To think the test must be wrong

[chillidoritto]

I am in a state of hysteria here. I am in the peri and on HRT. We haven’t been particularly careful because I didn’t think I needed to be.

Have been feeling tired, off colour and have had ridiculously sore boobs. Have just had a positive test.

Can the HRT hormones somehow affect the outcome of the test?! This is the hope I am clinging on to.

Anyone?

Just saw the wonderful advice above so a scan might be needed but I'd still recommend the BPAS service as they do have their own facilities for scans as well and it seemed a lot quicker than waiting on referrals etc. I was like you and knew the later into pregnancy I was, the more I'd debate so getting everything sorted quickly was really important for me. (Would have edited my post but realised you can't do that anymore!)

I hope you manage to get some rest. Please don’t beat yourself up. My mum thought she was starting menopause, that menopause turns 35 this year xx

Give over, hardly ‘harsh’

How is it even possible to use abortion as 'contraception'? Abortion cannot prevent conception can it? In fact, conception is a pre-requisite for abortion.

The correct term is birth control. Every single person who terminates, for whatever reason, is using the procedure as birth control.

As is their right to do so, as many times as they need and for any reason at all.

Oh wheesht

so no judgement here unlike some other posters on this thread 🙄

At the point you posted there were literally no pps being judgemental, not even the one who asked a stupid question (and she's denied it anyway).

I often see comments like yours where the poster seems to be basing their response on the responses from previous threads - I mean, there's loads of judgement on MN, but not on this thread .......... yet!

I'll continue reading though. I daresay they're on their way.

sending hugs OP, hope things work out for you x

Im peri menopausal and couldn’t even imagine being pregnant 😳

If you're pregnant you're very likely to miscarry @chillidoritto

Ah lovely, what a shock. Please don't beat yourself up, you won't be the only one. We have had a few menopause pregnancies come through our unit, and I also know of some who have had the same situation as you and have decided to terminate. I totally agree with those recommending BPAS, they will offer a scan and advise you on your options. Please be gentle with yourself, thinking of you x

Mistakes happen. If you were a woman of 48 trying to conceive people would be busily telling you how unlikely it was that you would get pregnant. I would absolutely, in your circumstances, have a termination. The rate of Down Syndrome is about 1 in 12 at your age and that is a huge consideration. I know there are wonderful people who have children with Down Syndrome and talk about the joy they have brought into their lives but I am not one of those people. I had amnio tests with both my children for that precise reason. You already have five children and being 49 years old with a newborn with five other young children sounds disastrous for you and for your existing children.

You are pregnant most likely. See your GP ASAP.

I don’t normally correct spelling and grammar of this posting but I’m making an exception because you’re guilt tripping the OP.
It’s should be baby’s not babies.

And to add to the above, a natural pregnancy to full term at 50 is very rare and you are highly likely to miscarry anyway. This happened to a friend of mine who is 47. It was extremely hard on her emotionally and physically and she bled for months. Consider a termination, the earlier the better. And you need contraception until you are fully menopausal (12 months no period).

Please don't beat yourself up OP, you aren't the first, and you definitely won't be the last. A change of life baby is a well known thing. For some its a blessing, for others a disaster and you have had your babies. Do what you need to.

I don't know anything beyond what you have stated, but all I can say is I wish you the very best in a situation that is obviously very difficult. Only you know the totality of your life and your family circumstances. Only you can make the right decision for you and your family. Whatever that decision is, I hope you have peace and good health. Please don't call yourself stupid. You should not accept being called stupid by anyone, including yourself. Nobody should judge you, period. This includes yourself.

You are not stupid just thought you couldn't get pregnant.

Wow - there is so much projection and ‘I did this so you should do the same’ on this thread with a lot of nasty ‘ableist’ comments too.

OP, yes positive test means you are pregnant. Speak to your partner and medical professionals. Get in real life support.

You don’t owe anyone an update.

OP I really feel for you. I wish you peace in whatever steps you take from here--you've done nothing wrong, and your choices, whatever they are, are valid.

Hope you are okay, OP x

OP, just wanted to give you a handhold. Really hope you are ok.

This is for others reading who don’t wish to end up in the same situation.

At 50, I had passed the no periods for 12 months stage. Then, we went away for 8 weeks on a group trip. From our almost all male household, we now had three term girls with us. The girls were in synch and guess who started having periods again! Totally caught me by surprise as that kept going for another six months, like a final curtain call. So I can totally see how this can happen.

Wishing you all the best as you navigate this op. You owe nobody any explanations for your choices.

A 6th child at age 49? Yes that would be pretty bad.

OP if you are pregnant you can terminate easily and quickly with a tablet. Don't panic.