To hate "outdoor clothes" in the bed?

[Clover96]

Bit of a silly one really but please help settle a domestic disagreement 😅

Am I being unreasonable to not want my partner wearing the clothes he's worn out and about all day, in or even laying on the bed? He showered in the morning, went to work, hasn't changed his clothes since coming home and lay in the bed. He thinks I'm being dramatic / naggy to want him to change his clothes.

We only changed the bedding last night and I never wear the clothes I've worn out in the bed, he doesn't really see the issue.

I have a couple of genuine questions for those who change into house-clothes as soon as you get in...

1. If you're going out in the morning, then home for a few hours in the middle of the day, and then out again later (but not for e.g. a night out, just to run chores etc, so maybe like doing school run/dog walk/nip to the shops), do you change in and out of your outdoor/house clothes each time?
2. What happens when you have guests, both for just the day/evening, and overnight? Do you expect them to change out of their outdoor clothes? 🤔

Genuinely interested. It's not something I've ever considered. Personally am far too lazy to do the extra laundry that would involve!😂

starla, yes, in and out of indoor and outdoor clothes, but it takes about 2 minutes to swap over. Although that's mainly jeans, socks and sweater and into trackpants and indoor sweater . My house clothes are warmer and reduce IBS.

I’d never heard of ‘house clothes’. That must generate a lot of washing.

The opposite actually.

Don’t …

I see such behaviour on TV and it frankly makes me want to vomit. I can just about understand if your brand new luggage has gone from the immaculate boot of your car straight to your five star hotel room, you might not think of invisible germs. But I live in a city full of students and tourists and pass strangers rolling suitcases along streets every day. The thought of them reaching their college or hotel room and throwing said muck smeared case (wheels and all 🥴) onto the bed …

It’s not irrational though. If you’re sitting on public transport, or on a seat in a cafe, or a public bench, you don't want to carry that grime into your bed.

You just change into a pair of indoor leggings or whatever.

People on here seem to think showering daily is obsessive, yet sitting on the sofa in outdoor shoes and having your dog lick your face is normal.

It definitely skews the other way.

But what’s going to happen to you because of those ‘germs’. The person sneezing on the bus is likely to be a billion times worse for you than these ‘germs’. That’s why I don’t use buses. But outdoor and indoor clothes is a bit mad to me.

"WE" changed the bedding last night?

Or was that done by you?

Next month, he gets to do the bedding week after week. See how he likes it when you plant yourself on the bed in your work clothes and shoes.

Same. Shoes off at the door too

While chores like this should be shared I doubt he’d give a stuff. If it bothered him he wouldn’t do it. Most of us aren't that bothered.

I really couldn’t give a monkeys about this. I find it fascinating that it occurs to
anyone to be bothered about such things unless clothes are visibly filthy.

Mind you I have been known to eat dinner in bed fully clothed after a day with the horses so my standards are low.

Guests shoes off but no more requests.

I never have days when I bob in and out in short timescales. So wash hands and face when I get in and change my clothes to home clothes.

@MissPobjoysPonies I wouldn't wear PJs or dressing gown out 😅 The only time I have was when I used to have to get up to drive my partner to work at 4am then come back to bed, but I'd still pop leggings on instead of PJ bottoms and shove a jumper over my PJ top.

On top of the bed, maybe if not dirty work clothes. Otherwise just no.

I stripped it and he made the bed - to be honest he's much quicker because I'm so short that it takes me forever to do it 😂 Like someone said above he wouldn't be phased if I did that, he'd probably just wonder why I wanted to change the bed more often but leave it at that lol.

Wouldnt bother me

Well if you’re using the existence of house clothes as a reason not to wash outside clothes then no wonder they’re dirty!

@StarlaBell Yes I'd get changed in and out of my clothes if I was at home for a while, partly for comfort too though 😅 No I don't expect guests to change, people do offer to take their shoes off but I feel bad even asking them to do that so usually tell them to leave it and clean after if needed (unless it's someone like my mum who automatically takes them off despite me telling her not to, she's even cleaner than me though).

Where do you leave your outdoor clothes when you’re not wearing them?

Because bodily fluids (yeah sorry) attract moths. No worn clothes in my wardrobes or bedroom...clothes that have been worn outside are hung up in the doorway to the spare room on pretty hooks ...then wash face and hands and change into home clothes hanging behind bathroom door if pre worn at home..for me long sleeve jersey dress I could happily answer the door in but doubles up as a night dress. Just sheds the day and makes home cleaner. Shoes off at the door. For spring summer this is super good for hay-fever sufferers. First thing I do when I get home is wash my hands

Totally agree, hate it. Nearly as bad as eating in bed!

Because bodily fluids (yeah sorry) attract moths. No worn clothes in my wardrobes or bedroom...clothes that have been worn outside are hung up in the doorway to the spare room on pretty hooks .

So are the moths having a feast on the clothes hung up in the doorway to the spare room? If not, why do you think they’re any more likely to do it in your bedroom?

I’m quite germophobic and I have a lot of OCD rituals, but nothing posted here makes any sense.

Yes it isolates the clothes worn and waiting a day or two to be worn again...from pristine clothes in the wardrobe...so they don't attract moths

But why wouldn’t they just attract moths to the other place you’ve put them?

I'm not.

For a start you are wearing both sets of clothing for shorter periods of the day.

House clothes arent exposed to the germs and dirt of outdoor clothes so don't need washing after every wear.

My out door clothes, if not visibly dirty I put carefully on a stand in my bedroom so they don't get creased .and generally speaking can be worn a second time before having to be washed.

Because if they did ...they are going in the wash after wear ...so no time for a life cycle to get going ...so no lovely yummy scents to attract moths near all the undisturbed clothes in the wardrobe.

The hooks elsewhere are a day or 2 staging post to the washing machine.

Works for me and I'm sure the hand and face washing reduces upset stomachs, colds etc..