Dd’s friends mum always saying she doesn’t like what Dd makes

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A few times now, Dd (7) has made her best friend at school little things-boxes with hearts in or card’s with glitter etc.
Dd has mentioned that each time she gives her best friend something she’s made, her friend says that she loves it but her mum said she doesn’t like it. This has happened a few times, seems odd?

It is an odd thing for the friend and her mum to say. That said, when you say cards with glitter…do you mean glitter pens? Or do you mean glitter sprinkled on or in the card which when falls out onto clothing and carpets etc?

She put glitter on one card-stuck on with glue, appreciate this could be annoying, but to say she doesn’t like it…seems mean

You can't do a lot can you? It sounds a bit darft. Mayby stop gifting? Glitter from things can be a nightmare tbh to have around.

Tbf I think it is likely the glitter she objects to

Maybe she’s trying to give them to her mum and the mum is saying, ‘thanks, but it’s not really my thing, your friend made it for you, you keep it’.

I’m wondering if she doesn’t like my Dd, or is that being a bit paranoid!

Yes maybe, but only one had it I think

Did the mum say she didn’t like it directly to your DD? Or is the best friend telling your DD what her mum said at home? Those are two different things.

Did the mum say she didn’t like it directly to your DD? Or is the best friend telling your DD what her mum said at home? Those are two different things.

You can’t really trust a 7 year old’s interpretation of what the mother has said.

Glitter can be an absolute pain in the arse. Maybe encourage your dd to make something for her friend that she can keep at school. A bookmark for her reading book?

I really dislike having lots of tat in my house if I'm really honest. I'd never tell my dd's but I do limit them around how many pictures etc they can hold onto. Obviously we keep special stuff but I having clutter really impacts on how I feel, so I have to strike a balance.

Maybe the kid is fibbing? Maybe it's the glitter? Maybe their house is full of junk and she doesn't want more coming home.

Ask the mum. Frame it as you wanting to put a stop to it if it's causing hassle if you feel awkward.

She just doesn't want tat covered in glitter!

Is the friend expecting to display it somewhere? It’s bad enough trying to find space to display my own childrens’ questionable tut art, never mind other children’s.

Maybe the friend doesn’t like the gifts but doesn’t want to say this directly so is shifting the blame onto her mum?

I think I would treat this with a massive bucket of salt - I'm not suggesting that either your DD or her friend are lying, just that they're 7 and prone to misinterpreting! It may be as innocent as the mum having unrelatedly saying she doesn't like pink, or the friend asking whether it's better than HER drawing and mum saying no. I wouldn't talk to the mum about it - either it's a misunderstanding or she is telling a 7 year old unprompted that she doesn't like her art, in which case she's a loon.

I am struggling to see why the mum would tell her daughter she didn't like little home made gifts from her little friend?

Is there a chance the child is being a bit mean, (is telling fibs) or that she misunderstood what the mum said?

Probably the glitter or she sees it as tat or both. Mind you, you can’t really trust a 7 year old’s interpretation.

What a horrible thing of the mum to do. When my eldest was in reception there was a little girl there who made ME a drawing. Every day. Sometimes it was just random bits of paper she cut. I always bent down to her level, smiled and said thank you, how kind, its lovely etc. Adults need to teach children kindess, the mum sounds horrible.

I have a 7 year old. I have his “art” projects until I can get rid of them. Having another kids crafts here would be my worst nightmare 🤣

You don’t even know if the mum has said anything - stop taking the 2nd hand story from a 7yo as gospel 🫣

Probably got enough art projects with glitter on them from her own dd. Don’t suppose she wants any more.

Kid wants to put other kid’s artwork in the living room. Mum says “oh no, keep it in your room you like it but I don’t like it as much as you do”.

This could easily translate to my mum doesn’t like what you made but I do. I suspect it’s a tool the mum is using rather than her saying she actually doesn’t like it (although she probably actually doesn’t like it, who likes hand made crafts from a child they don’t love)

Is this mum not at all concerned about alienating her daughter's friends?

And then put it in the bin 😂