Anonymous valentines card from a woman in my street

[TheReaderIs]

I’ve just received an anonymous valentines card from a woman in my street. The card had a stamp on it and it said “The woman within” and my address! The card mentions her seeing me walking to my bus and how she waits for her husband and kids to go out and…well! She says she’s bisexual and she goes into detail about what she wants to do to me…omg!

The card was posted first class, why pay for a stamp lol. Could this be a hoax? It was quite specific about seeing me walking to my bus.

I’m separated from my ex - could it be him or his family playing a prank? Or do I have a randy, bisexual neighbour??

I dunno what to think! 🙈

I agree this definitely points the finger at your ex. Was he intimidating or controlling in other ways? When did you separate?

The card itself is kind of silly and light-hearted and I could just about imagine a woman buying it.

But the fact they said all this graphic sexual stuff is really out of order and I don't believe a woman would write that to a stranger. If she fancied you she'd say something to try and encourage you to meet or guess who she was. Not just a load of dirty things she wants to do?!

I'd say it's simply too odd to be genuine. I doubt a woman did It, even as a joke? It must be your ex's family or local kids or something.

It's probably a pervy man. The bit about them masturbating while the husband and kids are out the house seems like some kind of fantasy a man thinks of a woman doing. And if it is a woman it's a very strange one to actually go to the trouble of buying and posting a card and writing an explicit message to a stranger.

I agree. It's super creepy and stalkerish, and I am willing to bet that it's not a woman. This has hallmarks of a man all over it. No woman - bi, or gay, or straight is going to be writing a card to another woman (that she doesn't know) telling her about the things she wants to do to her. 🙄 It's a man with a lesbian fantasy.

It's fairly obvious why this person has used a stamp though. If they had put it through the letterbox themselves, there is a risk of being seen! Loads of people have ring doorbells, and some people are plain nosey, and someone would see them putting the card through the letterbox. (Even someone who isn't nosey could see them!)

@TheReaderIs I am willing to bet that this is a teenager's prank, or a man who fancies you! (The teenager might fancy you too!) I would ignore it though and not tell anyone about it. Don't give whoever it is the pleasure of knowing you got the card.

edited to say I just read the info you posted about your ex. Maybe it could be him...?

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That or the OP has a fetish for knobs of butter.

I put it down to watching too much James Martin cooking with many “knobs of butter”.

🤣🤣 I like butter but not that much 🤣

He was controlling in other ways and thats why I left. He could be both lovely and very nasty. His mother was a lunatic and ex has mentioned how much she despises me now and how I’m lucky as she could make my life hell - lucky me!

It’s a fairly recent separation-7 months. It’s definitely not amicable.

I agree that it's most likely a man in this particular case, because of the specific wording the OP quoted.

However, based on personal experience, I disagree that No woman - bi, or gay, or straight is going to be writing a card to another woman (that she doesn't know) telling her about the things she wants to do to her.

Female stalkers definitely do write that kind of letter. In a previous job, I worked with some actors who had a big fanbase among gay women and they received some absolutely deranged stuff from other women, including very explicit and stalkerish letters.

Basically, when someone has the kind of disordered mental state that makes them genuinely obsessive about someone they've never spoken to, all bets are off and women are every bit as creepy as men when they're in the grip of that kind of obsession.

It's definitely him.

It's not genuine. Most likely your ex.

And it's actually quite an aggressive thing to do: to think about it in advance, choose a card, write it, post it. And its taken two people because you don't recognise the writing, so two of them have sat down to wrote those disgusting things. Which women dont really do btw. Men do things to invade our space, they use their penises to assert power (dick pics etc) Is it feminine writing?

I'd keep it, say nothing and see if it escalates into stalking.

I’d bet on it being him. And unfortunately I think it’s fairly worrying as it’s quite batshit vindictive behaviour. I’m glad you’re shot of him but if I were you I’d have a low threshold for getting police involved if anything else happens. He may escalate things if this doesn’t meet whatever fucked up need he’s trying to meet.

I actually think I'd put it on Facebook and say you're received a vile and unwanted card and perhaps tag your local police to ask if they have any advice to deter this sort of thing.

Word will get back to them that you're taking it seriously and someone may recognise the writing and dm you.

Don't do this. The sender will get a kick out of the fact it has bothered you, plus it will open you up to unwanted attention from any other local weirdos.

It could be Vladimir from number 72 or Ivan from just by the Londis

From the language it’s your ex MIL/FIL - my guess is FIL as the MIL probably wouldn’t engage in sexual language unless it was meant to threaten and intimidate you. The FIL (you said he was pervy) is probably getting off on this. Also the style of card is probably something an older person would pick as opposed to a sexier/ more modern one. Ew.