Dd’s friends mum always saying she doesn’t like what Dd makes

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A few times now, Dd (7) has made her best friend at school little things-boxes with hearts in or card’s with glitter etc.
Dd has mentioned that each time she gives her best friend something she’s made, her friend says that she loves it but her mum said she doesn’t like it. This has happened a few times, seems odd?

So the mum is saying her dd doesn't like it? Who does the mum say it to?

Not directly to Dd
Her best friend says each time ‘My mum said she doesn’t like it, but I love it’

I can't imagine any adult saying they don't like any child's art really. Honestly, what sort of a curmudgeon does that? Very strange behaviour from the mum.

Honestly, I've mustered a "how colourful" or "how kindly meant" for even the most tat-like art! Not that I'm saying there's anything wrong with your dd's art, I just think criticising a young dc's efforts is very strange.

Oh, in light of this update, I'd just assume the other dc is stirring and the mum never actually said that!

I know, it’s odd to me too. This girl seems very sweet and Dd has never mentioned her being unkind or saying anything unkind before

Her mum may not have commented directly that she doesn’t like it. But in all fairness I chuck all my kids arts and craft in the bin after a few days. We have no space for it. So I’m definitely not exited to receive someone else’s kids crafts.

To her Dd…apparently

Honestly I have to put up with all the various crap lovely art my daughter makes and store long enough for her to not notice I've chucked it. When her friends also give her lovingly made shite art I tend to feel hateful thoughts about it. There is only so much room in our house and DD room to store this stuff.

Stop getting so personally involved. The intended audience your daughter's friend loves it. Her mum isn't the intended audience.

Hmmm..It just seems an odd thing for as adult to say. It could've been something like the kid gets out all her craft stuff and toys and these bits that the other kid made, and makes a big mess. The mum says she doesn't like the mess and the kid is equating it with the gifts? That or glitter got everywhere.

This. The child could me misinterpreting what was said. Or she could be fibbing.

This seems a heck of a lot more likely than the friends mum directly telling her child she doesn't like the cards and gifts.

Well yes, but not great for Dd and when she asks me why her best friends mum never likes her drawing etc!

Actually your update makes more sense to me - there are a lot of scenarios where the wee girl might want to put it on the mantelpiece/middle of the table/wherever and the mum just can't take clutter or having even more kids' crafts on display, and so it gets relegated by the mum saying she doesn't really like it there, or similar.

Of course it could be nasty! But I think there's also a more innocuous possibility.

Agreed. It sounds like the child might be trying to be kind and tactful in a misguided way!

When I was in primary school my friend got me a heart shaped soft toy. My mother had an issue with it because it was a heart and kept asking me if we were lesbians...
I didn't even really know what a lesbian was as this was years ago and there wasn't many lesbians who were out
So random thought but could it be that?
Her mum's a raging homophobe like mine?

I think its lovely your DD makes things for her best friend. And it's not unusual as lots of kids draw and make things for each other.

I wonder whether the other mum thinks it's all a bit over the top getting loads of handmade gifts or embarrassed that her DD doesn't reciprocate? Some parents hate getting all their own kid's arts and crafts from school let alone extra from friends. The glitter would definitely piss me off as it gets everywhere.

Yes. It is.

Possibly selective hearing from dd’s friend.
’It’s lovely but ‘I don’t like it’ as much as yours’.

And that’s your opportunity to explain to your DD that everyone is different and we all like different things. We different tastes in pictures just the same as we have different tastes in food and drinks. Her friends Mum might not be being nasty about the stuff, she could be having a conversation along the lines of ‘well, you like it but it wouldn’t be my choice’.

maybe ask if its the glitter and if so ditch the glitter

This.

What actually springs to mind for me is nothing to do with the glitter. It's kids being kids. Your DD's friend has likely said to her mum 'do you like it better than mine' or is trying to give your daughter a backhanded compliment.

I wouldn't make a big deal of it if I were you.

It's a strange and somewhat tactless thing for the little girl to say, but kids are strange and tactless!

If it's upsetting your daughter, suggest she stops making things for this friend.

I doubt anyone is being deliberately malicious here.

I immediately picture this as a constant flow of party bags' tat coming into the house... Or the dozens of painted egg trays from nursery... Except that your child is old enough to understand when you're discreetly getting rid of it all in the recycling bin 😱

More seriously, it does come across as mean, but I imagine that from the other mum's perspective she has to explain to her daughter somehow why they can't keep all that stuff in their house. Particularly glittery things that will make a mess.
I'm struggling enough with my 4 yo, it must difficult to explain to a 7 yo without being brutally honest.
I would think that neither the friend nor her mum is trying to be hurtful.

It seems a bit odd for an adult to turn to a chidk and say "I don't like that" about a handmade gift.

She probably has enough craft projects of her own DD never mind your DD adding to them. And as they are a gift probably feels she has to keep/display them longer