess, having shower in the morning is also sad and a waste of time? As is doing dishes and hoovering? These are just basic things people do to feel clean.

Particularly in summer when sweaty, you don’t just climb into bed after being outside. And it’s optional, if you don’t mind having to change your bed more frequently, then that’s your choice to make.

I don't think it's anything to do with fear of germs or even getting sick, it just feels a bit grotty to me. Largely because I don't trust other people's level of hygiene I suppose 😂 Leaving a window open to air the room out is very different than something like public transport / spaces etc.

I must be one of those sad people who also feels really happy getting into bed with fresh clean sheets 😊

We don’t wear outdoor clothes indoors op,so I’m with you on that.

I'm constantly amused and baffled by the MN germphobes and clean freaks and how many perfectly normal things they retch about and find gross. It must be tedious and wearying to be on such high alert all the time.

What nobody ever seems to be able to explain is the actual (and presumably terrible) consequences of sitting on a bed or sofa in your 'outdoor' clothes (or what most people just refer to as 'clothes'), sitting on a public toilet seat (instead of hovering), washing underwear with your other clothes, not closing the toilet lid when you flush, eating food that other people have cooked, not washing your bedding every day week... etc etc. There are umpteen other things I can't recall. Are these germphobes any healthier than the rest of us? I seriously doubt it, so why do they obsess about it?

I am a germ freak and this doesn’t enter my head. I change the bedsheets regularly.
yabu. Put a towel down for him. 😆

No, showering, hoovering and washing dishes are normal.
You are aware that people sweat at night in bed?

I had never heard of "house clothes" either - even worst if they are old and ill fitting, just.. why? Fair enough if you are painting or doing something that will trash what you are wearing but just for.. being home? Why don't you want to wear nice clothes at home?

I genuinely can't imagine having to change clothes 12 times a day!
Go for a run in the morning, shower and change, that's 1. fine.

but then make breakfast etc, then go on the school run - so change again?
come home, change for the 3rd time.
The pop out for lunch or to the shop or whatever. 4
come home. change, that's 5.
then do the school run. change for your "outside clothes" , that's 6

change the kids. change yourself for the 7th time
then take the kids to one club, that's what 8?

i mean, it's insane 😂
and that doesn't even include walking the dog a few times a day, or going out in the evening.

And on days in the office, that means having a shower straight after work, change, then shower again before bed? I can't keep up

I’ve asked my dd20 and she thinks her limit is about an hour - so if she has been out then come home the only time she will stay in her outdoor clothes is if she is going out again within an hour (approx obviously)

This led to further conversation and something else I noticed - when our weekly shop arrives certain things go in her room as she has more storage (things like big bags of pasta, loo roll etc) but when her younger siblings take them up to her bedroom they can’t put them on the bed like I would, they have to go on the floor.

From my dd perspective with today as an example

9am get up and put indoor comfy clothes on
1030 outdoor clothes as going to shop to get fresh bread and bits for her lunches for the week ahead
11 indoor clothes as soon as got home
1300 meeting her friend for lunch so outdoor clothes
when home back to indoor clothes
1800ish going bowling so outdoor clothes
2100ish back home so indoor clothes
Dont ask me to describe the rationale 🤣 she is the only one of my 4dc like this!

For the record she has nice pj sets or similar so they aren’t old and grubby clothes for her indoor clothes

eta her regular work day
0500 work clothes on
1430 home so indoor clothes
1600 seeing friends so outdoor clothes then as soon as home back to indoor clothes

her regular work day makes sense to me

I think kids have more time than us 😂

I dont' know any adult woman who spends as much time putting their make-up and doing their hair as a teen either 😁

My kids don't even change from their school uniform if they are home, no need to have an extra set of clothes to wash that day - plus school uniforms are there to be destroyed anyway. They already have uniform + some PE kit + sports kit to wash most day!

Of the people who say no "outdoor" clothes ON the bed - excessive to apply this rule if the day job is just insurance or something.

Probably a hangover from the days when more people worked in grubby settings.

At our home it is about trousers/other bottom pieces. If worn in public transport/sitting outside/floor length, than they don't belong in/on the bed in any way.

I don’t understand your point. People sweat in bed, which is why I wear clothes to sleep to avoid oils and sweat in the sheets, yes.

Hoovering, showering and washing up all take longer than changing into a pair of leggings, so I take it you don’t do any of those things and find it sad to keep up with housework?

Blimey some of you are disgusting, we strip naked in the garden burn our clothes in a special ritual, our porch is also a decontamination shower where two fully hazmatted individuals scrub us with wire wool before we enter the house.
I can't even imagine the grim conditions some of you must live in...shudder.

That's more like it. 🫡

I am more amazed by the number of people who have time and will to lay in bed during the day , and who have time to change clothes so many times in a day.
Even the Crawley Family only changed for diner 😂

@YourGreenCat A few people have said that about the time it takes to change 😅 It takes less than a minute though to be honest.

In the bed feels a bit grubby. And uncomfortable. I'd take off my jeans and jumper, but not worry about a tshirt.

And as for outdoor and indoor clothes: cannot be bothered! Why would I get changed to do something boring like go to the supermarket?

Instagram keeps feeding me people who seem to think their home will somehow morph into a crack den if they so much as sit on their sofa wearing jeans that have left the house. How do these people cope with guests? Who caught the bus to get there. And sat on a seat. The horror!

I am not a faffer by any means (unless I am on MN 😂) but it does take me more than a minute to grab clothes from my wardrobe, remove my current clothes, fold them neatly, put the new ones on.

It feels so unnecessary and so repetitive.

The joys of WFH🙈