Literally does not care

[Myfannyhurtsagain]

I need to write this in here cos I need to know if I’m going mad or not.

Me and DP use dildos sometimes along with other toys, we haven’t in a while cos they make me spot and I get so sore. We found one the other day tucked away in the cupboard well, I found it and I thought I’d use it to surprise him with. I did that and he loved it. Problem is it gave me the worst thrush I’ve ever had in my life , on top of that I’m on the pill so I suffer with dryness and I used no lube so now I’ve also got friction burns.

DP wanted me to do the same thing tonight. Despite me telling him earlier before we used it again I need to get lube, he said ok. I’ve also got one more treatment left to use up to get rid of this thrush. He’s now forgotten what he said and that he never agreed with me that we needed to use lube.

apparently I always use excuses all the time and other women would just do it? I’m sorry but I can’t even open my legs properly im so fucking sore and uncomfortable. I only used it for him in the first place anyway cos I knew he liked it🤣 and also on the pill for him cos he refuses to wear condoms and refuses to get the snip.

is this normal behaviour ? Do I need to just suck it up and stop being a drama queen ? He’s now sleeping downstairs refusing to speak to me cos his needs aren’t met 🤷🏻‍♀️ I wish I could meet his needs but my fanny is fucking sore , it stings so bad when I wee. I’ll be going back to the gp on Monday cos it hasn’t even cleared up!

Go and stick it up his bum. Happy Valentines.

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It's your vagina. What goes in it and how, is YOUR choice.

If he wants to use a dildo, it can always be inserted into him.

I have made reference to this before to which he wasn’t impressed with. Honestly hes pissed me right off

Dump him, he sounds like an absolute loser.

I’ve told him he needs to realise vaginas aren’t just sexual objects. You can’t just stick anything in them without thinking nothing will happen. But that’s his problem, he just thinks it’s used for sexual purposes

YABU - to yourself by staying with this man who clearly sees you as a hole to service "his needs".

Fucking vile waste of skin.

I mean… he’s a piece of shit with the brain capacity of a rutting animal.

Normally I’d recommend castration but that’s frowned upon for some reason.

He's an abusive twat who doesn't give a shit about you. Sorry. Hope you can leave him without him getting even more abusive 🥺

Sounds like on top of thrush you've got a douche bag on your hands. Those are terrible for vag health. Toss him.

Without lube.

why are you with him?

• Yeah, you can get rid of him, I think, and never feel regret.

• Failing that, he needs treatment for thrush before he comes near you again. Paint him with gentian violet which gets the job done properly.

No that’s not normal. It’s abusive to try to coerce your partner into doing something sexual they don’t want to do. It’s sexual and emotional abuse.

This is really quite abusive behaviour, he's trying to force you in to doing something with emotional manipulation. He doesn't think you matter at all, you're there to "meet his needs" and he doesn't care at all about your wellbeing or wants.

Throw this one back op, there's no way he isn't abusive in other ways too if he thinks this is an acceptable way to behave.

I don't think most women would "put up" with this. As for his needs not being met words almost fail me. How is it that he needs you to shove in a large dildo without lubrication while you are in agony with thrush and other damage by the sound of it. The only positive I can see is that when you throw this nasty creep out or you leave, at least you won't need to divorce him. I hope you don't have children with him.

He's disgusting. The only correct answer here is you'd be unreasonable not to ltb.

Oh and as for him saying what "other women" would do, that again is him being abusive and trying to make you feel inadequate or small.

And as it happens I don't think a single woman on this earth would happily have a dry dildo shoved up them when they've got a raging case of thrush......unless they were being abused of course.

He has no concern for your welfare. That's not normal.

The very least these shitty men should do is be good at sex, and he's not even that.

Wait 24 hours, print off this thread and give it to him as you walk out the door (for ever).

He’s now forgotten what he said and that he never agreed with me that we needed to use lube.

First of all, he hasn't forgotten.

Second, you don't need to ask him or for him to agree.
You said you need to use lube, it's your body so that's the end of it.

But what he doesn't seem to realise is it's irrelevant if he's forgotten, or even if he agreed with you earlier.

You're saying you need lube, that's the end of it. It's your body.

You don't need him to agree with you.

He's awful, you don't have to set yourself on fire to please him, and what sort of man takes pleasure from anything that causes you so much pain and discomfort??

I strongly recommend putting tea tree oil in his shower gel.

Then use it as lube and stuck it up his bum.