Lack of intimacy and stomach problems.

[tillylula]

My husband said to me the other day he keeps seeing posts on social media about how a lack of intimacy can cause stomach problems for men (which he has been getting). He asked if i had been getting them too, or anything along the lines of how important intimacy is. I know it is.

I gave birth to our 4th child just over 3 weeks ago. Towards the end of the pregnancy i was having a lot of pain, braxton hicks and i also had thrush all the way through the pregnancy. We did have sex throughout but the last month i dont think we did anything because i was just too uncomfortable. I did him a few times before baby arrived but since his arrival ive been more focused on surviving the newborn days with a 6, 4 & 2 year old also.

Is there any truth behind the claims or is he pulling my leg?

I accidentally hit YABU - but you most certainly are not. Whatever stomach issues he’s having, you’re going through postnatal which is 100 times worse. Tell him to fucking educate himself. How old is he, 12?

You might know this already, but some don't - you can change your vote to the other option just by clicking on the bar (where it shows e.g 94% YANBU - just click on that).

It's not very obvious (though apologies if you already knew).

Stick into chat gpt can lack of sex cause stomach problems. The answer is no but stress emotions etc can play a part

I would be telling him to do one. He wants to try squeezing something like a melon out of a hole the size of a ping pong ball and see how up do sex he would be after.

horrible puts you right off

He’s lying to you. And it’s abusive. You are only 3 weeks PP it is not safe to have sex yet. DH and I are on month 7 without sex because of a severe health condition… his stomach feels just fine.

@tillylulaif you didn’t want to be near a penis for most of your pregnancy why did you have sex with him for 8 months of it? You don’t owe him sex that you don’t want just because you’re married.

“He wont get the snip.”

No sex then.

I did say im still bleeding. And my stomach is still fine with the lack of sex 🙃

The good thing about getting the snip is that he'd be medically required to wank himself dry many times over. No more poorly tummy and no more babies. Plus he seems like a terrific wanker, it really is all upside for him!

Good God, what an idiot!

My ex husband once told me lack of sex made his balls hurt - I told him to have a wank! He often quoted this afterwards as evidence of my cruel nature....

OBVIOUSLY lack of sex does not cause any physical symptoms - he's insulting your intelligence by spouting this garbage.

Tell him he is welcome to masturbate if he feels sexually frustrated, and to leave you the fuck alone. YES, over time a lack of sexual intimacy does need to be addressed in a relationship if one or both partners are made unhappy by it - but at just three weeks post-partum this is NOT the time to be worrying about such things.

Frankly he needs to grow up! If he is ordinarily an ok bloke, maybe the stress of a newborn is getting to him? But even if that's the case, he's a big boy, he needs to take steps to help himself, not badger his poor wife for sexual release by spouting nonsense.

Congratulations by the way!

I find it quite funny that he asked whether you’ve seen any posts too, when what you see on social media can be influenced by what you’re googling and is also generally gender specific. My boyfriend was once convinced he had low testosterone based on SM posts/ads but I obviously was not also being shown content about low testosterone in men

I read an article you have to give me all your money. Cash, bank transfer doesn't work. That's about as believable as his stomach issues.

Not only is he being an absolute prick but he's interrupting the bonding with your baby which is a biological process and can have really stressful consequences if it doesn't happen. Also if he had an ounce of common sense he'd realise people feel sexier and ready to be intermate when they aren't overwhelmed and stressed

SM convinced me I have several deadly diseases daily and on deaths door. But it's just learnt I have health anxiety and Google symptoms a fair bit

Also he doesn’t have penis needs. He has DESIRES. Needs and desires aren’t the same thing. You don’t die withoutsex so it isn’t a need

He works in IT so you think hed know that.. 🤣

Another post to make me feel very glad I'm not with that man 🤮🤮

He's subtly but totally manipulating you and you've fallen for it x