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To think the test must be wrong

404 replies

chillidoritto · 16/02/2026 16:37

I am in a state of hysteria here. I am in the peri and on HRT. We haven’t been particularly careful because I didn’t think I needed to be.

Have been feeling tired, off colour and have had ridiculously sore boobs. Have just had a positive test.

Can the HRT hormones somehow affect the outcome of the test?! This is the hope I am clinging on to.

Anyone?

OP posts:
loislovesstewie · 17/02/2026 09:16

I had a client who had 2 children in her early 50s. Yes, she did give birth to them. I'm absolutely sure of that. A woman who is still menstruating can still get pregnant. Even when menstruation ceases it's still possible for an egg to be released,after 50 it's 1 year after the last period to be totally sure.

TallulahBetty · 17/02/2026 09:17

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 16/02/2026 17:35

Would it be so bad to have a baby?

shut upppp

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 17/02/2026 09:21

Thinking of you, @chillidoritto, I hope you’ve had a good night’s sleep and have managed to get a speedy appointment with BUPA who will hopefully clarify things for you, and give you your options. There is no need to feel guilty about your situation, nor about making the decision which is best for you and your family. I wish you well. Flowers

reabies · 17/02/2026 09:23

OP I'm so sorry you're going through this. The older I get the more I realise being able to get pregnant/have a baby really feels like a lifelong minefield for most women!

It was hammered into me as a teen to avoid pregnancy at all costs, to not even look at a boy so as not to run the risk, then when I came to actually wanting babies it turned out to not be so easy as that. Plus many friends who've had an extremely difficult route to parenthood. And now on the other end when you think you're all done with that there's the potential for a last hurrah and you're facing a very difficult decision.

I hope you get the support you need, from your DH, your healthcare provider and nice posters here. Ignore the judgement. Everyone is perfect until they are faced with a tough decision. Best of luck.

Smithie4 · 17/02/2026 09:34

loislovesstewie · 17/02/2026 09:16

I had a client who had 2 children in her early 50s. Yes, she did give birth to them. I'm absolutely sure of that. A woman who is still menstruating can still get pregnant. Even when menstruation ceases it's still possible for an egg to be released,after 50 it's 1 year after the last period to be totally sure.

I also had a client who gave birth to two children in her 50s. But she did tell me hers were donor eggs.

Bloozie · 17/02/2026 09:34

Much love to you. I'm 47 with only one child and I know that if I fell pregnant, I would terminate the pregnancy. If you are indeed pregnant, I wish you love and luck whatever your decision. Your posts are full of shame, presumably at 'letting' this happen - please try not to feel so bad. If you are pregnant, it is an astonishingly long shot, and accidents can happen to any woman at any age. Thankfully, for now we still live in a country where women have bodily autonomy and choices. I hope your partner and healthcare provider support yours.

Volpini · 17/02/2026 09:39

Sending you so much love and support, OP.
You owe no one on here - or off here - an explanation. Your body, your life, your choice.
I appreciate this is distressing and stressful. Hope you get answers and options you are comfortable with really really quickly.
sending a huge hug.

SonsRfab · 17/02/2026 09:42

Oh goodness I really feel for you @chillidoritto .

I hope you're not pg but sounds as if you are. Sending love and unmumsnetty hugs ❤️

Wheresthebeach · 17/02/2026 09:43

Completely understand how you feel OP, but try not to beat yourself up (two people took the risk). Giving birth at 50 isn't a joke, and not to be undertaken lightly for a whole variety of reasons, including that you've already got 5 kids. Hope it's a false alarm.

Loveapineapplepizzame · 17/02/2026 09:47

OP I completely understand your reasoning on not wanting an additional child. We have 4 between us, both mid 40s and we had the same situation. The thought of going back to baby stage when I had just got my career back and I too was hitting menopause.

