Lack of intimacy and stomach problems.

[tillylula]

My husband said to me the other day he keeps seeing posts on social media about how a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men (which he has been getting). He asked if i had been getting them too, or anything along the lines of how important intimacy is. I know it is.

I gave birth to our 4th child just over 3 weeks ago. Towards the end of the pregnancy i was having a lot of pain, braxton hicks and i also had thrush all the way through the pregnancy. We did have sex throughout but the last month i dont think we did anything because i was just too uncomfortable. I did him a few times before baby arrived but since his arrival ive been more focused on surviving the newborn days with a 6, 4 & 2 year old also.

Is there any truth behind the claims or is he pulling my leg?

he keeps seeing posts on social media about how a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men

Hes at the very least am absolute liar, and at worst a manipulative dickhead using fear and obligation to get sex when you're 3 weeks post partum.

This is not a good look. Tell him to go have a wank.

You have 3 small children and a new born and he’s putting you under pressure to have sex. This is really not fair OP. Tell him where to go …. Hope you are okay x

He did say there is no pressure to have sex and i can wait til i feel ready. I said intimacy can be spending time together and cuddling but in the articles it says that it has to be actual sex

No it doesn't cause stomach issues. If he actually thought it did, he could sort that out for himself.

You have a 6, 4, 2 yr old and a 3 week old baby. He should not be suggesting that a "lack of intimacy" by which he presumably means sex, is causing him health issues and should be something you prioritise. Urgh, tbh.

He is full of absolute shit.

He’s revolting. What a horrible pressure to put on you, and how kind of him to say you don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to 🤮

But his words are a lie. An underhand lie; hes using fear, your fear that YOU not having sex with him is causing him stomach problems.

.. social media about how a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men

He cant turn round and say no pressure to have sex BUT a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men

When its absolute bullshit. His words dont mean fuck all. Its his actions; the action to then follow up with a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men is manipulative and absolutely disgusting.

His stomach problems are caused by him being an abusive dickhead trying to force you to have sex.

If he is having stomach problems, then we need to get him to hospital, or at least the GP right away! this is serious! so they can assess this right now!

I bet he will not go... he doesn't want an actual medical professional to tell him this is bollocks. He wants the normal servicing to resume - even though youve just popped another actual human out your floof, he isnt getting his sex...

Did he actually show you these articles? I’d love to see that load of shit😂

3 weeks PP, 4 young children, I hope you are okay OP and feel safe to tell him to piss off.

Ha ha - what an absolute tosspot - if it’s to do with non ejaculation then that’s easily sortable by himself- with an attitude like that I’m suprised you got beyond one child or are remotely interested at all -

It can cause minor aches around the testicles. Not stomach issues, no.

The testicle aches, if he has them, are minor, harmless, and he could sort them out with masturbation if he wanted to.

So no, zero excuse for putting pressure on you so close after giving birth.

You gave birth three weeks ago and he’s complaining about a lack of intimacy? Dickhead. If he believes it causes stomach issues he’s thick as two short planks too.

I was coming on to say this. My partner says that after a few weeks his testicles can ache - but there is an easy remedy for this!!

Never heard of stomach issues.

Who cares if it causes stomach issues (it doesn't, btw)? Why is his comfort more important than yours? Manipulative dickhead.

Tell him to have a wank.

Tell him that him telling you a lack of intimacy is a reason for his stomach pain when you're 3 weeks after popping a human out your floof is actually making your vajajay clamp shut and he won't be getting any intimacy until he becomes a regulated adult human being capable of thinking with his brain instead of his testicles

And more importantly, start your contraception birth control today so you don't happen to fall pregnant to this neanderthal again when you give in to the manipulative pressure and have sex.

His stomach problems are likely caused by the fact his entire digestive tract is exactly like the rest of him- full of shit.
Imagine guilt-tripping your very recently post-partum wife like this. Call him out on his bullshit.

Men are the pits.

Thank you for the replies, some of them have cheered me up while im feeling miserable today 😆

I plan to get my tubes tied as soon as i can though worried because im breastfeeding and dont want having it done to affect this or my baby starve while im in there!

Won't he get a vasectomy?

Tell him that liars give you the shits.

"the articles" 🙄🙄🤨🤨🤨🤨 men will really invent any old shit to try and get sex, slimy pigs.
Even if those stupid fucking articles exist, they'll be fabricated by such stupid men.

Complete nonsense. There is however a causal link between being a complete twat and having a poorly tummy. His tummy is turning itself over and over, completely beside itself at his nonsense.

He has a 6, 4, 2 yr old and a 3 week old baby.

He should be pulling his weight at home sooooo hard and so often to look after you and the kids that he should be far too tired for anything except perhaps a quick wank.

Has he always been gullible?

I think he’s totally out of order for saying this to you - regardless of whether it’s true or not (not) it’s a nasty way of putting pressure on you 3 WEEKS after you’ve given birth! What the fuck!