To hate "outdoor clothes" in the bed?

[Clover96]

Bit of a silly one really but please help settle a domestic disagreement 😅

Am I being unreasonable to not want my partner wearing the clothes he's worn out and about all day, in or even laying on the bed? He showered in the morning, went to work, hasn't changed his clothes since coming home and lay in the bed. He thinks I'm being dramatic / naggy to want him to change his clothes.

We only changed the bedding last night and I never wear the clothes I've worn out in the bed, he doesn't really see the issue.

Agree with everything @Olderandwiserpossibly says. I’ve been accustomed to changing into house clothes my entire life (60 odd years). Anything else is gross.

And also, those people wearing their grimy outdoor clothes at home are the same people wondering why all their clothes wear out so quickly and never look crisp and fresh.

Gross. Why would he even do that!?

Zero outdoor clothes on my bed full stop.

On top of the covers wouldnt bother me, in the bed though? nope!
Its not even a hygiene thing its just wearing day clothes to bed breaks my brain. But I also cant wear pajamas around the house once Im officially 'up', it just feels wrong to me.

I think Mumsnet is bonkers.

Firstly, Mumsnet germophobes are bonkers.

Obviously, don't sit a dog shit then roll around in your bed

Otherwise, I wouldn't care if anyone wore their clothes in bed for hygiene reasons.

But secondly, Mumsnet husbands are bonkers.

Who is wearing clothes in bed? Why would you? It seems half of Mumsnet is dressed in pyjamas during the day and now we've got people dressed in regular clothes in bed.

What's going on??!!

Are they?

Are they really?

I don't have grimy outdoor clothes. What shitty places are you wearing your clothes in?

I definitely do. I walk in woodland and I work in a reception classroom. Both are dirty in different ways.

I am curious. What do you use as 'house clothes"? Just normal clothes that you never wear outside? Joggers/PJs?

I had no idea this was a thing for some people. It isn’t the sort of thing that would come up in our house, but if it did I wouldn’t give a hoot. My 17yo is probably sleeping in his clothes right now (he has ASD/ADHD and sleeps at stupid times) but I’m not about to burst in and check.

I really don’t care.

Naked bodies are definitely more germy than clothes (even if they shower regularly) so I think you’re being illogical to allow him on the bed but not his clothes.

On the bed - no problem. I sit on the bed to get undressed. I am getting older, balancing on one leg to take off a pair of leggings could end in tears before bedtime. So I sit on the bed in outdoor clothes every day.

In the bed - not so great, plus it would be far less snuggly than my PJs, so I couldn't imagine doing that.

Yes, my son is the same. But he has to be prised out of his room anyway, so they often don't really earn the description "outdoor clothes" as the only "outdoor" they experience is pegged on the washing line 😁

Well, good for you. But plenty of us manage to go through the day without getting grimy.

It doesn't even need to be said in this household - it's just not done. Who even wants to get into bed in outside clothes?
On the bed is OK as long as the clothes are not dirty/smelly.

Yanbu. I wouldn't even have my own outdoor clothes on my bed.

Well not me.

Even if I’m not grimy I wouldn’t get in my clothes.

No fucking way would he get in my bed with anything like that on . Especially if I changed sheets . I feel bad getting in my clean sheets without shower and clean PJs . Only PJs or clean boxers allowed at any time . And would be cringing if he was sitting on top .
And on the other side , there are people who allow dogs and cats in beds .
Nowt as queer as folk .

I have this as a "rule" for myself but bite my tongue when my partner stays over. I have outside clothes, lounging in the house clothes (that i might have cooked in, frying onions etc) and nightwear for bed with little to no crossover.

I can see how it would sound like nagging to someone else if its just not on thier radar.

I’d never heard of ‘house clothes’. That must generate a lot of washing.

If you also go to the gym or swimming are you then changing clothes about five times a day? Pajamas into ‘outside’ clothes, outside clothes into gym clothes, then back into outside clothes, then house clothes, then pajamas?

Unless you put the outside clothes immediately into a hot wash every day when you get home, then surely whatever you think is on them is coming into the house anyway? Fleas in the laundry basket is obviously better than fleas in the bed, but aren’t fleas in the laundry basket ultimately likely to wind up in the bed?

This is Mumsnet. In real
life outdoor clothes on the bed aren’t worth a passing thought. On Mumsnet they’re a hanging offence.

That is just gross, and I'm shocked that so many people voted YABU to be honest OP. It takes a minute to change into bed clothes.

Are ‘bed clothes’ pajamas? Or another special set of clothes in between?

Do some people have outside clothes, house clothes, bed clothes, and pajamas?

On the bed is fine; in the bed (as in under the covers) absolutely not.

😂😂

I'm shocked you've never heard of house clothes!

My houseclothes sometimes I specifically buy as loungwear for home, sometimes its outside clothes that have got too old/worn to wear out. Sometimes it's an online order that doesn't quite suit me but is cheap enough not to bother returning!