We made the choice and long term I believe it to be the right one - although part of me still wonders what if. It’s your body - and thank goodness we are still in control of being able to make our own decisions on pregnancy

Mrsblobby88 · 17/02/2026 10:02

Op, please don't listen to the idiotic judgemental morons who think they are oh so perfect!
you have choices and you will absolutely be ok. Sending love xx

Ramblethroughthebrambles · 17/02/2026 10:03

quince2figs · 16/02/2026 22:36

Hi OP - I’m a consultant gynaecologist specialising in contraception and menopause. I’m sorry you are in this difficult situation. I worked in termination services for 20 years.

For clarity (and to correct some info given by PPs):

  • HRT or perimenopause cannot cause a false positive pregnancy test
  • positive PTs are invariably correct in my 26 year experience in this field -apart from when someone has done the test incorrectly (reading after 30 mins, for example, or using an ovulation test in error
  • PT can be a false negative after 16 weeks of pregnancy, but I find this is not the case for many pregnancies
  • Contraception is advised up to 55y if a woman is sexually active, whether on HRT or not, but this should have been explicitly discussed with you and an appropriate method supplied by your HRT provider, which would usually be your GP. It is a failing on their part not to have done so
  • Chances of conceiving at 49y are however much lower than at 19y or 29y … you’ve been unlucky

Your positive test means there is pregnancy tissue producing BhCG, the initial pregnancy hormone. However, because perimenopause and HRT can cause irregular or no bleeds, and because any scheduled bleeds on HRT are not periods (but withdrawal bleeds, similar to being on the combined contraceptive pill), it’s difficult to date your pregnancy from last bleed accurately.

Also, as with any pregnancy, there is a chance it may not continue, and miscarriage is much more likely at 49y than when younger. This could mean you have a heavy bleed at some stage, no bleed, or what feels like a late normal period, depending on type of miscarriage and gestation.

Ectopic pregnancy must always be considered and excluded too - please, if you have any symptoms of this (dark or watery vaginal loss, low abdominal or pelvic pain, especially if on one side, shoulder tip pain, feeling unwell or faint) please attend A&E without delay, calling an ambulance or someone driving you there. Not trying to alarm you, but ectopics are common and can be dangerous if not treated https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ectopic-pregnancy/

You absolutely need a scan for gestation and site of the pregnancy; if you are early (less than 6 weeks, dated from LMP which is not so helpful here) it may be that the first ultrasounds scan is inconclusive.

Depending on where you live and how your local services are arranged, some Early Pregnancy Units would see you for a scan, and you may need GP to refer or be able to self-refer. My local area EPAU would not see you unless you had symptoms of and ectopic or miscarriage, and don’t take self-referrals (sorry not helpful I know!).

Most termination services in England are provide by third-sector organisations (BPAS, MSI or NUPAS) and most take self-referrals. They are usually your quickest option for a scan, and attending there does not mean you need to proceed with a termination. A termination sounds like an extremely valid option for you, and you will not be judged.
.Another caution - may terminations are now carried out remotely if a woman chooses a tablet option (Early Medical Abortion = EMA). It is not safe for you to have an EMA without a scan as explained above; sometimes TOP nursing staff do not have much gynaecology/menopause knowledge and may be unaware.

Sounds like your best bet is to see GP tomorrow if possible, who can advise on local TOP and EPAU access, and best way to arrange a scan. I hope you can access what you need without delay, and that care is good.

Wishing you all the best.

Just checking you've seen this post amongst all the others OP.

Wishing you all the best. This could so easily happen to so many women x

MiddleAgedDread · 17/02/2026 10:05

oh man, we need to be more careful, been getting complacent about contraception recently and my cycle (even with HRT) is so irregular there's been a couple of worrying months! I have wondered if HRT affects the result of pregnancy tests though so i'll be interested to see what the outcome is. Fingers crossed for you 💐

Abd80 · 17/02/2026 10:19

It’s not the HRT. There’s no hcg hormone in hrt.
I’m not sure how old you are-but I had a baby age 44 and it all worked out well.
id phone your gp to double check the test and go through your options
good luck

DotAndCarryOne2 · 17/02/2026 10:23

Pearshapedpear · 16/02/2026 23:59

Give over, hardly ‘harsh’

Not exactly coming from a place of concern for an OP aged 49 and who already has five kids though is it ?

