Lack of intimacy and stomach problems.

[tillylula]

My husband said to me the other day he keeps seeing posts on social media about how a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men (which he has been getting). He asked if i had been getting them too, or anything along the lines of how important intimacy is. I know it is.

I gave birth to our 4th child just over 3 weeks ago. Towards the end of the pregnancy i was having a lot of pain, braxton hicks and i also had thrush all the way through the pregnancy. We did have sex throughout but the last month i dont think we did anything because i was just too uncomfortable. I did him a few times before baby arrived but since his arrival ive been more focused on surviving the newborn days with a 6, 4 & 2 year old also.

Is there any truth behind the claims or is he pulling my leg?

I did say to him this is an article made by a man for men. All women would be laughing at this. I think in my tired baby brain i just needed to be reassured im not wrong for totally ignoring he has a penis with needs

It's more likely his stomach problems stem from the fact that he's so full of shit!

Tell him you've seen these articles too! In fact, its such a bad problem that male doctors are happy to help ease the pressure at the GP surgery. You just need to ask the receptionist for the male doctor who offers 'personal cytoscopy'. Its a euphemism they'll understand. https://www.bradfordhospitals.nhs.uk/patients-and-visitors/patient-information/rigid-cystoscopy-male/

You deserve better than this. He should be prioritising your well being right now, not his dick. My heart hurts for you

😆 brilliant!

Hes probably not being honest. Are you sure it wasn't a wind up?? If not, maybe you can help him in other ways, doesn't have to be penetrative sex.

I understand why you needed that reassurance but the reality is that you shouldn’t have to ask a bunch of strangers whether your DP, the father of your child, is trying to manipulate you because he thinks you’re so gullible or tired to fall for it.

You are acting like he has higher sexual needs just because he has a penis.

I am assuming that in the month before you gave birth and didn’t want sex, that he still regularly gave you oral sex and used his hands/toys to pleasure you, even if he got nothing in return?

Get away, you think so?! Are you her husband?!

She had a baby 3 weeks ago! Most postpartum women don’t want to be in the same postcode as a penis at that point. She doesn’t have to ‘help him’ do anything. He can sort himself out.

Oh he is a big man baby with his sore "tummy" you have 4 young children and he is pressuring you for attention, that conversation must have put him in a new light op.

Why won’t he get the snip, but is happy for you to undergo yet more stress to your body? Too sore for his precious little winky dink, is it?

I actually find it a bit concerning that you’re being so lighthearted with all of this, op. He sounds fucking vile and he’d definitely need some Buscopan because there’s no way I’d ever be having sex with such a pathetic excuse for a man ever again.

He has hands, doesn’t he?

Ask for DH to send you them
I wouldn't be letting him off ... with read an article..
I would need to see evidence
Which of course doesn't exist
He would be getting a stern talking too as well

This!

what a pest - god some men are so selfish

Your baby is 3wks old and he is trying to manipulate you into sex with lies? What a load of rubbish. He should be ashamed of himself.

You’re making light of this OP but it’s actually pretty disgusting behaviour on your DH’s part. Either he’s so thick he believes this nonsense or he’s manipulating you for his own benefit. Either way, he’s not exactly a prince amongst men.

Please don’t have sex with him unless you’re using contraception. You’ve already had one unplanned baby, another would be a bad idea.

"No pressure but you're making me ill by not having sex with me" tell him to go hump his pillow with a fleshlight tucked in it and sod off. 4 kids incl. A newborn and he's whining about not getting laid.

Also, any man that won't get the snip after his wife has birthed 4 of his children is a bellend.

Him saying he's not pressuring you doesn't make that the case. He is trying to manipulate you.

Can he explain the physiological process where lack of sexual activity could cause abdominal issues? No? I thought not.

Any gastroenterologists in the house want to take this one?

OP you have very young children no way should it be you getting your tubes tied it needs to be him
having a vasectomy ASAP. I told my DH I was not having sex with him again unless he had it. We had 4 kids by this point and I was not having another!

And he’s clearly a sex pest.

I make light of it because if i dont laugh i will cry 😅

I had nothing because i didnt want anything, and still dont! Like another poster said, i dont want to be in the same postcode as a penis right now, and didnt through most of the pregnancy either

he wont. hurrumph

oh well i’d be saying “your body your choice”.

flowed by “i therefore choose to never have sex again because i’m not risking getting pregnant and my body has been through enough to want operated on thank you very much. here’s a big roll and lube. enjoy”

bog roll