AIBU to have ditched my family on holiday walk

[Mounjaroday]

On holiday and we’d just started our annual coastal walk. We have to navigate over a very squelchy muddy bit, one at a time. DH goes first, then strides off ahead at pace. As usual. Then the kids leap over, and run off to keep up with him. I’m suddenly left trailing behind at the back yet again, and it’s absolutely maddening.

“Wait up” was met with a rather cross “well keep up then” nonsense from DH. He doesn’t wait for me and they keep going - DH striding away, and the kids trotting along - and they don’t even bother looking where I am. They are easily 20m in front at this point.

So this time, I stopped, turned around and ditched the whole lot of them. Went for a mooch around the lovely gift and antique shops in the local town. Then grabbed a coffee and read some of my book. 2 hours all by myself. It was absolutely fabulous.

Was I unreasonable? They’re all salty about how I’d “left them”.

Sounds like you were both a bit unreasonable, him
for not wanting to wait for you, and you for stomping off like a teenager. The kids weren’t unreasonable at least

I've thought about doing this just wandering off. Dp just strides ahead.with Dd and leaves me behind. I wonder how long it would take him to notice I was gone. I might do it next time he does it.

I am a fast walker. I don’t like walking with dawdlers or slow walkers. I think you did the right thing.

The fact that this seems to be an annual test of endurance and it went "as usual" suggest that maybe it is time to stop flogging a dead horse?

I think you were a bit U for not at least telling them you were going, but it sounds like you went a did something you enjoyed more anyway (see first sentence)

My DH would never do this to me. He would have 1 helped me over the mud and 2 waited for me on the other side if needed.

Your "D" H is a prick @Mounjaroday and I find it hard to believe this is the only situation in which he treats you like this.

You didn’t ditch them-they ditched you !

My ex husband used to do this to me in all scenarios when out walking anywhere.

He did not care about me. At. All.

I just went home once on a night out and he didn't notice.

You asked them to wait, they couldn't be bothered. They were rude, not you.

Good for you for going off and doing something you enjoy. It sounds like they hit a faster pace than you can keep up with and are unwilling to go slower, so you do your own thing.

I say good for you

You say your DH strode off 'as usual' so it sounds like this is not the first time this has happened. I get you. You had a nice few hours and DH could have taken over the parenting

All power to your elbow!!

Then don’t go on group walks.

They left you...
Sounds like you had a lovely time.

My OH is really bad for this. He forgets he is much taller than me and DD and always goes ahead, even on a normal walk like round a shopping centre. I also consider myself a quick walker but he’s a nightmare.
I probably wouldn’t have did what you did because I wouldn’t want him thinking I wasn’t ’up to’ the walk and got tired out! But good for you for not being a shitebag like me…..

It seems a bit mean to not wait for you after the muddy bit, I would expect to wait for each other / help each other if needed.

We don’t always walk at the same speed as each other - typically DH is a bit faster uphill, I’m much faster than him downhill. But we always stop and wait for the other(s) regularly, don’t get out of sight.

Talking of user names..are you a bit of a moonbeam?
Wtf
Sort yourdelf out.
Ultra rude.

You didn’t leave them, they left you behind! Sounds like you might as well gone on the walk by yourself!

In fact they left you, so you were well within your rights. I’m short and hate when people do this and in a partner it just shows disregard and contempt. Also terrible hillcraft as it’s a basic tenet that the group goes t the speed of the slowest walker.

Glad you had a nice day @Mounjaroday .

I often have to remind DH to slow down slightly as he strides ahead. He’s not too bad though. Your DH should have helped you with create muddy bit.

YANBU at all!

I have this issue, and I hate hate hate being forced to slog along at the back.

I'm clear if advance now, that I will not go for a walk with anyone if they won't walk with me.

He was a dick, and you didn't stand for it. Well done you!

SoSadSoSadSoSad can answer for themselves but why did you think they were complaining about group walks ?

Sounds a much nicer use of time!! Well done and I’m glad for you ❤️❤️

Go, you! I would have done the same thing.

They left you!!!