CanIGoHomeNowPlease · 17/02/2026 10:37

MiddleAgedDread · 17/02/2026 10:05

oh man, we need to be more careful, been getting complacent about contraception recently and my cycle (even with HRT) is so irregular there's been a couple of worrying months! I have wondered if HRT affects the result of pregnancy tests though so i'll be interested to see what the outcome is. Fingers crossed for you 💐

I’ve had to go to the chemist twice in the last 3 months for the MAP at the grand old age of 48. It’s been horrifically stressful. So much so my husband is off the snip next month. I am not having a baby at this age. No judgement here OP just handholding and support x

Cardomomle · 17/02/2026 10:39

Take the Doc's advice. It's not a risk free situation, so the sooner you're checked out and sorted, the sooner you can take control of the situation. I hope it goes ok for you, it must be crazy stressful.

pontipinemum · 17/02/2026 10:40

Wanted to send support. x

MiddleAgedDread · 17/02/2026 10:43

CanIGoHomeNowPlease · 17/02/2026 10:37

I’ve had to go to the chemist twice in the last 3 months for the MAP at the grand old age of 48. It’s been horrifically stressful. So much so my husband is off the snip next month. I am not having a baby at this age. No judgement here OP just handholding and support x

yikes, i've not hit the MAP yet, although maybe should have done but was relying on it being a very infertile time of the month. He keeps talking about the snip but i feel like i might need to push the conversation further given he doesn't like wearing condoms (who does??)

Cardomomle · 17/02/2026 10:46

MiddleAgedDread · 17/02/2026 10:43

yikes, i've not hit the MAP yet, although maybe should have done but was relying on it being a very infertile time of the month. He keeps talking about the snip but i feel like i might need to push the conversation further given he doesn't like wearing condoms (who does??)

It's an easier solution than you having an unwanted pregnancy that could affect you physically and psychologically.

BashfulClam · 17/02/2026 10:52

It can and does happen. My friend was born when her mum was 50. Her mum thought her symptoms were the menopause and the youngest in the family was 21. Her sisters are more like Aunties to her than actual sisters as they had left home when she came along.

Muffsies · 17/02/2026 10:53

ClaireEclair · 17/02/2026 07:25

I’m peri and last year had several positive pregnancy tests. Was shocked as I was convinced it wouldn’t be possible. Booked in to the clinic but when I tested again before going it was negative. It just went away and I got my period a month later. I had to say my GP was not very helpful during.

Several? That's really interesting. I'm sure i had a 'phamtom pregnancy' recently, complete with sore breasts and morning sickness. I also had a very heavy period afterwards. There's absolutely no way i can be pregnant as i've had both my tubes removed, there's zero chance an egg can get to my womb. I wish I'd done a pg test now to see if it was positive. Peri is a very strange.

Do you think you were actually pregnant, or could it've been a hormonal thing?

Justgorgeous · 17/02/2026 10:56

chillidoritto · 16/02/2026 23:20

I’m going to go to bed now. DH said he will support me with whatever I decide. I just hope it is only very early on. That might make my decision a little easier (although not much).

Thank you for all the supportive messages. I will update.

Sending a hug. Sounds like you have a supportive husband. 🌸

Muffsies · 17/02/2026 10:58

Abd80 · 17/02/2026 10:19

It’s not the HRT. There’s no hcg hormone in hrt.
I’m not sure how old you are-but I had a baby age 44 and it all worked out well.
id phone your gp to double check the test and go through your options
good luck

There's no HCG in HRT, but your body can produce it during peri.

Elleoeez · 17/02/2026 11:00

Moen · 16/02/2026 21:18

Who is asking for your sympathy?

The OP, or any woman, can choose to have sex without contraception, and then choose to end any pregnancy that arises from that.

You don’t have to like it, but it doesn’t stop it being the truth.

Yes, it’s ’the truth’ but does it make it okay?